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AIBU?

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Original poster

To take 2yo to toddler group after a temp in the night?

26 replies

Mamabear4180 · 22/09/2017 08:45

2 year old has been poorly since Wednesday afternoon. Temps around 38.6-38.7 which have come down after calpol, hoarce voice, slight cough and lethargic. Her last temp was around 11pm last night.

This morning she seems 'fine' no temp and playing but still chesty sounding. Aibu to go to toddler group? We'd be out 10-12.30 then come home and chill. Temps don't usually last more than a couple of days so I'm thinking that's likely the end of it?

I also have a 14 month old and we've only been out one morning this week to soft play and had a short walk yesterday with 2yo bundled up in the buggy with blankets just for fresh air.

We normally go to 4-5 toddler groups a week so I feel a bit stir crazy! Thoughts?

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AtHomeDadGlos · 22/09/2017 08:49

YWBU to take them.

NoCapes · 22/09/2017 08:51

Yes of course YABU
You just said she sounds chesty still, so it wouldn't be fair on her while she's ill or on the other kids at toddler group to make them ill

Fibbertigibbet · 22/09/2017 08:52

Just because your child was able to get over a bug quickly doesn't mean that all children will. Children have this age have tiny airways which if they become sick can in some cases cause them to really struggle to breathe and require hospital attention. YABU.

DancingLedge · 22/09/2017 08:53

And possibly spread an infection to babies and pregnant women?
Yabu

RB68 · 22/09/2017 08:53

Sorry - just pop to the coffee shop while she naps in her chair - you would be exposing too many others at a play group - spreading germs on all toys etc just as you are going a bit stir crazy - not fair

Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 22/09/2017 08:54

Stay in for another day, you don't want another child to catch what your dd has do you?

Camomila · 22/09/2017 08:56

Bundle then up warm and take them to the park with a rug/toys for the little one and a ball/scooter for the big one? Fresh air for everyone and less chance of passing things on?

NoCapes · 22/09/2017 09:01

Yes just to elaborate on what Fibbert said too, my eldest DS has respiratory issues so "a bit chesty" to him at that age would've meant a 4 or 5 night stay in hospital on oxygen, steroids and nebulisers
At 22 months he caught a chest infection and ended up in hospital for almost 3 weeks with pneumonia

It's just not worth the risk because you're a bit bored

Spudlet · 22/09/2017 09:03

Don't do it, poorly toddlers are terrible. And they're all over each other at that age, so if she's at all infectious someone is blind to catch whatever it is. Why inflict that on others?

TheNoodlesIncident · 22/09/2017 09:05

She's got a virus of some sort!

Please just stick to walks in the fresh air like you've been doing

Original poster
Mamabear4180 · 22/09/2017 09:13

Oh wow thanks for the replies! I was genuinely expecting to be told I'm being daft/neurotic!

I really don't think the chesty sounds are likely to lead to hospital! It's just a virus I think. She's honestly fine in herself and seems over the worst. No snotty nose or anything. Would she pass it on at this stage then? (Not that she plays with other kids but I know that's irrelevant)!

She's closer to 3 than a young tot. She's 33 months today. As someone mentioned 22 months I wondered if that made a difference?

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Mamabear4180 · 22/09/2017 09:14

Spudlet my DD is never all over anybody. She's got ASD so just plays alone but I get what you mean and she's still in the same room touching things I suppose!

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NoCapes · 22/09/2017 09:16

But that's the point Mama it may not lead to hospital for your child, but you can't speak for others
A simple cold has hospitalised my child when he was a baby
You don't know what health or immune problems other children there are dealing with, and you'd be knowingly and purposely exposing them to something that could make them very poorly

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Mamabear4180 · 22/09/2017 09:16

Sorry nocapes I'm being thick today. You mean if my DD passed it on it could be dangerous to your son as others like that. I see what you mean.

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DearMrDilkington · 22/09/2017 09:17

Just stay at home or go for a walk. Don't be selfish.

NoCapes · 22/09/2017 09:17

Ah X-post Smile

Horses4 · 22/09/2017 09:22

She is still unwell and potentially infectious, so it would be the best thing for your daughter and other children to keep her home. My older daughter is immunocompromised and will have to be hospitalised on anti-virals if she gets certain illnesses. It can't always be avoided, but we are grateful to parents who take precautions when they can (and vaccinate).

Ionarocks · 22/09/2017 09:27

As everyone says it's probably wise to stay at home or go to the park/coffee shop. Although it seems to be inevitable to catch things at toddler groups anyway. My ds has been healthy all summer but since being back at toddler groups last week has had a cough, cold and temperature yesterday (and very little sleep). Annoying but I guess it prepares you for nursery and school.

Original poster
Mamabear4180 · 22/09/2017 09:37

It's unanimous!

We are going to the park. A nice walk in the double buggy and a push on the swings instead Grin

Thanks for the reality check. I think I'm a bit sleep deprived and not thinking clearly Blush

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Spudlet · 22/09/2017 10:01

Fair enough mama. Our toddler group is like a bogey exchange some weeks, so I was going on that EnvyGrin

Glad it's helped you decide, anyway. Hope she's thrown it right off soon!

furryelephant · 22/09/2017 10:32

We went to a group earlier in the week where most of the older ones had green snot dribbling everywhere but seemed happy as anything. My 9 month old has now got it and I've been up for 3 days straight as she can't breathe at all if she's lying down Sad

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Mamabear4180 · 22/09/2017 12:23

Yes I know it's a nightmare when babies have colds! Although they will get them anyway tbh! I recommend the calpol plug in if you haven't got one already furryelephant it really helps

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Mamabear4180 · 22/09/2017 12:25

Thanks for the replies. We actually had a lovely time at the park with DD on her smart trike and the 14m DD in the sling on my back. Irrelevant but it's always good to hear something positive Smile

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Spudlet · 22/09/2017 13:06

Sounds like a lovely way to spend a morning Smile

KitKatCHA · 22/09/2017 14:18

My 2 year old ends up in hospital on oxygen and hourly nebulisers every time she gets a cold. I wish more people would keep their kids at home when they're ill.