Friends and infertility

[Hana101]

Posting on behalf of a friend...

Dearest friend 1 and dearest friend 2 are both struggling with secondary infertility.
Bit of background infor DF1 has 1 DS (age 9) and DF2 had 1 DD (age 5) both have struggled for numerous years to have second child. Both work with DF1 in fairly good job and DF2 has a rewarding job but not as well paid ( adding as relevant).DF2 has recently gone through her first cycle of IVF and had now been dropping comments to DF1 that she should also be looking to go
Down this route and generally giving out unwanted advice. Also commenting to DF1 that she should definitely be able to afford it as she has a much better job then DF2 and they were able to get it done (cost her circa £8k)
DF1 is really fed up with all the comments and after a particularly heavy hammering of comments tonight DF1 is ready to end the friendship, would she be unfair is her worry. And would she then be accused of jealousy?

Wow that was long!

Quack

Thats new information posted just before your post. Isn't hindsight a glorious thing! Besides as a thread title, it still was very inappropriate.

"Why can't people get past the title? The op didn't choose it, the friend did."

The op chose to write it.

pilates

No I'm not DF1, think it may have been was hassle for DF1 to create her own account and post it would have been interesting to see the responses she got with that title, I feel they may have been a lot more sympathetic then the ones I got m...

mummyoflittledtagon

I have commented on the beginning of the thread that it was DF1 opinion not mines...

I see the second comment. It wasn't clear to me until you pointed that out.

I didn't have an issue with the title but other posters did, OP. I might have reacted differently if I was still going through that time, but I'm not, I've adopted and have put it behind me. Anyway, the title has been changed, and maybe we can move on from it now?

It wouldn't have made a difference if your DF1 had posted that title, though. Posters were responding to the title without reading the follow-up.

Not really sure that it's your place to get involved, even if your friend had asked you too. Tell them to talk to each other.

It's not obvious it's not your opinion OP though.

I'd stay out, it's a difficult subject so I'd leave them to it and not take sides.