to not split the discount?

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Regular but NC as outing.

DS currently attends private school and fees split 50:50 with XH amicably but specific line 'school fees to be split 50:50' is in financial order. No maintenance paid as 50:50 care and clean break split with us i.e. no further claim on each other. Further relevant info is that since split I've reduced working hours and covered school holidays and XH has continued to work FT.

I've got a new full time job which includes 50% discount on school fees. Which of the below scenarios do you think is fairest?

A: fee discount reduces both our share and we split the cost of additional holiday childcare
B: fee discount reduces my share to nil and I pick up cost of additional holiday childcare
C: fee discount reduces my share to nil and we split additional holiday childcare

Thanks!

I'd go C but let him know beforehand and see if he reacts. It's still going by the order, you didn't have the discount when the order was put in place. Your finances are no longer linked so he shouldn't benefit from your new role. Plus you've been covering holidays so saving him money and hassle.

B or C would be suitable i think x

C - it is essentially part of your benefits package

What Hont said.

A seems fair.

As always, what would you have thought fair had thise been the other way around?

Is there any way round the school informing him through the way they bill you?

I think it's a good idea to talk to your solicitor, who helped you negotiate the settlement.

C it's part of your package.

A but C would be nice if you think he'd agree.

If a financial order is in place then it would be best to open about the situation with xh and get it done legally and correctly

A seems fair.

100% C.

Why should he reap the benefits of your discount?

We agreed the settlement between ourselves. If either of us fell on hard times we verbally agreed to make sure the fees were covered. As far as I am aware he is not having hard times.

C. It's your perk that you get from your job. If he wants the perk he can get a similar job to you! Your perk is not his business. Childcare should be split evenly from now on.

B - but I think you have to tell him the rationale. You are taking the job as it means you can look after DS in the holidays. If he want's to split the fee remission, he has to split the cost of holiday care so you can find a better paying job.

The fee remission is effectively part of you salary. If he had access to a company car, you would not claim use of it to drive DS around.

C would be double counting the benefit. He could reasonably claim that you could work during the additional hours (tutoring, exam marking) and use that to contribute to the fees. You are the sole beneficiary of the perks and obligations of the job.

Much better to get him to agree it by making a reasonable argument, as long as he can be reasonable.

I think the two of you should sit down and discuss it together. I would have thought that somewhere between A & B would be a good solution for both of you. A split of the discount, but not, perhaps, 50:50.

I'd say C.

The discount is a perk of your job - presumably he doesn't have to share and financial perks of his job with you?

You can both work full time and cover the holidays equally - that's fair.

The fact he's been able to work full time whilst you've been covering holidays so far makes it seems even more fair for you now to keep the fee discount to give you a chance to 'catch up' financially.

If the court has ordered the fees payable (whatever they are) should be split 50/50 then you must share the discount. However, if you feel that your salary is lower because of the perk of the discounted fees then you could go back to court.

Its part of your renumeration package. Does he split bonuses or perks with you? Do you get to drive his company car? If he used a large bonus to pay his part of the school fees, would he reduce your contribution by half of it? If not then this is your equivalent. You use your bonus to pay your portion of the school fees. You have complied with the court order in that you are fulfilling your obligation to pay 50% of the school fees. How you get that money, whether by earning or as a bonus discount shouldnt matter.

C - it's a bonus of your job, not a discount given to you as a parent of your child.

C, and that still follows the order set out. You both pay half of the school fees. If you can get a work benefit that reduces your 50% to nil then you are paying your half with your benefit.

Here - excellent point. If a company car was the perk, it would not be expected that you share it with your ex! This is your perk.

He will know as he sees the bill and the order specifies 50/50, so he'd have grounds to pursue this. Speak to him first to explain the situation and then you both pay 50% less on fees and he pays 50% of childcare.

c seems fair but you would need to talk to him. He might get other perks which he doesn't share with you ...

I agree with West

It's better to stick to the words of the CO. If circumstances have changed then you need to change the CO.

Imagine if your ex decided to interpret the CO in a way which suited him best.