To think I am not fucking 'older'?

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I've just spoken to a nurse on the phone about some medication.

She asked if I could be pregnant. But what she said is, technically you're still of an age so is there any chance you are pregnant? I said no, god no, and laughed.

She said 'hah yes that's what most of my older patients say!'

I AM THIRTY SEVEN!!!

Is this it for me? Am I a shrivelled, dried up old hag rather than the young, vital gorgeous creature I am in my head? I thought I'd have at least a few more years of being 'younger'.

It's bad enough that all the doctors, teachers and police officers round here are teenagers. And now this.

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

YANBU! Seems an odd thing to say to someone of 37. Was the nurse 9?

Irritated one of the advantages of being in my 50s is that my eyesight is becoming dimmer. This means that I don't have to cover my mirrors as my failing eyesight gives my reflection a natural airbrushed effect

Even if I do look like shit, I have no idea.

I had DC1 15 years ago at 34 and I was noted as an 'elderly primagravida' back then. I was 40 when I had DC4.

Pleased it's gone up to 37 but working on a maternity ward we've had a new mum of over 50 😳 And there were a few raised eyebrows

Had DC last year at 35, was told any first time mum over 24 was classed as elderly prim!!

Clearly the age of an 'elderly primagravada' has increased. I had my first child in 1994 at the age of 30.

I also had my first child aged 30 in 1994. An elderly primagravida then was anyone 25 or over.

I'm just amazed that you've got to 37 without big pants.

Crikey, a colleague had her ds at almost 50, major surprise, but wonder what the nurse would've said to her!

My gynae clinic says that anyone under the age of 50 may be asked to take a pregnancy test.

Tracing my family tree I found one of my ancestors had, had a baby at 50 not a first though, number 12. Made me wonder how common this was in the days of larger families.

See I honestly think from about 37 on is getting old. I absolutely dread the thoughts of being in my 40's and god forbid my 50's. Im 31 and really panic about getting older. I always say im 27. I Would love to be one of these people who feels young at 43. I have always been like this though. I remember freaking out about turning 17 and turning 26 nearly give me a breakdown. Remarkably chilled in all other areas of my life though 😁

37 is young!

Well I'm 34, and I haven't even started having children yet!

I mean, I feel older than the new trainees in the office, and I don't go clubbing anymore, but I'm certainly not old!!

I had DC1 at 34 and 'bonus' DC4 at 42. No one said anything about my age for DC2 (36) or 3 (38) but they did get massively hung up on the possibility of my going overdue with DC4 due to risks with my being over 40. I didn't, as all my others were late.

37 is a mere babe.

I had ds at 37 and nobody called me elderly primagravida or mentioned my age once. Just as well really.. ... I know plenty of people who had babies older including one who had twins at 47 so don't think it is very old!
My dm however was 28 when she had me in the 70s and was referred to as elderly primagravida throughout!

I'm 39 and I don't feel young! I feel OK physically, I've no aches and pains, I don't mind the sight of my face in the mirror - but I don't feel young. I can see how my body is ageing, and I'm (mostly) cool with that. I don't think I'd mind if someone described me as 'older', especially in that context. I am.

I was a geriatric mum at 31, but it was 28 years ago. I feel quite young inside it's just a shame my arthritic knees don't agree.

I think it's old, but then I don't think there's anything wrong with being old

I like being old so much that I feel sorry for youngsters!

Am quite happy to be labelled old.

Lostinmess no one seemed remotely bothered that I was nearly 43, or that I hadn't given birth for 18 years. I delivered DC3, a footling breech, vaginally, although they made me have an an epidural in case I needed an emergency C section. They set a date to induce, to ensure that experienced staff would be available, but he was born the day before the planned induction.

"Clearly the age of an 'elderly primagravada' has increased" - I was 31 when I got pregnant with dd1 in 2004. The midwife had to go and check if I was 'elderly' or not as it had changed recently. (I wasn't)

If you are fertile from say 11, that's why 26 year old eggs are considered "geriatric". Thats why they say geriatric - not because youbyourself are old. Think of it that way. You aren't old (same age as me and I have a newborn) but your eggs might be starting to appreciate nights in watching eastenders with a cup of tea over going out clubbing!

ry being 55, i feel 18 inside but have to cover up all my mirrors like a vampire

Hahaha. I'm well over sixty and have forgotten what I look like.

37 is young!

I'm 37 too, so this is music to my ears! I still go out to an indie club once a week til 4am (although there's people 20 years older than me there so it isn't anything to brag about)

In lifespan at 37 we aren't even halfway there, but in terms of pregnancy a woman's child bearing years, (which is what the conversation was revolved around), 37 is older. Just as a 17-19 year old is an older teenager, but very young in terms of their overall life.

A 37 year old woman will have been able to have become pregnant for 25 and has perhaps 10 years left when she can do so. So is in the later stages of that stage of her life.

According to the ONS 79% of first births were to women aged 34 or under, so in that context you'd be an older mother, rather than being an older person per se.

I agree the nurse expressed this clumsily, but I really don't think she was implying she saw you as an old gimmer.

Does the NHS still talk about elderly primigravida? Nobody meantioned it to me and I had a home birth at 35.

I think the nurse was probably young herself (25 or less) so thinks 30 is over the hill.

When my friend had her first appointment at an inner city doctor for first baby, the doctor gushed, "it's so lovely to see a young Mum these days". My friend was 30. Weird comment from the doctor but she felt good about being a young Mum in her eyes!

Just to say, I had my only child when I was 39. Don't know if I was considered an "elderly primigravida" as the notes were in French, which I can't read upside down