Neighbours complaining that I play music in the shower

[TheDodgyEnd]

Genuinely not sure if IABU so here goes: Lived in my house for over 6 years. New neighbours moved in just over a year ago. I'm a single mum to 2 SN kiddies so it's very exhausting but on Saturdays I get a day off when kids go to their dads. Every Saturday at about 4:30pm (before dinner and before I settle down on the sofa for the evening I take a shower. I take about 20 minutes and during this time I play music on my phone, not quietly as I want to hear it while I'm in the shower but not house-shakingly loudly either. Like I said I do this once a week for 20 minutes, it is one of the few joys I have as I can't do it during the week as I'm listening out for babies, or don't want to disturb them sleeping. Today neighbour has come round literally as soon as I've turned off music and asked me to stop doing it completely as they can hear it (terraced house - I think my bathroom joins their bathroom). Normally I'm such a people pleaser much to my own frustration but this has really got my back up. I said I'd try and be quieter (which just came out and I'm pissed off at myself for saying it because why should I!)
So AIBU for playing music once a week for 20 minutes? Or are they U for asking me to stop? If it makes a difference they have two kids also who are far from quiet and go to bed v late so I hear them thundering up and down their stairs long after my two have gone to bed but I would never dream of saying anything because surely if you live in a terraced property it's just part and parcel of the deal...right?

Despacito a la bagpipe, anyone?

It's already a thing, start listening to in the shower

Loyly 😂 I'm so going to work up the nerve to play this one next Saturday! As in play on my phone, not sure I can master the ancient art of bagpiping in 6 days 😂

I think they're being very precious over twenty minutes - but listening to music through a phone speaker is not great for you either. Try that b&m shower speaker someone mentioned, I bet it's super cheap and better than the phone.

However get if in a few weeks so the neighbours don't think it was any thing to do with them.

They can hear it on your phone? Please tell me what phone you have I like a phone with a good speaker lol

Before I had read your post but had read the thread title I expected to say you were unreasonable (I have an incredibly low neighbour noise tolerance due to a hideous neighbour in our last house) but I actually think you sound like a dream to live next to. 20 minutes music a week on a phone speaker, wow, your neighbours have obviously never experienced a neighbour from hell. Carry on as you are.

I have to say that while you are not being unreasonable I do hate the attitude of 'why did they buy a terrace house then' from some posters. Not everyone can afford a detached house in the middle of a field.

I'd get a Bluetooth speaker with a suction cup to stick to the tiles in the shower (away from the party wall), that way it will be closer and you can have the volume down a bit and it will probably sound better.

then tell them what you have done to reduce the noise they hear and say, while we are on the subject of noise disturbance can you stop your dc being noisy on the stairs after 9pm as my dc are in bed and it wakes them up.

tell them to fuck off.

Speaker and sub woofer ?sp and point and wall.
The teenager next door (terrace) plays the piano, drums and sings. He does it at reasonable times so we ignore it.

*at

I'm not kidding - this came up on my FB after I read this

Are either of them shift workers? Is it just the volume, or is it the time of your shower that's annoying them?

Rudedog it must be a sign.

Thanks all for your comments and advice. I'm not very bold (but am trying to be more so) and I question myself far more than I should. I shall continue my weekly shower ritual at peace (and possibly with a shower speaker. For MY benefit, not theirs!)

Have a lovely Saturday evening all, tonight is my relax night so maltesers and tv for me! X

Haha 😂 rude dog I was just about to share that too.

Put your phone in a bowl - we use breakfast bowls. You'll be able to turn the phone volume down a bit and use it to direct the sound towards you.
No need to buy anything, or get batteries for a shower-speaker.

Pringle not shift workers, mum works FT and dad is a SAHF. They just don't like my noise (or me).

Next week as you are getting into your lovely relaxing bath, knock on the wall, tell them you are about to hop into said bath and listen to music. Then ask them if they have any requests.

Your neighbours are being ridiculous....20 mins of music that isn't coming from a sound system.

My apology. I had you soaking in a tub not having a shower. But you can still ask for requests.

YABU.

If it's loud enough for them to hear it through the wall and come around to complain, then it's obviously too/very loud. Noise through a phone can be extremely loud.

Saying you can hear their kids isn't a fair comparison, as I'm sure they can hear yours too.

That's rubbish ^. You can hear your neighbours in many terraced houses. That does not constitute nuisance noise. If they approach you again, ignore, or say 'to be honest your request was so ridiculous I thought you must have been joking'.

Emmyrose are you my neighbour? I would normally take all advice on board but you are a lone voice in your opinion, it seems. So I shall continue as I was.

Must be very loud and grating through a crappy phone, but that is just about tolerable in the daytime if you know it is going to stop.

Once a week for 20 minutes maybe he annoying but it's not unreasonable. They can just suck it up.

Emmy that sounded harsher than intended. I just always end up bending to everyone else's will and for once I'm digging my heels in a bit