DD dad wants to take her away in term time

[Lavendarlilac]

Name changer with three children.
My DD's dad has texted to say he wants to take her away for a week (abroad) in term-time and asked if I'd pay the fine.
I'm completely against this, even though I haven't been able to take DD and others away on holiday anywhere this year. She hasn't been abroad since she was 2. She is now 7 and would love to go (I haven't told her).
I've told him why I can't agree. He thinks nothing of it. He said he will tell her exactly why she isn't going if I don't let her.
He's never taken her away with him before apart from a couple of nights away at lodges/caravan here and there, but now seems keen.

Well if she's only seven it might ok this once. But he should pay the fine. Why on earth would be ask you to pay!

He expects you to pay the fine??

I wouldn't let my child go either, and although I'd be annoyed at having to deal with an issue where there doesn't need to be one, I'd be happy to explain to my child why I didn't agree to the holiday.

Eh?? I think it's fine for her to go as long as she's not missing anything important - we've taken my stepdaughter on holiday in term time before. But why on earth does he think you'd pay the fine? That's ridiculous.

Why on earth should you pay a fine because he wants to take her out of school? He can cough up for holiday time holidays like the rest of us and not disrupt his child's education.

Remember the fine is per parent. Up to £180 each. I'd be very reluctant to agree to this unless he hands yout £360 before talking to dd. Can you trust him to do that?

Let him take her, but make it clear you have zero intention of paying HIS fine.

He's a cheeky twat expecting you to pay the fine.

If he reimburses you for the fine then i think its ok

I assume that he's expecting you to pay your share of the fine - as I understand it's per parent - rather than the whole fine.

Each parent will have to pay a fine.

So is the father going to pay his own fine? Or is he expecting you to pay both?

I don't mind the taking away bit, but you could book a weekend accommodation for you and dd with the fine amount!! He should pay it. It's part of the holiday cost for term time holidays.

If I didn't want her to go away then I wouldn't even pay half the fine - he should be prepared to pay all as he's the one initiating this.

At 7 I would take them out of school and I am doing with mine later this year. However it's not your job to pay the fine! Balls to that!

He is being absolutely U. It's not OK to take your child out of school during term time and you certainly shouldn't pay the fine.

I'd let her go, it would be sad for her to miss out on having a good time however I would be telling him under no circumstances would I be paying the fine!! How rude! Why should you have to fork out because he wants to take her away? Doesn't make sense.

Just text back 'No'.

Why would you pay the fine? HE should pay the fine! Including your's if you get fined too. Upfront.

But I don't think he should be allowed to take her out during term time anyway, unless it's for a wedding/funeral etc.

I would say no, and contact the Local Authority for their advice. Tell the you don't want her to go, you've said no, but you're afraid he's going to insist anyway ... and will you be fined if you are unable to prevent him doing this?

I would just say no to him - not in term time. I would say exactly that if my ExP said that to me.

Er, no.

You would both be fined. It isn't 'a fine', it's per parent.

As above. Speak to the LEA.

He's probably only doing it now that some areas that had suspended fining have reinstated them and he thinks he can be a fucking dick about it and cost you hundreds at the same time as looking like Dad of the Year. He'll be sadfaced in the papers with some Mickey Mouse ears on claiming his ex 'won't let him make memories'.

I'd probably let her go, however I'd strongly voice my disapproval to Ex. And say to him clearly that he needs to contact the school and he needs to pay the fine. If the school bring it up with you say the truth, that you don't endorse it.

By the time he has paid the fines he could have upgraded to a holiday outside school time. Or somewhere in the UK because it is not compulsory for 7 year olds to go abroad, even if it is five years since they last did!

I thought there were different rules for seperated children.. I thought it was only one parent ..Maybe the RP who got fined.

Fine is per parent/per period of absence. So he wants you to pay both of your fines, presumably?

Cheeky git. Tell him he can take her if he pays for the holiday, plus all fines, and helps her catch up on any work that she misses.