Shaking with fear of induction

[peachandplum]

I'm about to be induced at 37+4 due to medicinal needs and I am terrified.
My DH is making everything worse fannying about and being a nervous wreck. Someone please help me stay calm.

Even though we have a planned one booked the 22nd. If I go she says it's against guidelines.

So what is happening now? What does the consultant want to happen? Do you have a plan?

OP:

Breathe
Take a step back
Get ready to be icy calm and firm

You need answers as to why they won't start your induction. If it's baby's heart rate then you need to ask to speak to a doctor and ask them what their next course of action is in situations like this.

Never beg or ask for a CS. Frame the request as "what would you do, what would you suggest?" The moment "CS" is mentioned, jump on it.

It is highly likely that you will end up with a CS if your cervix is high and long and STILL high and long after the tampon pessary.

Normally that pessary would do it but if not they will then give you hormone gels; two twelve hours apart.

I think you have a case for saying that if the pessary doesn't work they need to give you all the options and proceed with the one you choose.

Fuck messing about with gels if you're making zero progress and you've been in for so long already.

No midwife will give a shit about your MH as they are focussed on baby and baby only. The doctors are the ones with the decision making capacity and it's them you need to speak to.

This reminds me strongly of my delivery with DD. Absolutely no progress meant I ended up with a CS after four days. The only way I avoided the drip as I asked for my options after I refused to have another gel; I was exhausted, tired and getting so very sore internally.

Keep asking to see a doctor. Your DH too. And good luck.

Ps: don't fear a CS. Mine was a complete doddle and after what I'd been through it was blessed relief. Baby is coming soon and this nightmare will be behind you x

Consultant wants to push induction. I haven't slept for days, I haven't eaten or showered. I'm exhausted.

My baby's heartbeat is too high. I'm on the fucking monitor again with no clear plan. She said she's very busy and won't be back to check on me.

Agree send your dh to the Pals office-
There will almost certainly be one at the hospital. Everyone is entitled to a c-section.

Hang on; if they are inducing you early for medicinal need yet that induction is (clearly) failing then how the Jesus do they propose to get baby out...and when?!

And you have "qualified" for a CS in 11 days; ok sure it's against guidelines to CS in advance of 39w but if there's a clinical need to get this baby out now (hence you being induced) then surely they've taken steps to prep for a CS just in case nothing works?

Have you been given steroid injections to mature baby's lungs?

Your consultant sounds like a right bugger but you HAVE to play the game here. Firmness, persistence, clarity and not anger wins every time. And it absolutely galls me to write that. But it's the system we live in and it's fucking flawed

Ask for PALS support immediately and demand s second opinion. Make it clear you have no faith in your current consultant. Get someone who will stand up for you - is your own mum likely to be any help?

Alternatively if there's another obs unit nearby, hop in a taxi and try somewhere else.

I'm so sorry you're being treated so badly.

Start taking obvious notes of all conversations. Stay calm but be clear that you do not accept the refusal of csection and will hold them responsible for any problems.

I've had steroid injections.
All the consultant said is 'I don't have a magic wand to get this baby out'

They've left me without the induction medicine all night 'for a break' but I just can't face more hours and days left in a side room exhausted and uncertain and very frightened.

How do I sort out pals?

I just want to go home and sleep and be left alone or for them to section me.

They say baby's heart rate is too fast but they aren't doing anything about it. They just leave me for hours.

Hello Lovely, hand hold here. Firstly, please try to calm down, to keep your baby calm.
Yes, do send your DH to the Pals Office.
Once you have solid direction, you'll cope much better, it's all up in the air at the moment, and stressing you out.
An induction, is nothing to fear.
Hang on in there, we're here and listening to you. 💐

Just google your hospital and PALS or phone the main hospital number and ask them to put you through.
Or use the nhs pals search here

The Pals Office is usually on the ground floor of the hospital.

I was booked in to be induced, but the sweep set things off. It may not even happen! 😃

That's unacceptable. Oooooh, I'm annoyed for you. I was looked after pretty well and I still smart at the memory.

Your consultant has no right to say what she's saying. She may not have a magic wand but she does have a magic scalpel. They have given you treatment to get your baby ready for an early appearance in the world. Surely the method of delivery is - by now - a moot point? Baby is early. Period.

You will find a PALS office in the hospital complex (more than likely). Put into google hospital name + PALS and it'll come up. Ring for directions if need be.

But be CLEAR. Stick to facts. When you first came in. What's been done so far. What the doctors have said will happen next (or not). What you are and are not able to consider as a next step. How and when this was articulated and to whom and the reaction. Etc.

Good luck. I'm stepping away now as these type of threads raise my hackles too much and I know you'll be in enough upset right now without an angry stranger on the web pecking your head.

Xxx

This is just heartbreaking, I really feel for you. Is there anyone you can talk to. Just someone to explain why you are still there if they're not inducing you or giving you a c section? I know it's not much but offering a hand to hold

I am refusing the induction based on exhaustion now. I just want them to let me go home or section me. It's been 8 days.
My mental health has dipped very low.

Please contact PALS now. They can be very helpful

My mum was induced with all three of us for medical reasons and here we are, all fine. I was induced for stubborn bloody baby not coming out reasons, and I'm fine. You are going to be ok. It will be ok.

I think you are right to refuse the induction. They're being ridiculous - you are early for an induction so yes it is more likely to be a long drawn out process, and if you're already exhausted, to say nothing of your mental state - then you are more likely to end up needing a (possibly emergency) section anyway.

Don't panic. Is it a safe option to go home and sleep?

Get your DH to PALS to complain.

It's terrible they're making you wait such a long time :( sorry you're going through this. Mine took 3 days from when it started which was boring enough! 2 pessaries, ARM, drip up to full and then he came out just in time to avoid a c-section. There is a lot less risk attached to an induction so please don't rush towards a c-section without fully discussing it with a doctor (if you can get hold of one)! They need to send you home then bring you straight back in the second they can start your induction. x

Oh god, x-post. Sorry op. More

What's the reason you've been in 8 days, what's the medical reason for them wanting to deliver slightly early, is it baby's high heart rate or more/other symptoms too?

I've been in with severe abdominal pains and spd