Dd threw sisters' shoes away WWYD

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On holiday with DH, our 3 DDs - DD1 (6), DTs (4) and my parents. Went to a local town and flip flops were on sale so my DM bought each girl a new pair, everyone over the moon put them straight on.

We went for lunch and the girls wanted to play in the square next to the restaurant so we let them (in full view of us). Never noticed that DD3 came running back to eat without flip flops on.

When we came to leave, DD3 said she'd taken her shoes off and left them on a bench "over there" and pointed to a stone bench about 20 yds away. I was cross and shouted her that she shouldn't have taken them off and went with her to get them. They were nowhere to be seen.

We scoured the area but couldn't find them. Her twin (DD2) then told me that she had hidden them by putting them in the bin We scoured the bins and still couldn't find them but all the bin bags seemed quite new so could be that the bins had been replaced whilst we ate lunch (I didn't see).

I didn't know who to punish - all 3 girls were gutted and crying. I wasn't quite sure what the whole truth was - if DD2 was just saying about the bins so DD3 wouldn't be in so much trouble.

We went straight to the car and drove 30 minutes back to hotel without going to the park as we had previously promised them.

My Dad has now said tonight that my children are unruly and have no discipline and it wouldn't have happened in his day and if I'd have "pulled a stunt like that I'd have got a clip round the ear". I'm gutted. I was at a loss how to deal with today - there were 4 adults there and feel like I'm the one getting the blame for how I dealt with it.

AIBU? WWYD?

Your kids are not unruly, they are young kids. I would stop holidaying with your parents, your dad doesn't sound like a very nice person to have around any of you.

I think the fact you think DD2 might have fibbed that she put them in the bin to cover for DD3, and that DD1 was upset about the shoes being all on their own shows what lovely empathic children you are raising and you should be proud of all 3 of them

I think it shows that they were all shit-scared over the adults complete overreaction.

It's only a pair of flip flops your kids are 6 and 4 I wouldn't do anything, I'd be slightly annoyed at the missing shoes but that's about it.

I mean, it was silly behaviour but 4 year olds are quite silly!

It deserves a minor telling off but that's it as far as I'm concerned.

They are a bit unruly when all together it's pretty exhausting keeping all 3 in line all the time to my parents standards That way madness lies...keep them "in-line" to your standards. You are never going to meet your parents standards!

I think it shows that they were all shit-scared over the adults complete overreaction.

True. What could be simpler she took her shoes off to play, was called over for lunch, forgot to put them back on & when lunch was finished they werent where she left them. Kids start making up stories as adults lose their shit over a pair of cheap flip flops and actually start rummaging in bins for them and ops dad says they need a good hiding or words to that effect.

Over react much?

What concerns me is 4 adults and 3 children and not one of you noticed her taking the shoes off in the first place and apparently werent watching them