To report sister to social services after latest revelation from niece?

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In short, there have been several questionable incidents and the latest one has me reeling and wanting to report her to social services. My toddler nephew was holding his finger and grizzling, and I noticed a small scar. So I asked my niece (who is just under 5) what happened, and she said 'he cut it on daddy's razor and it bled a lot'. My first reaction: disbelief and speechless. So I asked her exactly what happened. She said he picked up daddy's razor and cut himself on it. There was a lot of blood.

What the hell do I do with this? There are other incidents: left alone in bath, left alone to watch TV while mum sleeps upstairs, ... Is this none of my business or should I just report?

I don't think you should offer support. I feel sorry for the sister who has no idea about you and your opinions and intentions and would be limiting contact with you.
Why is it you haven't asked your sister about any of the 'revelations'?

Sometimes though smurfy children do not know what to say when asked what is wrong.

I have a feeling there is a back story here we are expected to know and remember- but OP, there are thousands of posters on MN and thousands of threads: if there is information (drug use, alcohol) which is relevant to your post, then you really do need to put it in the OP.

I shaved my eyebrows off when I was a kid 😂
No it doesnt warrant a SS referral OP.
You've posted about her before haven't you?

For me, it's always about thinking of the child. If my sister had a few incidents, I would intervene, I'd talk to her, get any other family involved, talk to the father. It's tricky as the goal is to up safety for the kids, and she needs to be able to listen, she might get really defensive. Maybe it's worth phoning childline yourself, talking it over.

The leaving in the bath is the most concerning for me.

I would also start babysitting, regularly, to keep an eye on things and help out. I would even offer to do the bathtime. To get a better relationship with your sister too. SS may not intervene or if they do it might be ages.

Also my niece who is now grown up, i recall her when she was 4 proudly telling me, she was going to auntie D (who lives 200 miles) away on her on ............................with granny.

The granny bit was after a pause but at first sounding people thought she planned to go herself, it was her first trip away without one of the siblings

@opheliacat I agree, however the same teacher when during the rest of my years in primary whenever i would be sent to her classroom with a message she would tell the class that story as she was worried for me at first but it all worked out in the end

Are you always this dramatic?

Totally ridiculous unless there is some massive backstory.

It's odd that your instinct is to call social services rather than finding out if you can help your sister in some way.

But I agree that you are probably not the person to offer support, given this is your instinct.

"Kenny Dalglish had broked his leg" :o

Offer to help your sister first, please

FFS

It was an accident. They happen

A (nearly) 5 year old can watch TV downstairs by themselves.

Overreaction much

The sister has (or has had) PND but OP clearly thinks she hasn't been properly punished for it. Sounds like a remarkably toxic family, with parents and OP forever treating this sister as a selfish, naughty kid who doesn't know her place.

I doubt that SS would care. Maybe you could buy them some more storage furniture/baby safety devices to avoid a similar situation ? Bit concerned about him being left alone in the bath-how longis he alone for? Where did you hear this from-your niece or your sister?

You have posted about this before OP ages ago

If there is more than what you have said and you are genuinely worried about the wellbeing and safety of the dc, and you have tried offering help which has been rejected... Then yes, contact ss. But going solely by what you've said here, I don't think that's necessary.

'@Weebo a 5 year is very grammatically correct you know?

I was conserned when you said they had been left in the bath on their own. But following what credulousthickos said, I read your thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2985163-Phone-call-gone-bad
and I have to wonder if your motivations for phoning ss are entirely honorable.
Maybe you should either help your sister or leave her alone.

If there's been several question instances why are you leaving your toddler with her?

Fucking hell. My kid fished a razor out of a bathroom bin whilst they were having a poo. They cut themselves badly. I asked them why they did it. ‘ I wanted to see how sharp it was’

Why don’t you offer your sister some support? You sound very judgemental

Does she let them watch too much tv as well? Perhaps she doesn’t give them organic food either.

Yeah. Call SS. They will be very interested

The only thing that I would wonder about is that your sister was apparently sleeping on her bed upstairs whilst the DC were downstairs watching TV. Had she been drinking? If not then it may have been only once and she was exhausted that day. My DD2 (5) had a bad night recently and I was knackered the next day. (Thankfully it was the weekend and DH was at home.)

As for the accident, seriously these things happen with toddlers, I trapped my thumb in a door at 3 and the scars can still be seen today. It really isn't something to hold against your sister, she must have felt so awful about it.

Don't call SS unless your sister was asleep because she was drunk and it's a regular thing. Just be supportive, it's more likely the case that she's exhausted and maybe a trip to the doctor would be sensible in case she's anemic.

And actually I'd forgotten about the bath issue. If that's true that is worrying. You need to ask your sister.