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Shaking with fear of induction

174 replies

peachandplum · 12/09/2017 03:27

I'm about to be induced at 37+4 due to medicinal needs and I am terrified.
My DH is making everything worse fannying about and being a nervous wreck. Someone please help me stay calm.

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redsquirrel2 · 13/09/2017 12:11

I was induced. Not the pessary, had to go straight on the drip due to group b Strep and my waters had broken (and nothing was happening). It was fine, honestly. 10 hour labour, just Tens and gas and air. And don't believe anyone who tells you it's bad to be hooked up to a monitor. The monitor is great! Tells you how the baby is doing, and when your next contraction is coming so you can ramp up the pain relief. Good luck.

steff13 · 13/09/2017 12:33

OP, how are you doing?

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peachandplum · 13/09/2017 15:56

HI everyone.
I'm on the third stage of hormones so just been given the third medicine vaginally.
This will stay in for another 6 hours and after they will attempt to break my waters.

Feeling uncomfortable and tired but not in any serious pain.

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Claireshh · 13/09/2017 16:00

Peach and Plum I was where you are over eight years ago. I was terrified. I got as far as 12 hours with the syntocin drip and then had an emergency c section. It was fine. Even though it was an emergency there was no craziness. Infact, the birth was calm and when she was born I cried so so much with joy. So, even if it goes 'wrong' it's still pretty amazing when you hold your baby in your arms. Xxxx

CazY777 · 13/09/2017 16:09

I hope it all goes well for you OP. Just keep in mind that you can say that you don't want to go any further with the induction and have a c-section instead. I had the 24hr and then the 6hr pessaries but was just 1cm dilated after that so I said no more, talked to the duty doctor and they said they could give me an epidural and try and break my waters or have a c-section. I opted for the c-section as I'd been in and out the hospital for nearly a week (what we all the waiting for them to do anything) without much sleep.

ineedwine99 · 13/09/2017 16:16

All the best OP, no advice but just sending you best wishes and looking forward to hearing when you've got your beautiful baby

TheLegendOfBeans · 13/09/2017 16:24

I'm getting excited for you OP. You've had a hard slog. @CazY777 gives a good example of what you can do next. Either way your baby will be here soon xxx

Vanillaradio · 13/09/2017 16:37

Hi op. They tried to induce me at exactly weeks due to pre eclampsia . I had two lots of the hormonal tampon over 4 days. After this i was only around 1cm dilated and they couldn't manage to break my waters so offered me a c section which I gratefully took. Ds was and is totally fine and I recovered very well from the c section. I promise a c section is not that bad. Be prepared for it to end that way as a lot of inductions at your stage do. If they can break your waters and go to drip they strongly advised me to have an epidural at the same time as drip as the contractions can be very intense apparently.
Good luck, you are nearly there.

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peachandplum · 13/09/2017 16:41

I don't want them to break my waters at all, can I ask for the section if they don't break in the next few hours?

It's documented in my notes that I've suggested with serious sexual abuse as a child and I can't deal with the internal water breaking.

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Frogtits · 13/09/2017 16:47

Oh OP thinking of you ...

The treatment you've had sounds shocking...

I really hope things get started soon...

CazY777 · 13/09/2017 16:48

You need to talk to them again OP. They didn't explain it properly to me, but I think as soon as you are dilated enough they will want to break your waters as it's supposed to move things along quicker. Ask to talk to a doctor.

kaytee87 · 13/09/2017 16:48

Op you can ask for a section for any reason at all. Honestly, they cannot force you to do anything just remember that. You are in charge of your own body Flowers

RatRolyPoly · 13/09/2017 16:48

If they can't break your waters (you totally can refuse this by the way) or they don't break on their own they will be running out of options but to section you. They can't administer the hormone drip and so continue the induction with your waters intact, and there's only so long they will wait out an induction before they call "failure to progress" and move to a section anyway.

Have you told them you won't have your waters broken? Usually my understanding is that they're only using the pessaries to open the cervix enough to break them manually in order to then administer the drip, but for some the pessaries are enough to kick off full blown labour.

RatRolyPoly · 13/09/2017 16:49

...I think your waters are unlikely to break on their own at this point, but I'm happy to be corrected.

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peachandplum · 13/09/2017 16:50

I am worried about asking for a section because my consultant just straight refused but I am finding the internal examinations so painful and distressing.
She just keeps saying no. She said I was 'pushing around' staff when i refused constant monitoring after 7 days straight l.

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CazY777 · 13/09/2017 16:54

Just say you're not continuing if that's what you want to do OP. I refused any more internal examinations and said I would wait and talk to the doctor, who then offered the c-section.

NooNooHead · 13/09/2017 16:56

Hi OP, is this your first baby? I was induced with my DD and had pessaries, my waters broken, an epidural and a drip, then labour for 9 hours before an emergency c-section. It was all fine but not as I had planned at all. The internal examinations are horrid I agree but nowhere near as bad as being able to hear the screams of women in labour in the room next door. Thank goodness for the NHS though, if I hadn't been induced then there was no way my waters would have broken naturally nor me having my DD naturally either - she was 11.5 lbs!

Good luck, you will be fine.

TheLegendOfBeans · 13/09/2017 16:57

I hope you utterly slam your consultant to PALS when this is all done. However, for now remember

  • ask "what next"
  • if they suggest more hormonal treatments tell them you are very sore and tired and can't take any more.
  • and follow up with "where does that leave me"?

You are literally failing to progress. As an OP says, CS will be mentioned. Grab onto it the moment they mention it.

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peachandplum · 13/09/2017 17:00

Yes this is my first baby.

If they examine me and say they can break my waters can i say 'no, i refuse. I want a section now. I'm not coping.'

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RatRolyPoly · 13/09/2017 17:01

Tell a midwife you won't have your waters broken OP. I bet they're banking on it to continue your induction anyway so it may well be a game changer.

Don't worry for one second about what the doctor said about pushing people around. Nothing you've said here indicates anything other than that you're understandably worried, have attempted express your wishes (which have been ignored) and that no-one has explained for a second what's even being done with your current induction. Remember this is one day in someone's working life, but for you this is your body. This is YOUR CHOICE. Politely but steadfastly stand up for yourself and don't feel bad about it for a second.

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peachandplum · 13/09/2017 17:01

I am worried they will 'leave me overnight to rest' and try to start again tomorrow as they've mentioned a few times.

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RatRolyPoly · 13/09/2017 17:03

You can say "I do not consent to you breaking my waters. With that in mind, what are our options from here?"

CazY777 · 13/09/2017 17:05

Don't worry about being a 'problem', tell the midwives you refuse to have your waters broken and they will have to come up with an alternative.

TheLegendOfBeans · 13/09/2017 17:08

Just please don't say "I want....."

I despise myself for doling out this advice but my DH and I know the NHS inside out, we worked in positions of keeping an eye on how things are run etc etc and trust me, don't dictate.

But ask. And keep asking. And ask again and again and again and again "what options do I have?"

Don't let up x

kaytee87 · 13/09/2017 17:10

Op In your situation I would refuse anymore examinations and demand a section. Say you have read the NICE guidelines and know that you are entitled to one.

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