To be annoyed at friend giving 14 year old tequila?

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Personally I was fucking livid.

Thoughts please......

I will join you on the livid couch.
Is it your own 14 year old?

Depends was it in her home? Because it's not actually illegal -

Was at my house. She brought it with her. I was running back & forth making cups of tea so not in the room.

Was absolutely furious & threw her out of my house.

Has it made her sick? Hopefully it has.

I got drunk on tequila at 15 and was violently sick for two days. 30 years later the slightest whiff of it still makes me heave.

How old is your friend?

Wjile giving a 14 year old tequila is obviously wrong, there's a big difference in whether out friend was 19 or 39.

Your not out, sorry.

What do you mean by giving tequila?

Is this a case of: "You can have a tiny taste of my margarita"? or: "Let's do shots"?

She's about 45. I've no idea where her head was. I got hold of it about half a shot in. If I hadn't God knows how much they would have had. The kids felt it was pushed onto them. So so cross.

Neat? I imagine the 14-year-old is annoyed. Unless they've been drinking it on a regular basis before.

Yes, YANBU to be annoyed.

This was the whole lime, salt, shot scenario.

Told friend in front of 10 other friends it was totally unacceptable and asked her to leave me house - she did.

Am furious my kids have had this pushed onto them & tbh they not happy about it either.

YANBU
I'd be furious, livid, and to be quite frank, not quite sure the 'friendship' would survive, especially as the kids felt it was pushed onto them.

I don't understand why she would do that. You were right to throw her out.

User. Pretty much what I'm feeling. Honestly reeling from it but absolutely telling 'friend' to get out of my house was justified.

YANBU how immature is your friend?

Even if you were giving a teenager a taste of something you'd ask the parents first.

45??? When I first read your title, I assumed it was the child's friend i.e. Another teen not your friend, a supposed adult?!

And tequila? Good god! A sip of wine or beer if the parent has okayed it, maybe, but full on tequila? Bleeurghh!

Rage away OP, she's totally in the wrong.

14 yrs old smoke, look at open and drink. US BY to be eggy, though MY to be a bit miffed

Neutrogena ,

Have you had a visit from the OP's friend?

So she gave a shot to more than one of your kids? Did they drink it?

Were you having some kind of party?

oh but better they try it safely at a young age etc etc
bollocks! I'd be livid too. the more people who refuse to normalise young teenager so drimking the better IMO. well done for not playing it down, for taking a stand

@Phosphorus

Nope, not me!

I'm alcoholic myself and not had a drink in over 10 years.
Sounds like the child was safe trying tequila in a safe environment.
Too many precious people on these threqds

Good grief. What's wrong with you? She should have asked but the fourteen year old could have checked with you, too. You had the child at a party with adults - why did you do that if you weren't expecting the child to be treated as an adult?

Or did the friend bring tequila to afternoon tea?

Oh bloody hell, I am far from precious when it comes to most things actually. I am certainly a lot more relaxed about alcohol than some of the people I know.
I would be fine with my dc having a sip or even a small glass of wine / beer etc at 14 but shots of tequila are something else.

Dear God. I'm quite a liberal parent but that's ridiculous.

My DC were offered wine/fizz etc with meals or at celebrations when younger. But no way would DD (14) be offered neat spirits!

Your DC being around the house when you've got friends over for a few drinks doesn't mean that they're invited to join in! YANBU. I'd have felt the same.

YANBU. I'd have been furious.