Paying for own accommodation?

[Sunnyx]

Need opinions on this...going to a wedding which is out of area and would need accommodation for one night. Bride and groom are requesting guests pay for their own accommodation which is £120 per room. I mean I understand that this is a lot for them to pay out themselves but this makes it quite an expensive wedding to attend - outfits, drinks, wedding present etc. Thoughts?

I didn't think twice about guests paying for their own accommodation when I got married.

Are they specifying where you have to stay?

We've always paid for our accommodation at weddings, but it's up to us whether we book the posh hotel or the Travelodge down the road. It's just part of the cost of attending and you decide whether to attend or not.

Totally normal to pay for your own accommodation.

Some couples pay for rooms for the wedding party, but most don't. Have never heard of other guests being paid for.

You don't have to go if you don't want to spend the money!

Of course you are expected to pay for your own accommodation, there is nothing stopping you from finding a premiere inn or whatever close by and staying there for the night though.

You do not have to attend if you don't want to, it is just an invite.

Are you kidding? Why should the bride and groom pay a few grand for guests' rooms?

I have never heard of the Bride and Groom paying for guest rooms.

I would happily pay BUT I would want the option to choose where. If you book far enough in advance or close enough to the time (I prefer not to do the latter as it's risky) you should be able to get a cheap room. I've never paid more than £40 per night even in London.

Unless they're insisting you stay at the venue to subsidise their costs, this is entirely reasonable and normal. Book a nearby B@B or Travelodge if money is tight, or decide that you don't care enough about them to attend and decline the invitation.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, if they expect you to spend a certain amount at a certain hotel they are being U but if you have the choice to go elsewhere YABU

Of course guests should pay for their own accommodation.

It's your choice to stay even if it is out of area.

Sorry OP but I have never heard of guests accommodation being paid for them! If you can't afford it, send your regrets but cannot attend.

Don't forget to factor in the cost of taxi to and from the venue if you need one.

Requesting people pay for accommodation? Surprised it was even mentioned. Surely its the norm to pay for your own?

I note you have commented the guests will be buying their own drinks - so why on earth would youthink £120 rooms would be provided at the B&Gs expense for guests?

If it is too expensive you have the choice to attend or not attend. Or to drink or not drink and drive home/to a cheaper hotel.

Wedding is the in sister in law so have to attend. Pretty sure they have paid for rooms upfront but expect guests to pay...so they are specifying where we are staying.

You dont have to stay there. If shes has bulk booked rooms, then it is her issue to deal with them..

Always paid for our own accommodation.
Have also, like many, spent money on trains, planes and automobiles and to get to weddings.

If you don't have the money, don't go! Some friends of ours didn't attend our wedding as they were both in between jobs and had kids etc. No hard feelings at all.

I do find this a really bizarre question TBH.

Even if she's pre-booked rooms you don't have to stay there. Just say you are going to stay somewhere cheaper. She'll be able to get someone else to take the room instead.

They should have asked first! Just say you will be staying at airbnb near by (or just coming for the day) or parking your tent at the local camp site or sleeping in your car - all perfectly good choices.

They have probably booked out X amount of rooms. Had they asked who would be staying and you said you would?

Forgot to say - often the bride and groom will have made arrangements for discounts at local hotels/ bnb's.

Maybe you can ask if they've done that?

They aren't specifying where you are staying. They have booked X amount of rooms available for their guests and if you take one it will cost £120. You are free to book elsewhere.

I've never been to a wedding where accommodation was paid for. I expect the bride and groom have a package with the hotel so you can get a room at a reduced rate. But nothing to stop you booking a room at a local Travelodge etc.

She block booked them so no strangers can take them leaving guests without accommodation. This is normal. You can however go stay in a cheap b&b nearby if money is an issue.