My friend is cleaning my house! Should I be grateful or offended?

[IfyouseeRitaMoreno]

I had a party. All good. Now my friend who is staying over is cleaning my house. Top to bottom. Dusting, polishing, mopping. I've told her to stop but she won't!

Does that mean she thinks my house is really dirty or is she just being polite? She's raked up dust balls I didn't know existed.

Should I stop her or just relax?

What is the protocol?

Are you sure the house isn't dirty? People only tend to clean what needs cleaning, if she's cleaning your bathroom, for example, I'd assume she thinks it needs cleaning,,,,maybe,she's been itching to do it and just used this opportunity...

However as you don't like doing it, then let her crack on...

I get this urge in my friend's houses and I restrain myself to the kitchen so that it's not obvious

It's not a reflection on them it's just that the house is dirty and it calls to me

Also when I was younger I had other friends who would do this for me so it does not seem odd in my mind

Well maybe it's just me but I would've joined in with regret cleaning. Many hands and all that....

Sounds like a lovely friend to me. Since the boys were born I've had one friend offer to help me with housework and she's only ever seen the place very clean and tidy so I'm sure it's just being helpful. It's a very lovely gesture - maybe she just loves cleaning?!

I am this friend. I like things being clean. I have a friend who lives i a bee-yootiful house but its filled with so much crap and mess its heartbreaking. Give me a free weekend, a similar minded friend and some banging tunes and I'm in there.

Id go help her and stop slagging her off.

Not slagging her off at all. She's lovely. And she physically wouldn't let me help her when I tried.

Update: her DS is allergic to cats, dogs, pollen and dust. Hence the constant cleaning. I always wondered why her place was so immaculate.

As a friend who does this... It's not to be offending. It's to be helpful. If your my actual "friend" which I don't call everyone that. And I don't go to people's houses I don't trust and care for deeply. But if I do and I clean. It's because I love you. And I want to help make your life easier. Because life is hard. And who knows what your going through and maybe not sharing with me or have shared with me. And I know a clean home helps bring positive energy. And I just want to be able to share that feeling with you.