To think it's perfectly ok to be quiet without having to be told.

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I've always been quiet and at times it's been hard. I've always wanted to be more outgoing and I envy people who have loads of self confidence and aren't afraid to be heard. What i hate more than anything is when people draw attention to it. If you're loud nobody says "aren't you loud", but when it comes to quiet people it's like we have to be told about it. Why, don't they think we KNOW. All it does with me is make me even quieter. Does anyone else get this.

....huh?

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I agree. I get pulled up on being quiet at work constantly. It's not a crime not to laugh at the top of your head or talk loudly.

Yes I've had people tell me I'm quiet. I don't know why they need to point it out. I'm not even that quiet, but in certain groups I find it hard to get a word in edgewise.

I'm an extrovert and can be a bit loud - lots of people comment on it both positively and negatively. You'r an introvert get over it 🤣

100% agree and it's always seen more of a negative whereas being 'loud' is more of a positive/fun.

What do you mean say and Dame?

My sister gets this all the time and it drives her mad. Your OP isn't hard to understand at all.

@Poshtottykins - I'm not an introvert thanks. I'm just quiet. Rude, inappropriately, loud people often brand themselves as extroverts when they're often the opposite.

Yup. I'm sometimes loud, and have been told about it. Not just the quiet who are informed. People comment on anything, sadly.

I'm not sure I understand the OP. Do you mean people say "Aren't you quiet?" to your face?

Are you really, Dame? Why? It's not difficult. Op, you're right, but remember empty vessels make the most noise. Bubbly people give me a fecking headache.

YANBU...Never thought about it before but yes, I have heard people tell someone that they are quiet...and never heard anyone tell someone they are loud...Loud people are more annoying too!

I thought that Pump. I'm trying to work out what was confusing about it.

I've just explained what I found confusing.

Some good empathy there posh

Dame yes of course, to my face and to others as well. As in "aren't you quiet" . Or saying in a loud voice to other people, so i'll hear. .

Who is saying it,friends?

It's a random thing, usually someone who doesn't know me well. I'm not quiet with friends. It sounds like it's something you can't imagine happening dame.

I can't! I think it's really rude tbh.

Yup, my husband gets it all the time and it does his head in. I'm not quiet at all, but I totally can see why this would be irritating

I get told off for being quiet all the time, but then I am working. I had to listen to a call as we had received a formal complaint, the caller could here the member of staffs "private conversation".... I've had to HR involve HR due to said "private" conversation

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Yabu when you said that nobody comments if you are loud.....
I am loud (partially hearing impaired, partially just one of those people that MN seem to hate...) and people always comment on it. My DH is quiet and people even comment on the odd match....

I understand OP. It is frustrating. My grandmother in law once said to me "you are such a wallflower." Not that anyone could get a word in edgeways with her anyway . And yes it does always seem to be the loudest people who comment on it the most.

I got this a lot when I was younger. I'm fine with being quiet, people are different. I have just never felt the urge to be loud, or talk all the time, or have everyone in a room know my opinion.