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Cousin stole 6k off me and family still taking her

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:42

I probably am being unreasonable but I'm hurt and annoyed.
I was close with this cousin and she ended up stealing 6k off me on God knows what probably her cocaine habit.

I fell out with one of her sisters because I called her about what this cousin (her sister) did and she told me not to insult her sister to her because I called her a junkie

Another sister the younger one I'm close with. She slightly fell out with her sister (my cousin) over this but I have looked on her snap chat and the younger sis put up a photo of her and cousin

It annoyed me. It is the younger sisters daughters birthday bit I'm just disgusted anyone in the family regardless of they are sisters or not speak to her

The 6k was my inheritance money from when my mother (their aunty) died which is why the situation is so raw to me.

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LittleLights · 08/09/2017 22:43

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Weimaragi · 08/09/2017 22:44

Cant really get my head around the sisters, cousins, cousins sisters bit but please tell me you went to the police?!!!

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:44

I am never usually a person who will be like "you can't be friends with her if we aren't friends"
But considering the situation am I wrong?

I just hate her so much I trusted her

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:45

Police can't do anything it's civil

There are 3 sisters
They are all my cousins
We are all related

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:45

And she signs on so civil court means nothing

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:48

She's already spent the money as well

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HeddaGarbled · 08/09/2017 22:49

They are sisters. I doubt they are going to cut each other out of their lives out of loyalty to a cousin.

How did she get your money and have you reported it to the police?

Weimaragi · 08/09/2017 22:50

6k is so much money! How did she manage it?
Unfortunately if it was drugs she needs you now more than ever, of course you are angry but she needs help!

FenceSitter01 · 08/09/2017 22:51

How did she get her hands on your Money?
Did you keep cash under the mattress?
Did she steal your Pin and cash card?

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:54

I borrowed her 2500 to pay her rent which she was going to get evicted for.
The rest I left in her house after selling a car and I went abroad when I came back it was gone.
It's civil because police said she will claim the money is hers
Obviously the 2500 I lent but we all know I'm not getting it back.

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:57

And the car belongs to my mum she said she wanted it sold in her will and the money to be split between me my sister and my brother. So that is classed as my inheritance
The 2500 was directly from my inheritance

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thenightsky · 08/09/2017 22:58

So you borrowed 2.5 k off her. So how did she end up with 6k of yours? Did she nick your pin?

MagdalenLaundry · 08/09/2017 22:58

Look I'm really sorry for what has happened to you but you didn't borrow her anything
You lent she borrowed
Do you have any proof or anything written down you could use for the small claims court?

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 22:59

Do you think I should just cut them all off.
The younger sister asked me to lend her 20 pounds today as well. After she pays it back I might just cut them all off. I just don't want nothing to do with them
I hate my cousin so much I could not care less what happens t0 her

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 23:00

No only text messages and whatsapp messages as proof
Everybody knows she stole it but they still speak with her.

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FenceSitter01 · 08/09/2017 23:01

You gave her £2500, did you get a written contract of repayment?

The balance of £3500, odd place to leave it, why didn't you bank it? You alleged she is a drug addict and poor with money (you just paid her rent arrears). You cant prove she stole it, you have no witnesses, could have been any number of people traipsing through her house.

Whereas I agree theft should never happen, and this is going to sound like victim blaming, you simply do not leave a wodge of cash laying in the path of a drug addict, not if you ever want to see it again. You have to take some responsibility for you own possessions.

And no, I wouldn't expect her sisters to side with you (cousin or not) again their own sister.

HeddaGarbled · 08/09/2017 23:02

Cross posted.

Your beef is with the cheating cousin not her sisters. You shouldn't expect them to place loyalty to you above loyalty to their sister.

She can pay you back in instalments. Don't just throw up your hands in despair and let this go. Pursue the civil route and agree to an instalment repayment.

Escargot82 · 08/09/2017 23:02

Do you mean you lent her 2.5k? And you left 3.5k in cash in a drug addict's house while you went overseas?

Why didn't you put the 3.5k in your bank account?
Hmm

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 23:02

Fence
I have had that convo with everyone you can think of over and over including the police

All I can say is I trusted her.

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MagdalenLaundry · 08/09/2017 23:02

I think messages would count as proof
Does she admit she has the money and is the amount stated
I think you should try for small claims
If you won does she have any means to pay you back, does she work

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 23:03

Because the bank was closed
I went abroad

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 23:04

I didn't know she had a drug problem when I left it

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Gingernaut · 08/09/2017 23:04

State once that you are missing £6k which she hasn't just stolen from you, but your siblings.

Then block the lot of them and tell your siblings why.

If anyone asks why you're not in touch, tell them that you lent some money to pay her rent, you trusted her to look after your inheritance and she stole it.

Block them. If you don't, the thief will try to get to you through them.

You don't have an aunt or cousins any more.

Nicknacky · 08/09/2017 23:04

Why would you leave it in her house even if the bank was closed?

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Maskoff · 08/09/2017 23:05

Mag not now she signs on but she was working before.
I say the amounts in the messages she just says she will never steal off me and she will pay me back

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