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I have started an affair

57 replies

Bonny1974 · 13/09/2017 23:05

I'm not proud . I have been married 3 years together 6 . For the past year my husband have been really distant ( recently discovered this was down to drug mis use) . He hVe shown no interest in me . No attention ect .... Oh exsept when he buys me a gift he makes a big announcement to my family . Prob to show what a fantastic husband he is . Well a month ago . I stated an affair . With a single man . Our paths have crossed proffesinally for several years .recently I was thinking about him a lot . So I created a situation for us to be alone . I told him I was attracted to him . He was shocked but the feelings were mutual ( I already knew this ) I met him at his house he next day and had the most mind blowing time ever . .... I would not leave my husband for him .... I don't know what to expect from the comments . I think I just need to confes

OP posts:
MyBrilliantDisguise · 13/09/2017 23:08

Why are you staying with your husband?

Waterfeature · 13/09/2017 23:09

YABU.
How boring.

PurpleWithRed · 13/09/2017 23:09

You've just gone from being someone who anyone might support if they left their husband to being the bad guy. Stop the affair now and sort or end your marriage. I speak from experience.

ShatnersWig · 13/09/2017 23:09

Have some self respect and leave your marriage

Winteriscomingneedmorewood · 13/09/2017 23:10

Please don't leave your dh for him.
Leave your dh for yourself.
No excuses. . Just do it.
And have an honest relationship with the other man. .

NeedsAsockamnesty · 13/09/2017 23:11

That's nasty.

Stop it, do you want to be the person you currently are or do you want to be decent?

NeedsAsockamnesty · 13/09/2017 23:11

That's nasty.

Stop it, do you want to be the person you currently are or do you want to be decent?

guiltybystander · 13/09/2017 23:11

Who cares?

ohreallyohreallyoh · 13/09/2017 23:12

Yeah. Good for you. For some of us, affairs are a reality that blew apart our lives and left deep emotional scars.

So...Crack on, love. You do what you need to do. Hope you get everything you deserve.

loaferloveforyou · 13/09/2017 23:13

Lay off the alcohol.

You made a promise to your husband for better or worse. Sort your marriage out before getting involved with another man.

Anecdoche · 13/09/2017 23:13

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/09/2017 23:13

Grim.

Are you looking for absolution while fucking another man behind your husband's back?

How would you feel if he did the same?

RainbowPastel · 13/09/2017 23:14

You are proud that's why you are publishing it. It is disgusting.

user1480334601 · 13/09/2017 23:16

Finish with your husband if not happy which you're clearly not. Then look for somone else.

Don't overlap the two. It's messy and selfish

sugaredstrawberries · 13/09/2017 23:18

I'm not going to judge you as quite frankly, who is anyone to judge? Not one person on this earth is perfect and we have all made mistakes that we are not proud of.

However, I would advise for you to stop this instantly, decide exactly what you want to do and then go from there. Affairs and cheating is not the answer and will only cause you more pain as well as your DH and possibly even the person your having the affair with as well as others who may find out excetra.

Have some time to yourself and really think about your marriage, whether it's something you want to work at or something you think is time to put to bed, it's the kind thing to do for all involved.

GemmaCollinsBabes · 13/09/2017 23:22

How would you feel if your husband did this to you?

PisforPeter · 13/09/2017 23:23

pulls up a chair Grin

CanIBuffalo · 13/09/2017 23:25

I thought the schools had started back?

WorraLiberty · 13/09/2017 23:28

Why do so many people assume school teachers/TAs start these threads? Confused

CanIBuffalo · 13/09/2017 23:30

Grin Worra

grobagsforever · 13/09/2017 23:30

ROFL @ worral

Peanutbutterrules · 13/09/2017 23:32

First week back so not much homework yet

WorraLiberty · 13/09/2017 23:32

I reckon it's the school nurse

She always did have a bit of a lusty look in her eye...

Peanutbutterrules · 13/09/2017 23:33

To mark or do Worral Grin

WorraLiberty · 13/09/2017 23:33

Mind you, it's nothing a wet paper towel won't mend...