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She talks to me like shit...

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Louiser239 · 04/09/2017 10:05

My "friend" of 11 years talks to me like shit and snappy but wouldn't dream of talking to her other friends like that.
She puts me down a lot but bigs the other girls up "ooh you look fabulous"
"Wow you look amazing"
With me I get nothing.
If I suggest a pub she will say no we aren't going in..if one of the others suggest it "oh that's a fabulous idea"
It's all so fake,I'm thinking of just cutting her out of my life.

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Louiser239 · 04/09/2017 10:06

I will talk and she rolls her eyes to other friends and smirks..as if they've been talking shit about me.

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ChasedByBees · 04/09/2017 10:07

She doesn't sound like someone nice to have around. You don't seem to like her very much so that's reason enough to drop her.

Ifailed · 04/09/2017 10:07

aren't kids back in school yet?

Ilovecoleslaw · 04/09/2017 10:07

She's not your friend, get rid

PandorasXbox · 04/09/2017 10:08

Why in gods name are you putting up with this? Get rid today.

KatharinaRosalie · 04/09/2017 10:09

why do you spend time with her?

OstentatiousWanking · 04/09/2017 10:09

Get rid. Life's to short for that crap.

coddiwomple · 04/09/2017 10:09

why are you friends with her? Just don't see her ever again.

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Louiser239 · 04/09/2017 10:09

I'm 30 so hardly a kid.
I did like her till she changed with me but it does become hard to like someone who is so mean spirited to me.

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AlternativeTentacle · 04/09/2017 10:09

Why would you spend any time with her? Go find some decent people to hang out with.

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Louiser239 · 04/09/2017 10:10

I don't have that many friends,I didn't want to get rid and regret it further down the line.

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Maudlinmaud · 04/09/2017 10:10

Cut her off. Life is too short.

awifeyforlifey · 04/09/2017 10:12

It doesn't sound like you two like each other very much, to be honest. I certainly wouldn't be spending my free time as an adult with anyone who felt that way about me.

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Louiser239 · 04/09/2017 10:13

That's the thing I did class her as a friend and did/do like her but I don't understand why she does this to me? I make a effort to text and she gives a few word replies and wouldn't initiate a convo anymore.

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gamerchick · 04/09/2017 10:14

But she's not a friend now how is getting rid worse than that? Confused

Up to you, it's like a form of self harm I personally think..willingly offering to be someone's whipping boy.

MyBrilliantDisguise · 04/09/2017 10:14

You won't regret it if you dump her. She's horrible to you - it's very bad for your self-esteem to spend time with her.

thecatsthecats · 04/09/2017 10:14

Ooh, I hate the absence of a compliment/gushing over others as a form of rudeness. They aren't actually specifically doing anything to you at all, so your complaint can sound self-absorbed (and obviously it's not always necessary to be the centre of attention), but it absolutely is rude.

Don't make things difficult for yourself with your real friends because of her, but don't bother with her for her own sake.

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Louiser239 · 04/09/2017 10:15

I was speaking to a good friend yesterday and she seems to think she does it because she thinks she can get away with it with me.

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Louiser239 · 04/09/2017 10:17

It's the way she does it...
She will say to girl 1 -oh you look fabulous
Girl 2-wow that top is amazing then look me up and down and say nothing.
I do need anyone to say I look good /bad but I can feel something off (if you know what I mean)

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BMW6 · 04/09/2017 10:19

Sounds like she is trying to "dump" you but you are not getting the hint TBH.
Time to let it go. Don't contact her, don't respond if she contacts you.
Go out and meet new friends.

hairuptoday · 04/09/2017 10:30

When I have been treated like this it was because I had something that the rude person wanted. e.g. boyfriend, flat, car. It's just uncontrolled envy/jealousy, call it what you like, and there's no point in having her as a friend since she doesn't understand the concept.

kissmethere · 04/09/2017 10:32

Dump her. She's being noticeably nasty and not a good friend. How you do it is up to you but I'd be being vocal to her and say you're not appreciating her behaviour And rudeness. Don't waste time on her.

PollyFlint · 04/09/2017 10:32

The question 'Why is she like this towards me?' can't be answered by a bunch of strangers who have never met either of you, unfortunately. We don't know her, or you - it's anybody's guess.

However, if you feel that she is routinely rude and unpleasant to you, then it's ridiculous to stay 'friends'. For one reason or another, she isn't being nice and you aren't making each other happy when you see each other. So stop seeing her if you can.

AppleBosom · 04/09/2017 10:40

I would confront her since you're already thinking of ending it you have nothing to lose.. you can email her why you are cutting it off because it sounds like you have a lot of friends in common and will see each other around so i would tell her why since im sure people and her will ask why you cut her off.

Davenotdave · 04/09/2017 10:43

I had a friend like this. I have few friends and I've known her for ages and work in the same company so see her most days. I realised that all she did was bitch about other people and take the piss out of me /be rude about my life choices. The next time she picked on me I told her I'd had enough, blocked her on social media and at work I only speak to her when required, only professionally. It took a while, and I'm sure she bitched about it, but it's like a weight off of my shoulders.

Your 'friend' is toxic, you'll feel much better off without her.

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