To want DH to come with us to baby immunisation appointment?

[SureJan]

Baby has her 8 week immunisations this week. I've asked DH to come to the appointment with us, as I'm worried that baby will be inconsolable & I could do with the moral support!
He says he doesn't want to take time off work for it when I can take her on my own - he'd have to take it as either annual leave or unpaid leave.
AIBU to insist that he comes with me? Or am I right to feel a bit annoyed with him, because baby is as much his responsibility as she is mine?
Or am I being far too PFB about the whole thing?

[CPtart]

I immunise babies. Very rare for both parents to come along. I always took DC on my own and found parenting in general much easier generally when I became hardened to a few tears.

[DoubleDinghyRapids]

OP I was mega nervous when taking dd for her first jabs, I've taken nieces and nephews for their jabs in the past (you're not unusual in worrying) and know it's over in seconds, but I felt different when I had to take my pfb. I was so nervous that if baby carried and I couldn't console her that I'd look like a shit Mum, I Or if I let go of her limb and dd jumped she'd end up paralysed or something I knew in my head that everything would be fine and while I didn't ask dh to take time off and wouldn't expect him too I'd mentioned I might ask sil to come, dh said same as most people here, it's no big deal and that dd will be fine.. DH ended up being off work as it happens, asked him if he wouldn't mind taking her as he's much more relaxed about it than me, he got as far as the front of the surgery door when he heard a baby cry and came back to car with tears in his eyes saying he can't do it. There were several other women going into the baby clinic and he got a lot of "awwwwwww, there there" type comments. Overheard three of them talking about a man in the carport struggling with his baby and how he must with a bitch for putting him in that position.. Not of them said was being a fanny, that he needs a grip, and seemed to think it cute if anything..

Dd was fine and your baby will be fine. Do you have a friend who can come with you? I know many man parents

[DoubleDinghyRapids]

Hit post too soon, should be i know many manage fine on their own but for some, having a friend helps..

[Amanduh]

It's easier to get in and out and it over with asap!
Mine wasn't remotely bothered by the jabs. The fever afterwards he was though 😩

[Justgivemesomepeace]

Much easier when they're babies- they have no idea what's going on, cry for a minute and it's done. The nurses are usually amazingly quick. I can't believe how fast they get the needle in and out! When they get the preschool one's its harder! They know what's happening and it can be really hard to keep them still. You'll be wondering after what the fuss was about. Don't make him waste a days leave.

[LittleMouseontheDairy]

It really helped me to just keep it firmly in my head that the discomfort of the needle was nothing compared to the prospect of serious illness/ hospital stay/ drips etc if baby caught any of the serious illnesses he was being immunised against. You are doing it to protect your baby and the momentary surprise/ discomfort is just that- momentary. Just focus on that and you'll be fine! It's over very quickly and then you can use the time your DH would have taken off at another time for something much nicer!

[SunnySkiesSleepsintheMorning]

I hope it goes well. I understand why you wanted him there, even though it wasn't logical but parenting is often emotional. You can do this. :)

[AuntyEstablishment]

OP,
Congrats on your baby and good for you for planning to go to get her/him vacc'ed on your own. Lots of people are a bit nervous and in need of support when they have little babies. It's completely normal. I don't think you should feel silly that you asked your DH.

Hope everything goes well and if you need some support on the day you can always post on Mumsnet 💐💐💐⭐️⭐️⭐️

[Sashkin]

You're being PFB about the actual jabs. But lots of babies have fevers after the men c vaccination, so don't do as I did and wave your DH off on a night out, then spend all night up with a screaming feverish baby.

Buy some calpol, and make sure your DH is around in the evening so you can step away when you need to. It is truly awful - made me realise how bad colic must be.

[SureJan]

Me & baby have been for the jabs this morning - absolutely fine, just like everyone said it would be! I didn't need DH there after all So yes, I was being a bit soft & unnecessarily anxious. Although I stand by what I've said about leaning on DH when I feel I need to (& not feeling bad if the things I need his help with are things that other mums can manage alone!)
Thanks everyone for your support & advice, & for giving me some perspective!

[ExPresidents]

Glad it went ok Sure, well done

[happygirly1]

Arrr I remember the first ones with my DD (she's my first and only so far!). It can be a bit emotional as a mum when they cry but just remember it's over in seconds and you're only doing it to protect them.

I just took her straight home, gave her some calpol and we had a snuggly afternoon on the sofa. You'll be absolutely fine and you won't need your husband there, just make sure you give lots of mummy cuddles and don't plan to do too much for the next few days after it in case she feels a bit miserable.

[sleepymama81]

Glad it went well @SureJan. You know for next time now. Absolutely nothing wrong with leaning on your DH when you need to, you're a team!

[kaytee87]

You'll be fine :) a boob/bottle/dummy in babies mouth straight away and the crying stops.