To want a five minute break at the weekend.

[BabiesEverywhere]

Currently my DH works hard at his full time career job, he leaves the house at 6am and gets home between 4pm and 7pm depending on work load.

I am a SAHM (on maternity leave) and I do all the food shopping, cleaning, cooking and childcare including night waking on my own.

So far we are both happy, I am home with our daughter and my DH doesn't have to do any housework.

But at the weekends I ask him to help me look after our daughter for 5 minutes here or there, so I can pop on the dinner on or have a quick 'baby free' shower and I get complaints of why can't I take the baby with me

During the week I do take her everywhere, she crawls naked in the bath when I am in the shower and sits just outside the kitchen with toys whilst I put on the dinner but it takes twice the time to do anything dragging a baby around with me, I just want a short break at the weekend so I can do things faster without my precious baby in tow.

Am I being unreasonable ?

I can't justify paying for a shopping delivery service but I do have a wonderful father who is willing to take me shopping and sit in the cafe with my DD whilst I do the weekly shop...hurrah....Door to door car ride no less

I feel much better today, I was only up once last night and it is amazing the difference having a better amount of sleep makes. I still need to talk to DH about having a proper break but I don't feel as so desperate as I did yesterday....I feel rested and the sun is shining...

Hi, My DH was like this with our DD1 until one day when is was pregnant with DD2 i felt very ill and had a high fever and i just went to bed for the rest of the day.
Luckily it was a weekend and he took DD1 round to his mum's to see if she could look after her but she was not in.
This was when dd1 was 2yrs old and it was the first time he actually spent most of the day with her by himself.
They had a great time together. After i had recovered he said he enjoyed it so much he would like to do it at least half a day each weekend.
He confessed to me that he did not help out at weekends as he was "scared" of the responsibility. He could cope with looking after clients and his work by children were
scary!
He still does not have to do any housework, cooking, cleaning, gardening or pet upkeep but the gives me half to a full day off a week!
AB

BabiesEverywhere you could do a shop online fortnightly mostly for heavy/large items & just pick up other things locally as it really is worth the time you save doing the shopping.

Glad you're feeling brighter today!

Glad your feeling better this morning, its amazing what a good night sleep can do for you. Hopefully you will get to speak to your DH tonight and get this sorted out.. Take care

Wonders will never cease...

My DH not only looked after DD for 10 mins this evening, whilst I struggled to eat tea and chase her around the living at the same time WITHOUT being asked but he took her to bed as well !!!

So I pushed my luck and said I would be going to the cinema on Saturday and that he would be babysitting for a couple of hours and he just agreed - no moaning

I think the row we had at the weekend started him thinking and I think he has started to 'see' how tired I am and how much I do around the house and with our DD.

Lets hope this continues

This may sound a bit way-out but I believe that when you start to take your difficulties seriously and other people say 'yes, you're right to feel like that', you actually start approaching life differently without even being aware of it and those around you respond to that change in you.

Either that or your DH has been looking at your MN file!!

Fantastic!

Yay

BE, thats great news. you must be so pleased! long may it continue

Thanks Ladies, For the positive posts, they really cheered me up