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Annual leave entitlement

59 replies

Sienna333 · 17/09/2017 09:55

AIBU to say that someone who only works 25 hours a week (No kids) should not say they feel stressed as they have only had 5 days off work this year?

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allegretto · 17/09/2017 09:57

Yabu to decide what other people can feel. I work part time - I still need time away to really unwind.

insancerre · 17/09/2017 09:57

Of course yabu
What's having children got to do with it?
Your life is not more stressful than someone else's just because you have kids or they work part time

Sofabitch · 17/09/2017 09:59

Stress is relivant.

So yabu to undermine how someone feels.

Life isnt a game of top trumps

Penfold007 · 17/09/2017 09:59

YABVU

NC1990 · 17/09/2017 10:00

People without children are allowed to be stressed too you know. YABU.

Moanyoldcow · 17/09/2017 10:01

Yes, YABU.

FoxyinherRoxy · 17/09/2017 10:01

What's it got to do with you? 'Only' 25 hours might be a lot to manage for them.

Statutory annual leave for 25 hours a week is 140 hours for the year. They need to take some time off.

TheMasterNotMargarita · 17/09/2017 10:02

Yabu.
Because someone has no kids they don't have stress in their lives?
They may have many other things going on - even if they dont everyone reacts to life differently.
You sound as though you are envious of their working hours, do you work a lot? Are you stressed about it?

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Sienna333 · 17/09/2017 10:05

I used to work 45 hours a week and never said I was stressed. This person works with kids and does work hard but 25 hours a week can't be hard. I am not jealous as such as I know she would prefer longer hours, I just find it a bit mad that she says she feels stressed after only 5 days off this year.

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FoxyinherRoxy · 17/09/2017 10:11

Good for you Sienna.

Why is it your business and why are you judging someone else for not being like you?

insancerre · 17/09/2017 10:11

I work with children and our policy is that we have to have taken 3/4 of our holiday entitlement by this time of the year
For a full timer that would be 15 days plus all the bank holidays
I don't know how many your colleague is entitled to but 5 is not many is it?

00100001 · 17/09/2017 10:11

YABU.

How do you know she doesn't suffer from a mental health issue? Maybe she has another part time job?

Maybe she has a difficult home life or is a carer?

My sister can only work part-time because of this. But you would never know.

I get stressed if I don't have a break as well.

Five days leave is not that much since January. Regardless of hours worked.

How about you try and help your colleague rather than assuming she's somehow weak??

TheMasterNotMargarita · 17/09/2017 10:11

I didn't say you were I was just trying to understand your logic.
I'd say working with children is quite stressful...I wouldn't do it.
I suppose you think that you wouldn't be stressed about it but actually it is ok that she feels that way. It is allowed Wink.

chipsandpeas · 17/09/2017 10:12

people have different levels before feeling stressed, just cos yours is higher doesnt make anyone else less stressed if they have a different level

usually takes a lot for me to be stressed however i dont judge others being streesed just cos im not

AfunaMbatata · 17/09/2017 10:13

Are you getting stressed about it?

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 17/09/2017 10:13

YABU you never know what's going on in someone's life.

GraciesMansion · 17/09/2017 10:16

Why has she only had five days off all year?!

Yabu. Stress has nothing to do with how hard you work.

Hippiechic · 17/09/2017 10:19

Yabu. Maybe she has issues you don't know about, maybe the 25 hours are still over 5 days per week so still quite relentless even though days are shorter. Really it doesn't matter whatever it is, she is still allowed to feel stressed and it isn't really up to you to judge her for this.

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Sienna333 · 17/09/2017 10:44

The 25 hours are over the 5 days, yes.
I am not saying that all people who work part time have 'issues', I am surprised that is coming up. I just think 5 days at this time of the year is decent enough for the low number of hours she works.

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FoxyinherRoxy · 17/09/2017 10:46

I do hope it's not the same person you were asking on your other thread if it's ok to text at 7.30 on a Sunday morning?

C0untDucku1a · 17/09/2017 10:47

Has she requested more time off and been refused. 25 hours over five days is much more difficult than condensed over 3-4 days. You still have the same number of commutes! Same travel costs as a full timer. Same number of days in work but significantly less pay.

dementedpixie · 17/09/2017 10:49

5 hours a day can be hard if working with children. Wouldn't be entitled to a break either. Depends what the stresses are too

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 17/09/2017 10:52

5 days off at this time of year isn't decent at all if you work 5 days a week, regardless of how many hours you work each day. She's entitle to at least 28 days for the year and there's only 3 and a bit months of the year left!

Lovewineandchocs · 17/09/2017 10:52

I work 26 hours a week and have had about 20 days off this year. I'd feel stressed if I had only had 5 days off this year-I presume you mean calendar year? No matter how many hours she works, she is still in the work environment every day-people need time away from that and to recharge their batteries. I'm guessing the 5 days weren't taken all at once either. I think most people need a few days away from work over a stretch of a week or so in order to fully unwind.

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Sienna333 · 17/09/2017 10:55

I am sure you have kids though PP? I do think that makes a difference to stress levels.
The 5 days are from January to now.

Maybe I am bu but it has just annoyed me a bit. I wouldn't ever say that to her, just here.

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