Neighbours complaining that I play music in the shower

[TheDodgyEnd]

Genuinely not sure if IABU so here goes: Lived in my house for over 6 years. New neighbours moved in just over a year ago. I'm a single mum to 2 SN kiddies so it's very exhausting but on Saturdays I get a day off when kids go to their dads. Every Saturday at about 4:30pm (before dinner and before I settle down on the sofa for the evening I take a shower. I take about 20 minutes and during this time I play music on my phone, not quietly as I want to hear it while I'm in the shower but not house-shakingly loudly either. Like I said I do this once a week for 20 minutes, it is one of the few joys I have as I can't do it during the week as I'm listening out for babies, or don't want to disturb them sleeping. Today neighbour has come round literally as soon as I've turned off music and asked me to stop doing it completely as they can hear it (terraced house - I think my bathroom joins their bathroom). Normally I'm such a people pleaser much to my own frustration but this has really got my back up. I said I'd try and be quieter (which just came out and I'm pissed off at myself for saying it because why should I!)
So AIBU for playing music once a week for 20 minutes? Or are they U for asking me to stop? If it makes a difference they have two kids also who are far from quiet and go to bed v late so I hear them thundering up and down their stairs long after my two have gone to bed but I would never dream of saying anything because surely if you live in a terraced property it's just part and parcel of the deal...right?

Not the neighbour but 'I'd do it more to annoy them' says an awful lot about your caliber.

I am very noise phobic and hate hearing other people's music. However music through a phone is never going to be that loud. It's bass that upsets me and there won't be that much bass on a phone.

Yanbu at all! 20 minutes once a week and through your phone? They are being absolutely ridiculous! Carry on as you were

B and M do a waterproof speaker, it's seriously loud.
You should buy one.

I do this as well on my phone or when I'm getting ready. You are not doing it at 11pm or for hours so I would ignore and carry on they are ridiculous and can go live in the middle of nowhere if they want silence

I have a waterproof Bluetooth speaker that hangs in the shower. If you had one of those you wouldn't have to have it as loud, and you'd be able to hear better. But you're not being unreasonable, no.

I also listen to music/and or tv on my phone in the bath. It's really not unreasonable.

They are being ridiculous. They have got confused between being able to hear your neighbour in a terraced house and noise nuisance. Put the music on a bit louder so you can't hear the door next time.

Thanks all, I feel much more justified in my annoyance!

@peachandplum Yes. It says I wouldn't let a stranger walk all over me and tell me not to do something perfectly normal in my own home. Thank goodness I am who I am

Put your phone somewhere else in the bathroom?

We have a speaker case you can put your phone in, means you can hear it better & it's protected if you put it on the floor, say.

NoSquirrels I just feel I shouldn't have to put it on the floor in the first place...if I want it on the shelf (which I do so that I can hear it better.)

If your neighbours don't like hearing their neighbours, then why the hell are they in a terrace?

My neighbour sometimes plays cheesy music on her radio. I've been known to sing along :o

Put your phone in a pint glass. It acts like a speaker.

Offer to give it up. But hey, you're entitled to a hobby and some time to wind down, so you'll be taking up bagpipes instead...

Seriously, being able to hear your neighbours in a terraced house is just part of life.

It will be really loud because it's on the shared wall and being amplified through their wall.

Put it elsewhere and you can have it even louder

so you'll be taking up bagpipes instead* - YES!* Maybe I'll learn some current hits - Despacito a la bagpipe, anyone?

If the hint of music playing from a phone is pushing them over the edge to the point of coming round, does anyonr else why the hell they bought a TERRACED house?

It's like people being annoyed that their neighbours use their garden in an afternoon/evening, or buy in a nice family area and seem surprised that children play out with each other.
Some peoplr are weird. Just ignore them OP.

Your neighbours would hate me, all the windows open songs playing from 12pm-3pm.

I didn't think it was that loud till a neighbour popped round and asked me, if I would mind not playing the song that was playing as they had the kids out in the garden. It was London Underground I have since taken that along with a few other choice ones off.

Apparently they didn't mind the music as they couldn't always hear it, but they could certainly hear the word cunt being yelled

I would tell the neighbours why you do it.

Unless they have hearts of stone they will understand, surely?

it can't be that loud through a phone

It can be. The little shit who lives next door to me plays music very loudly on his phone. I thought something about our house structures must be amplifying it until I heard him play it outside. It's very loud. And I curse whoever bought him the fucking thing...

Don't you dare stop doing it! Get a decent speaker and have a long bath instead! Sod them

If you do want to compromise, you could put a suction cup hook above your shower, pop your phone into a plastic bag and hang it on the hook. That way you can hear it and it might actually sound better if its not fully turned up.

The little shit who lives next door to me plays music very loudly on his phone. I thought something about our house structures must be amplifying it until I heard him play it outside. It's very loud. And I curse whoever bought him the fucking thing...

Raincloud - is it just the music that makes them a 'little shit'?