breastfeeding in public...

[Schwanengesang]

Out to lunch with parents. DS (10 months) wanted a feed, I gave him one. My dad went to the loo. Mother gets total catsbumface look on and says "it's like you live in a different world from normal people. That's disgusting, noone needs to see that. But you always have been mannerless and selfish. You're a complete embarrassment."

I am used to her so just said with a raised eyebrow "well thank god the world has moved on from opinions like yours"

Christ on a bike. It's 2017. Nothing was visible (feeding vest, loose top, cardigan, DS' large head covering the tiny bit of exposed boob.

Not a surprise really coming from my mother (she loves being nasty when noone else is listening) but do people really think it's not ok to breastfeed in public???

OP that is next level vile. You know she's utterly talking out of her arse but still it must have really hurt your feelings that anyone could talk that way. Let her be unhappy that is so not your problem. Good for you and your baby.

I've never come across someone who thinks like that about breastfeeding l. She sounds like the sort of person to just find anything to be horrible about.

Your mother needs to pull her head in. If you were being exhibitionist about it, breasts completely exposed etc. I could understand some people might feel uncomfortable (not that they should) but you were doing the most natural thing in the world, nursing your baby. You handled it wonderfully.
It is her problem, leave her to it. Is your dad influenced by her or was he just trying to give you privacy?

My inlaws are a bit embarrassed by my feeding but they'd never dare say anything. I don't think anyone has ever scowled or looked funny at me for feeding in public or if they have I haven't noticed- and I have spent a lot of the last 3 years breastfeeding all over the place.

Get you dad to take picture of you, your mum and your ds then quickly flop out your leftie and let your son have a nuzzle before your mum realises... then post it on Facebook tagging your mum and thank her for being so modern...

I may over think these things

My mum is just like this, but she says things to DD in the guise of jokes, 'what's mummy dressed you in today, you look ridiculous'. 'You're so light, does mummy never feed you?' Accompanied by a cold stare at me. I take great pride in whacking out my titties wherever I need to, they've fed my baby for a year and will continue to do so when DC2 arrives in March.

Nothing wrong with B/F in public.

YellowFlower wait until he/she's 23 months! That's when DS2 stopped bfing! 😂

I bf in public 20 years ago. Only place I was ever called out on it was at the hospital baby clinic where a flustered nurse kept trying to move me to a private waiting room "so I could get more privacy" ("but I don't want privacy, I want to sit here so I can hear my name called").

That behaviour is nothing to do with BPD; it’s because she’s an arsehole.

well handled OP.

Keep on doing what you want to do.

Squirt milk in her face

Hardly anyone thinks like this, but there are people with crazy views (e.g. racists). Don't let it make you feel worried about bf in public. I've done it for years and never had a problem (apart from the freezing tummy in winter).

F**ing woman. Tells our friends she is "over to help because Schwan is not coping. Well we did tell her that children were probably not a good idea for someone like her" and then tells me i am disgusting for breastfeeding in public, lazy for not hosting parents, lazy because i am only producing 2 2 course meals a day for parents, lazy and my DH will leave me and no wonder we sleep in different beds because I am so ugly and fat because I don't make an effort with my appearance and my poor husband had to finish cooking a meal today while I dealt with ill DS.

For the record I am coping pretty darn well on practically no sleep for 10 months. I am in size 10 clothes so not fat and frankly who cares if I am. My husband is capable of cooking and should bloody help round the house since he gets a ton more sleep than me by sleeping in a different room.

I have told dear parents I will not be spending the last day of the visit with them and I will see them for dinner and that is it.

GRRR.

Perfectly OK. Aside from that being the purpose of breasts (not for former Sun readers to gawp at), better a breasted baby than a screaming/crying one.

Oh, and I forgot the elderly man in a pub who chatted quite happily whilst I was bfing, then passive aggressively complained to the bar staff and got DH barred because the landlord couldn't bar me for bfing, so he barred DH knowing that I'd leave with him.

I was in a pub having lunch with a BFeeding friend. The waitress came over and suggested she sat in the corner so she couldn't be seen. I still don't know if someone had complained..

Okay I'll be honest. BFeeding is not something I'd be comfortable doing.
I don't know why. However that's my issue no one else's.
I can't understand for the life of me why people would cats bum at a mother feeding her baby. You see animals feeding their little ones and its a beautiful site.
As for breast feeding in a toilet would they (suggesters) eat in a dirty toilet.
That's absurd

On sorry op but your mother is the embarrassment.

Well she would have been even more "catsbumface" if the baby had screamed the place down due to hunger over her lunch wouldn't she!?
You carry on feeding your ds whenever and wherever!

Sod that. Agree with others. Feed wherever you want! I did it in parks, pubs, cinema (baby cinema), on the train.... etc!

I BF pretty much everywhere if I'm somewhere where people are eating I'll aim to be out of site and not in randoms eye view as much as possible but all my friends and family just deal with it none of my friends breast feed neither does my SIL but they are all for me BF even when it's not for them personally, who turns down free dinner anyway ?

sight*

I also try to be out of sight of male family members other than my DP because I personally feel uncomfortable if they saw my nipple.. male friends though I don't care lol

Unfortunately some people will share the same views as your mum.
But you handled it well, I had to bf my screaming baby in asda.
Sat in the seat right in front of the checkout, no one said anything bad and I had a few people come over and say 'your doing a great job, how nice to see etc' was uplifting esp as I had pnd at the time.
And my baby is now a 20 month old who still is bf and likes to try and take my top up when she wants feeding.
To her its her drink and comfort!

So what do all bf haters expect then for a baby to go hungry.

OP your mum is hideous. Why would you still have dinner with her after all that?

I would tell her to fuck off, she's not welcome and the only reason you tolerate her at all is because of your DF.

Then invite your DF to come and live with you!