breastfeeding in public...

[Schwanengesang]

Out to lunch with parents. DS (10 months) wanted a feed, I gave him one. My dad went to the loo. Mother gets total catsbumface look on and says "it's like you live in a different world from normal people. That's disgusting, noone needs to see that. But you always have been mannerless and selfish. You're a complete embarrassment."

I am used to her so just said with a raised eyebrow "well thank god the world has moved on from opinions like yours"

Christ on a bike. It's 2017. Nothing was visible (feeding vest, loose top, cardigan, DS' large head covering the tiny bit of exposed boob.

Not a surprise really coming from my mother (she loves being nasty when noone else is listening) but do people really think it's not ok to breastfeed in public???

Id completely ignore anything that comes out of her mouth like that. Ask her about the weather. They love it when people engage.

@gandalfspants
Sounds like my mum, plus disguises jibes as humour.
I'm v low contact right now and she's still denying everything to the hills...

*Okay I'll be honest. BFeeding is not something I'd be comfortable doing.
I don't know why. However that's my issue no one else's. *

I feel exactly the same.

I wasn't comfortable with the thought of BF at all when pregnant and yet my DS is six months EBF and I have no intention of stopping until he's ready. I enjoy it - weird how that worked out.

OP please buy one of those woolly hats that's knit to look like a boob. Then casually extend her a middle finger on behalf of all of us shameless BFing mothers.

@Takeoutyourhen

Ah yes the humour! It's a joke!

Me: Mum, put your seatbelt on.
DM: My clothes will get wrinkled.
Me: Better wrinkly than dead.
DM: You wouldn't care anyway, I doubt you and your brother could even organise a funeral if I died, you'd have to TALK to each other, you don't care about me anyway, you never visit, I'm sooo sad, you're all horrible.
Me: Wow, that was pretty mean.
DM: It was joke JOKE! GOD, you are so miserable.

*Blahblahboo

I breastfeed in public but I do think that for the comfort of other people you should have to cover up. It's only fair and respectful as I wouldn't like someone to lobb their tits out on the next table to me*

It's ok, you'll get the hang of it soon and you'll be able to bf without any tit-lobbing

I've never lobbed a tit out its very discreet

Sunshine. Most women do but obviously that particular poster has an issue with tit-lobbing themselves and perhaps assumes all women do it?

Sorry I thought 10 month old babies were on solid food !

threecee most ten month olds are on some solids, but not solely on solids. They still need to drink. FF babies still have bottles at ten months too, they can't eat enough to get all their nutrition from solids alone at that age.

My mum keeps suggesting we move somewhere quieter when I BF in public - she's fine with it in private but seems to think it's on a par with changing your top, not to be done with an audience. She doesn't say anything critical, but she has sent me a few links to breastfeeding covers (which look ridiculous - I drape a muslin if I'm sitting on the tube or somewhere else very visible, but usually what with DS's head, my clothes, and me sitting somewhere quiet, there's not much on display. I've had a couple of old lady cat's bum faces, but no actual comments so far.

I always wear a vest to pull down and a baggier top to pull up, if I wore just a vest I suppose I would have to lob a tit out but I don't lol!

5 months ago I couldn't have fed DS in public. It just felt so strange to pop a boob out!

I do feed him now when we're out and about, but try very hard to make sure nothing is on show. Vest plus a top as pp mentioned. To be honest, I'd still rather do it in private if possible. If DS decides he's heard something interesting mid feed and comes off just as my let down has started, I'd rather not try to stem the flow and wrestle with him at the same time as trying to keep my boob out of sight.

It's ridiculous, I know, but I can't help it.

Ah you also have a baby who is easily distracted! I thought I'd never feel comfortable feeding in public but I just crack on now. Baby needs to feed!

Out of all the comments here people have had directed at them against breastfeeding, I think I have one that tops them all. Not said to me but to DM, breastfeeding was irresponsible because 'when you hang out your washing RATS will smell it off you and come up to the house. Rats will get to your baby if you feed them yourself like an animal'.

my DD likes to pull off when my let down begins resulting in me having a wet arm or she gets squirted in the eyeball.

Like some kind of milky titted pied Piper rugger ?! 😁

My dm used to flap something rotten when I bf in public. It's her issue. And she's ridiculously pro breastfeeding. Just not in public. She got on my nerves one to many times so I told her if she didn't stop fussing that I'd get the other one out aswell to really give her something to stress about.

DS1 used to fall asleep sucking, fall off the boob, it would squirt him in the eye and wake him up! 😂

OhOur that's exactly what I said to DM when she told me that story
Strangely enough she's not in touch with that woman anymore...

Bloody hell OP that's not someone I'd want around my child once they start understanding the vitriol coming out of her mouth. She sounds unhinged.

Bf in public today. Baby is easily distracted and likes to pull away. Pop n spray! A few months ago I would have been embarassed. But now couldn't give a fuck. Me nor baby

I think it took me about 8weeks to not give a fudge about Bf in public. when you are the woman Bf you realise all you're doing is feeding your baby so it doesn't matter anymore what other people think. people that aren't Bf are like omg I'd never do that in public omg that's so gross omg omg omg Shut up 😐

It is basically women trying to body shame each other in an "acceptable" way and it needs to stop. Notice it's never men who complain.

My DF and an elderly man in a pub. 2 examples of men who complain.

from other mums stories it's usually men, I've never had anyone say anything bad yet