Outgrowing names

[Happydoingitjusttheonce]

In dentist waiting room yesterday and dental nurse calls "Alfie". A near 6ft 16 year old with a tracksuit and key wig rises from his seat. He probably made a cute Alfie when he was a toddler. Do kids outgrow cutesy names?

Is it a self hate thing? Are you burning with shame over a parent or grandparent who came from a humble background?

If what you are posting here is company policy and not just what you do because you can get away with it, then you do represent your company.

Actually, if you can get away with doing what you are doing, then what you are doing is de facto company policy anyway, or the company is so badly run that one single individual is responsible for all hiring decisions and there is no scrutiny, which is a huge problem.

user1490607838 I know a Ceilidh who went to KCL. Not sure if that's "better" or "worse" than Kayleigh..

I think you're a poor recruiter to look at name as a choice marker to suitability for role! Would you overlook ethic origins for role suitability too? Names associated with age?
I ask as someone with a huge amount of recruitment in role...
Fwiw I know a Rachel age 7, a Christopher age 7 and a kitty who is late 30s- all 'wrong ' for the age associations 😂

OP, what you're posting here is not just embarrassingly ignorant, but also utterly dickish.

Yet you seem to take pride in it?

Are you just a complete moron or is there more to it (as squoosh suggests)?

In my company a group of us look over applications and then pool our ideas. If anyone said 'candidate B met all the essential criteria but I'm discounting her because she's called Lisa-Marie' people would think they'd lost their marbles.

I'm from the working class squoosh. Try again

Ahhhh interesting. Ashamed of your background and keen to put as much distance between yourself and your past as possible?

The rule is bullshit and you continue to make yourself look like an insufferable snob. Well done.

I thInk 'old' names are the worst.,. Saps any energy or originality.
The georges and Charles, or old names for girls. It speaks volumes of parents with no sense at all of the future.

May I just add that any bias towards a name or otherwise is just ridiculous. My favourite will always be original names, but others prefer more traditional versions. I love the fact we can all choose, in my grandmothers lifetime names were simply passed down.

It is not discriminatory to say that some names are more popular with people who live in poorer areas and have lower levels of education. It's fact. This x 1000. ^

The person applying for the job will have the required qualifications, so why on earth should it matter if they grew up in a poorer area, with lower levels of education amongst their peer group, other than snobbery. What a depressing thread.

I give you Pebbles. Female 30 ish.

In my company, and in my life, nobody except the people who read this thread know I do this. And none of you know who I am. I could be anyone, your colleague, your nurse, your kids teacher. There are enough comments on this thread to demonstrate I am not alone in my bias.

The point about religious observance is rubbish. A pagan HR director tried to stop Halloween activities one year. I join in Ramadan because one of my team who is also a great friend said "happy, it's a good chance to lose the weight you're always meaning about". This friend gifts me wine on my birthday. No one is uptight about their own or anyone else's religion. I'd hate to work in the environment some of you seem to.

You can continue to tell me what a terrible person I am for this but I'm really not, I'm just being open about my particular bias. We all have them. Life is not black and white enough to say "name bias = bad person" and if you think it is then you lack maturity. But if it makes you feel better about having certain names or giving your kids them, carry on.

I frankly don't give a care what anonymous strangers on the internet think. Neither should you.

You can continue to tell me what a terrible person I am for this but I'm really not, I'm just being open about my particular bias

Yes but you actually act on it

Plenty do mirror, they just won't tell you

You can continue to tell me what a terrible person I am for this but I'm really not, I'm just being open about my particular bias

I get it! It's like all those Britain First people on Facebook aren't racists at all, they're just open about their bias...

You can continue to tell me what a terrible person I am for this but I'm really not

To paraphrase a very successful Maggie - if you have to tell people you are actually really not such a terrible person like you come across as, then you probably actually are.

Are you also the type of person who calls a spade a spade and tells it like it is? Do you suffer fools gladly OP?

Plenty do mirror, they just won't tell you

So? Then they're also morally corrupt.

I have a personal (and unjustified) bias against posh named people TBH. I still invite them for interview. And if they're the best fit for the job based on that interview, they get the job.