AIBU to have a go at my neighbour over heating

[Firstimefreaked]

I have a new born and I woke up earlier and the flat was warm so I opened my window which is a ground floor flat after about an hour it's boiling in the living room but I thought it could be hormones so Got the themomitor and measured the room temp it was nearly flipping 30 degrees which doesn't make sense as the neighbour is out and it 15 this eve...she left her heating on full blast even tho she's gone out probs since 3 ish and she's just gotten back would AIBU to have a go at her? All my windows are wide open and its 24 atm the baby was dangerously hot. There was probably cues that she was hot but I'm a first time mum and a bit naive I wil be more aware in the future but she was not wearing lots of clothes nor did I think her heating would be on when she was out on a reasonably warm day.

after a good night sleep after my first day alone as OH is away for work I feel a lot better. Yes I was incredibly worried about my baby as she was over 38 degrees my OH sisters baby died from over heating. I was feeling slightly crabby as my lack of sleep more due to my neighbors fighting the previous mornings nt and they are currently screaming at one another as she wants new wall paper and won't go to wilkos.

Driptastic!

Tbh my have a go is to speak sternly..not violence or shouting... my neighbour has two young kids (not there last night) who's oh sells drugs and bootleg items they constantly fight and argue waking me and the baby up and no the one time I spoke to them after having my baby he said they hadn't heard her cry and didn't realise I was back from hospital....then tried to sell me cheap formula. So basically I was frustrated Nd tired, scared etc but no total sympathy to my neighbours as I answer the door to the cops again.

I didn't mean to drip I just don't wear 6 hours sleep over two days well...I think I'm going to see if I can have this thread removed it's stressing me out.

Now it seems like a drip because they're suddenly a neighbour from hell.

Hide the thread and change your name.

You've already had the advanced search done and they'll keep goading you until you feel really shit about yourself.

Silkybear That is rubbish!!!! Babies need water to drink just like the rest of us!!!!!!!! Jesus is this what uneducated people really think?!

They are unpleasant neighbors. None of this matters my beautiful baby is fine happy and healthy in my arms, I'd just never been so scared in my life and I couldn't get hold of my mum or through to triage.
So I came on hear after opening all the windows and stripped her, did get some good advice which will be useful in the future.

You've already had the advanced search done and they'll keep goading you until you feel really shit about yourself.

Yep, this.

Oh honey it sounds like you have a lot going on with your neighbours. No wonder you are stressed. I would be too.
What about looking for somewhere else to live ? It could help your anxiety long term and btw if it is consistently hot then her oh could well be growing illegal substances to sell if he is a dealer. Hope today is a better day for you x

if the neighbour sells drugs then perhaps they've got a cannabis farm on the go up there, would explain any excessive heat from their flat!

Seriously though, why haven't you reported these nightmare neighbours to the Police? He's a drug dealer and sells knock off goods so get the fucker arrested.

So confused no babies don't regularly need water to drink under six month of age. Breastfed babies don't and formula fed babies only need it on very rare occasions.
Water can have a toxic effect on babies as it can set thier electrolytes out of balance

firsttime can I suggest putting NHS direct number in your phone. It's really helpful if your not sure if your baby needs medical help. I found it reassuring with my first

OP YANBU about the heating. I used to live above a family who kept their flat super warm. When they moved out I really noticed how much their flat had been keeping mine warm!

Also I think given your situation and history I'd get why you would panic. No harm done this time. Does sound like they won't be the most reasonable people to talk to though. Also agree with possibility of cannabis farm!

OP Personally I would be tipping the Police off! They do say if you have concerns about excessive heat coming from a property, to inform Police as it is a good sign of an illegal Cannabis Farm

Thank you fairy, I'm moving out in three months my partner is away at his new job in another country (where we are moving) he left for his new job yesterday so a bit overwhelmed

Worries fade in the light of day OP. Get out with your lovely new baby and try to sleep when she does. Ignore your neighbours and enjoy your baby.

I have reported them before but he just leaves thro the back and moves his stuff.three months and no more bad nieghbourghs or leaking flat! Life is good babies fine and the police are gone.

((((((((((Soft Hugs))))))))))) OP💜💛💚💙🌺🌻🌷🌸🌼🌸🌷🌻🌺💙💚💛💜

Ive asked for this thread to be deleted due to some of the harsh unnecessary comments, I am very vulnerable due to lack of sleep and being scared for my first ever newborn. It's upsetting that my genuine fear was met by people who would later on search and goad? So I should change my username it shouldn't come to that. This website should be Bout support even if someone is being unreasonable or silly.

Thank you for the positive support too.

Sorry you've had a bad time.

People can be very harsh.

Soconfused, you are mistaken, ask any midwife or gp. No need for that excessively rude response. I was trying to work out why the op would stop bf and try formula when the baby was hot as it makes no sense, but from her latest posts it seems totally unrelated to the rest of the thread. Op if you skipped a page you will have missed me suggesting you talk to someone in case you have pnd, your anxiety seems out of proportion to the actual situation. Take care of yourself

Op, honestly I don't think its her heating, if it was on so high it made your ground floor flat 30 degrees, her home would be completely uninhabitable. Plus I'm not sure it's even possible for her heating to heat your flat to this extent.

Was your own heating on maybe? Could heat have built up another way?

Could you please explain how it affects you flat what temp. she sets hers at? Does the one thermostat control both flats? Are the walls made of muslin? I don't get it.

Please stop blaming your silliness on hormones and don't chuck in you should be breastfeeding to get a sympathy vote.

Some utter bastards here. I hope you all feel good about yourselves. You managed to make someone who is obviously struggling and anxious feel even worse about themselves. Please never take up a job working with anyone where empathy and understanding is required.

I am glad you are feeling a bit better OP. Might be worth having a chat with your GP if you're feeling overly anxious and have a history of it.