To let sister pretend to be me?

[NachoAddict]

My Dsis is pregnant, she has a 6 month old and circumstances are such that the last thing she needs is to have another baby.

She is due to be sentenced in court next month for a serious crime with her partner. He is almost certain to get 4-5 years in custody. She is hoping for a suspended sentence but could well get a custodial sentence too.

With all of this in mind she doesnt want to continue with the pregnancy but her partner does want her to and would not react well to her having a termination. He is very very controlling and abusive towards her.
She wants me to book a termintation and she can pretend to be me and go and get it. She doesn't want any record of it in her own name just incase her partner finds out.
She is hoping to have the tablet thrn take the second one at home and pass it off as a miscarriage.

I am concerned that this is not a great idea, i would end up with a non existent termination in my medical history and if anything went wrong it wouldn't be on hers.

Could her plan work or are we crazy to consider it?

I hope she gets this sorted out Nacho .

I have no experience of abortion services other than supporting a rellie who used BPA over 20 years ago.

Second asking GP surgery to find a way of avoiding him controlling her GP appointments.

First, the social worker shouldn't be told things like this unless your sister has additional needs. If by some chance the social worker does find out, they should also know that the partner is abusive and so of o were your sister I would pre-empt this bY calling and speaking to the social worker in advance and asking them to keep it confidential.

Re the termination. If it's surgical, you could go with her and then just call the partner afterwards and tell she miscarried and you've been to the hospital but it was all very quick and she's already been discharged - you'd have called earlier but it was just a bit of bleeding and you didn't want to worry him for nothing.

It might be worth contacting Abortion Support Network, they give advice and are not just for Irish/NI women.

It is possible Women on the Web could help in these difficult circumstances.

www.womenonweb.org/en/i-need-an-abortion

Perhaps you should tell your sister it's high time she started making her own decisions and to stop listening to her partner. Perhaps you should educate yourself as to what abusive relationships look like!

Do people genuinely not realise how difficult it can be to get out of a relationship like this? Many do not, no. They also don't realise that leaving is the most dangerous thing they can do sometimes.