To think I am not fucking 'older'?

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I've just spoken to a nurse on the phone about some medication.

She asked if I could be pregnant. But what she said is, technically you're still of an age so is there any chance you are pregnant? I said no, god no, and laughed.

She said 'hah yes that's what most of my older patients say!'

I AM THIRTY SEVEN!!!

Is this it for me? Am I a shrivelled, dried up old hag rather than the young, vital gorgeous creature I am in my head? I thought I'd have at least a few more years of being 'younger'.

It's bad enough that all the doctors, teachers and police officers round here are teenagers. And now this.

Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

I was horrified to over here my neighbour in postnatal earlier this year give her year of birth as 1994 until I realised that made her 23 and at a completely respectable age to have a child even if she was only being born as I was doing GCSEs! She was acting like a child though but that is a whole other thread (never wanted to tell off another woman so much in my life!)

Over hear not here obviously

I am one who had a 'bonus baby' at almost 43. Someone told me it was 'the last fling of the ovaries'. If someone had told me at the beginning of the year that I'd have a baby by the end I would have laughed like a drain.

Janet Jackson

argy Can I ask where 'round here' is that you'd be practically a teenager giving birth at 37?

I had my kids at 33 and 35 and was definitely older compared to almost everyone I know!

am moving there so I can have another one at 38

Nah, YANBU. Foot in mouth by the nurse, most likely.

Not as bad as my mum going in hospital once with bad stomach pain and saying "Doctor, I'm not pregnant am I?" and the doctor replying, "Well Mrs. Socialist, seeing as you're 71 and have no uterus, I highly doubt it!" Turned out to be IBS in the end.

My mum's doctor called her an elderly primagravida when she had me in 1970.

She was 29!!

Having said that, if you'd have been that age when my mum had me, you'd have been considered an older mum. My mum was mid 30s when she had me and we were referred to as "Mrs. Socialist and her change of life baby"

And OP, of course 37 is not old! Nurse had major foot in mouth syndrome.

This wasn't a midwife, though. It was a psych nurse. So her calling OP an older patient would be a bit startling to OP!

I imagine, OP, that she meant older patients with whom she needs to have that conversation - not older in life stage terms. Though I had my youngest at 40, so you are definitely still a whippersnapper.

You just wait until you're so old they don't even ask. Now that's depressing.

I had the opposite once (well almost anyways). When I was pregnant with DS I was 31. I went to the dentist and she looked at all my records including age and then sounded really surprised when I mentioned I'm pregnant: "Wow, you're really young to be a mum!".

If youre old. I must be decrepit

Nah, you're well ancient, Credulous, but could be worse, you could be 50, like me

I AM THIRTY SEVEN!!!

Jeezo fucking nazareth! I had DS at 37.

Clearly the age of an 'elderly primagravada' has increased. I had my first child in 1994 at the age of 30. I was 29 when my pregnancy booking in was done. I was told then that I was an elderly primagravada and couldn't be considered for a home birth (not that I was asking) and I would have to be booked on to the Consultant unit.

Soci since when is 31 "young to be a mum"? That's very odd. Mind you I was an elderly primigravida as I had my daughter when I was 37 and the midwives at the hospital were horrible to me.

I had geriatric primagravida in huge scrawl at the top of my notes at the grand old age of thirty fucking four!

My mum had my sister and I in her early 20s, then fertility probs and didn't have my brother til she was 35. 35, which is a perfectly normal age for people to start families at nevermind end them. So we all get very cross at the "awww a wee late one" or the "was he a surprise then?" brigade. No and no, and also fuck off. I know your post is half in jest OP but I'd have been ragin if a nurse said that to me!

Not sure if this helps but at age 55, I have this week been 'chatted up' thrice (that's 3 times for the younger contigent) in the street and approached online for some 'travel advice' complete with a resume of unobvious/but obvious 'I'm available too' from a not too shabby Doctor. This is after being the invisible woman for at least 10 years.

Whilst not completely unattractive, I in no way radiate any desperation or desire to be 'chatted up', etc - eg: no make up, unkempt hair, jeans, t-shirt, just out shopping for groceries.

The only thing I can think of is that having given birth at 39 I must radiate 'relaxed' as now the child is nearly 16 I do feel a little less stressed and maybe smile at people more.

I think it's effing hilarious

"Technically still of an age".... how bloody dare she! That makes it sound like it's unlikely you'd be pregnant at 37.

Loads of people get pregnant at 37. I had ds2 at 37

Where I live, the average age for first child is 38.

Had a well at your age (38) most women don't really attend sexual health clinics.

A CPN said this?
What an eejit.....just the kind of supportive chat folks need...

Did she also tell you to have a warm bath and do a crossword?
( and other CPN standard remarks)

p.s OP you can borrow my spare false teeth anytime, hope you are ok xx

I recently took 3 of the DCs to a buffet restaurant and when I got the receipt they had given me an OAP discount. I am in my 40s!

PomBear hope you took the discount