Posting in here for traffic, tho this is more about relatioships than AIBU.
I'm splitting up from my H. Told him mid-March it was over. It was a shock for him and he initially took it very badly. Seems reconciled to things now and things between us are generally very amicable, considering.
Today it's my birthday. I had lots of random good wishes from internet weirdies and Facebook randoms, some cards in the post. H got up, talked about random stuff including whether he could have something I'd bought (I'd put it to one side to be packed away with my things), why his phone was playing up, the dogs etc.
Got to about 10.30am and in the middle of complaining about his phone, said in a real 'aside' sort of way: 'Happy birthday'. Then carried on texting. No card. Nothing.
I wasn't expecting a gift but surely a card wouldn't be too much for him to sort? 1've been trying hard to ne kind throughout this split but honestly, I am thinking ... why am I bothering?
It was the same back in May when I was hit by a horsebox driving home from a weekend away. I texted him to say I was going to be late becaue I'd been in an accident. He didn't ask if I was ok, if the car was damaged or anything. He didn't mention it until about a month later!
I know I shouldn't care, but I do. It makes me sad that he can't be kind.
He'll still be exepcting me to do all the dog sitting while he goes away, spending my money on his CDs and vinyl while there are vet bills and other to pay and carrying on just as if nothing else has changed. He should be saving money and working on getting the house ready to sell not sitting on his arse listening to music for hours on end!
It sounds silly and pathetic, please tell me to get a grip!