To think this 'heartbroken man' is an absolute creep?

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This guy is playing piano in public to show his ex how much he 'loves' her.

www.bristolpost.co.uk/news/bristol-news/heartbroken-man-starts-playing-piano-450378

Maybe I'm missing a detail, it's sweet imho. Nothing creepy.
Maybe it's sad he doesn't have something better to do with his time, but that's true for lots of us, anyway.
Hopeless romantic gestures used to be celebrated.

He could try brushing his hair if everything else has failed.

Lljkk but romantic gestures are still massively celebrated, perhaps more so than ever, but that's not what this is. He's effectively holding her to ransom until she talks to him. After four months!

Hopeless romantic gestures used to be celebrated.

It isn't romantic, though. It's creepy male entitlement at its finest.

My ex was romantic, he was an absolute nobber, hateful, abusive prick of man but very good at grand gestures.

I hate big romantic gestures, they mostly just put women under pressure. Like all the proposals at the last Olympics to women athletes, they couldn't have 5 minutes to celebrate their achievements without a bloke muscling in.

Hopeless romantic gestures used to be celebrated.

They dated for 16 weeks

She didnt change his life

She no longer wants to date him so he is trying to guilt her into going out with him again.

If she wanted to be with him, she would be.

Its controlling and emotionally abusive. The fact that he thinks its ok to guilt someone into dating you makes him a dick and probably dangerous.

When this doesnt work, do you really think he will just move on?

What is sweet about trying to coerce a woman into resuming a relationship when she has chosen to end it?

I've had a "hopeless romantic gesture" from someone similar. He turned up at my work with flowers, sounds nice eh? Except I hadn't told him where I worked and it was 45 miles away from his city. This was pre Facebook days, so I'm still unsure how he found me. It didn't stop there either and I had people tell me it was romantic. Romance was the furtherest thing from my mind, I can assure you.

Ha! I wouldn't feel guilty if I were her. I can't figure out where else coercion could come from. He could freeze in the park for all I cared (If I were her).

Very intriguing... are you guys easily made to feel guilty?

Any legal bods around? I know women who have struggled to get a restraining order...would this be enough?

Disclaimer neither my area or jurisdiction but he is not actually harassing her (unless it is outside her door) so probably not.

Agree with everyone else bar 1- he is a tosser of the highest order

If I were his mum I'd be mortified.

Poor woman had a lucky escape. What a creep

Gosh... you don't feel guilty for dumping somebody. Guilt if you dump them with no money when you have joint debts or children. But Guilt for ordinary breaking up? Neah. I'm having a complete Does Not Compute on that. Is that how people think, they can guilt someone back into a relationship? Bizarre.

This isn't a romantic gesture it's a temper tantrum in musical form

Yes. I also really dislike the whole "it's not just me, I'm going to appeal to as many people as possible so that I look like a puppy that's just been kicked and they'll all agree you were mean to dump me".

Mind you, I also found Lisa Stanfield's "Been around the world" a bit odd. Look love, if he's hiding that carefully, he's just not that into you.

(and actually if you read into it a bit he's also a deadbeat dad that is in tons of debt and has bailiffs/ex partners etc after him)

ExLtEveDallas where did you see this?

If that was a woman doing that she'd the article would have implied she was a mental bunny boiler.

That would make me run a mile - but I wonder if it's a publicity stunt

caperberries there are several comments along those lines on the Bristol Post Facebook post of this article, from people who apparently know him. Total bellend.

lljkk the "guilt" comes from society.

You know, those idiots who can only see this as a romantic thing, who can't see this for the controlling, creepy stuff this is, for someone to go so overboard after a mere 4 months.

The same society that still conditions women to put themselves last and please others first, mostly men.

If "Rapunzel" is real, she'll have people going on at her about how romatic this is and why can't she give him another chance. And there will be people around her who will be wanting her to date this bloke again because they love a happy ever after, regardless of whether "Rapunzel" is actually happy in the relationship. So she'll be facing pressure from other people.

I know quite a few people like this.

are you guys easily made to feel guilty?

Not particularly. But that doesnt change his intention. He isnt being romantic. He is being a controlling dickwad.

Its the sentiment as 'if you dont comeback i will hurt myself'. Since he has said he wont stop until he can longer physically play or she comes back.

Its about his intent. A controlling person is a controlling regardless of wether he is successful.

If "Rapunzel" is real, she'll have people going on at her about how romatic this is

As lljkk has just done.

And.....it's really selfish tbh. If there is an actually Rapunzel, people/media might be wanting to find out who she is which is total invasion of privacy.