Visit newborn or go to wedding?

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I am starting a new 9-5 job tomorrow so am unable to take any time off this week.

My sister is being induced with her first child on Tuesday and has asked me to visit this coming weekend. However I have already booked flights and a hotel to a wedding 400 miles away. The wedding is for a friend I knew in secondary school and I have had this booked for months.

My sister is quite upset I won't be dropping the wedding to visit her and her baby this weekend.

AIBU to go to the wedding and visit my sister on another weekend?

Go to the wedding. Baby will still be there later.

I'd see her point if she was a single mother with no family there to help her, but that's clearly not the case.

As things are, she doesn't need you to visit, she just wants. (Or thinks she does. She might not even feel like it when the baby is there, as people pointed out)

Wedding for sure

The baby will look pretty much the same the next week

Go to the wedding, cancel the cheque, consider penguin bollards

Is she only keeping the baby for a week then?

The induction might not work, resulting in a Cx, the baby or she might need extra care (we were in for a week post-induction), she might be a blubbering wreck of baby blues, sore foof and leaking boobs ....

Of course you should go to your friends' wedding!

Go to the wedding!

Depending how quickly things move along for your sister she might not have even had the baby by the end of the week never mind be back home and feel up to having visitors!

I was induced on a Friday morning, had DD late Saturday night and didn't get out of hospital until the Tuesday afternoon due to complications and I didn't have a c section.

FFS, weddings are shit and babies are ace.

I completely agree with this....but if I'd said I'd go to the wedding, then I'd still go to the wedding and would go to see the baby asap afterwards. The bride and groom will a) be expecting you and b) will have spent money catering for you, so it's incredibly rude to blow them out at short notice to see your sister and her baby (major emergency notwithstanding, obviously).

Wedding.

I love babies and am ambivalent about weddings, but it seems a no brainer to attend the wedding in this case as you've outlaid money for the flights etc. I take it your sister didn't offer to reimburse you for the money you've outlaid.

Not to mention it'd be incredibly rude to cancel on your friend at this late stage and expect her to absorb the costs she's already paid for the meal.