Neighbours complaining that I play music in the shower

[TheDodgyEnd]

Genuinely not sure if IABU so here goes: Lived in my house for over 6 years. New neighbours moved in just over a year ago. I'm a single mum to 2 SN kiddies so it's very exhausting but on Saturdays I get a day off when kids go to their dads. Every Saturday at about 4:30pm (before dinner and before I settle down on the sofa for the evening I take a shower. I take about 20 minutes and during this time I play music on my phone, not quietly as I want to hear it while I'm in the shower but not house-shakingly loudly either. Like I said I do this once a week for 20 minutes, it is one of the few joys I have as I can't do it during the week as I'm listening out for babies, or don't want to disturb them sleeping. Today neighbour has come round literally as soon as I've turned off music and asked me to stop doing it completely as they can hear it (terraced house - I think my bathroom joins their bathroom). Normally I'm such a people pleaser much to my own frustration but this has really got my back up. I said I'd try and be quieter (which just came out and I'm pissed off at myself for saying it because why should I!)
So AIBU for playing music once a week for 20 minutes? Or are they U for asking me to stop? If it makes a difference they have two kids also who are far from quiet and go to bed v late so I hear them thundering up and down their stairs long after my two have gone to bed but I would never dream of saying anything because surely if you live in a terraced property it's just part and parcel of the deal...right?

YABU OP. Why would you listen to music on the phone speaker. Get a Bluetooth speaker, to really enjoy.

I do this too. I have noisy neighbours both sides and one of them has complained once - the music was not loud enough to be heard even downstairs in my own house but the window was open. I just apologised and made sure my window was closed next time, couldn't be bothered with arguing about their constant noise.

Jesus no you are NOBU ! If it was 5am I'd say they may have a point but 430pm, 20 minutes and not 'house party' noise levels, they sound precious as hell. You carry on enjoying your disco in the shower. FFS, some people !

You're playing it through your phone? For 20 minutes? I think they can cope with that, it can't be that loud through a phone - it's not like you've got huge speakers with massive bass thumping away at midnight.
I live in a terrace, I can hear my neighbours - it's just the way it works.

Normally I'd say not unreasonable at the time you mention, part and parcel of having neighbours, but if it's very loud I'd maybe consider turning it down a bit.

Asking you to stop doing it completely is unreasonable on their part.

YANBU it's not even like 4.30pm is anywhere near an anti-social time to play music.

Yanbu. Just carry on as you are. 20mins not even that loud music in the middle of the day on a Saturday is very far from unreasonable

I'd never dream of doing it even mid-evening - in my mind 4:30pm was acceptable

Have they super sonic hearing?

Let them see you getting a delivery of speakers the size of Stonehenge...

YANBU. Ignore such eejits.

Yanbu

i would do it even more but then im like that😀i think they are being ridiculous

YANBU at all, but my partner does this too and the sound of loud music played from an iPhone speaker transferring through a wall can be rather grating. It doesn't really sound like music, it's like this tinny scratchy sound that isn't the most fun to listen to.

I still think they could put up with it for 20 mins every Saturday afternoon! But it might be less annoying for them if you got a shower radio that you can actually take into the shower with you? Then it wouldn't need to be so loud and you'd probably get a better sound from it too!

Not that I think you should have to do this. Just a suggestion!

Finalmente I think it's because I put my phone on the shelf which is on the wall joined to theirs.

Workname lol if only I had the funds that would be so funny

Sometimes the acoustics in bathrooms does do weird things to the sound so perhaps (being quite generous to you neighbours, here) it does seem quite loud.

But...it's 20 minutes one afternoon a week. I just...I don't know why anyone would make a fuss about that! I've had problem neighbours in two places I've lived and if the worst of the noise was just 20 minutes of music one afternoon a week I think I'd have wept for joy!

Carry on, OP. They ABU, not you.

How ridiculous. I'd do it more just to annoy them.

Sing loudly instead, they'll soon...change their tune

And that's why no one would want to know you @huffletuff..

YANBU at all. Twenty minutes of music once a week mid-afternoon is really not something to complain about!

BigDamnHero it's obviously not the only noise we make lol but they are definitely not saints in the noise department either.

I'm pretty sure they don't like us and think we're weird anyway because my kids don't go out and play with the other kids and prefer to be inside in their space and they get a lot of negativity from other kids so I don't think it helps how we look if that makes sense

DJ maybe I'll try that

Yanbu, not at 4.30pm, ignore them.

@peachandplum

What a bizarre little thing to say!

No one would want to know me because I played music on my phone in my own home at a reasonable hour? I can assure you I play music a lot more than that, on a Bluetooth speaker, sometimes shock, horror! fairly loud! We even dance to it sometimes! Luckily, my neighbours are normal and also enjoy music.

Are you the OP's neighbour?