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Aibu to feel really sad I haven't been invited?

84 replies

Moomoomango · 02/09/2017 18:45

I know I probably am but here goes:

Preface by saying I love my family to death and we are very close, or so I thought.

My brother wife and kids invited my parents to attend a holiday next week. I thought that nice, we've been on holiday with my parents in the past and it's been lovely.

Then my uncle is invited. Then I find out her family and sister have been invited.

So essentially it is just myself and my family who have not been invited.

I was ok with it, but today they were all talking about the holiday - messages over the family what's app group about flights etc and I feel really really bloody sad. I cried all the way home from my brothers today and wouldn't want them to know I was upset because it's their choice not to invite me but... I do feel really sad.

Aibu ? I know they can holiday with who they like I just feel so sad.

OP posts:
SpareASquare · 02/09/2017 23:58

I'm sorry OP, that would really hurt.

Are you sure it's not a case of one person being invited and then it snowballing much like the scenario above with others simply inviting themselves? I've been on holidays like that and never gave a thought to those who didn't go because I assumed they didn't go because they didn't want to?

You really need to raise this and find out why you're not going. Doesn't have to be confrontational.

BritInUS1 · 03/09/2017 00:18

I'd putting a message on the whatsapp group asking them to set up a separate group for their holiday chat x

Bobbybobbins · 03/09/2017 07:54

I agree with all the pp that you should raise this.

daisychain01 · 03/09/2017 08:34

Fate worse that death, being trapped on holiday with a bunch of rely's.

I can just about cope with the husband Grin

Don't be sad - Just think, you'll have so much peace and quiet! Do something nice just you and your little family and post it up on Facebook.

BigFatGoalie · 03/09/2017 08:45

I don't think posting anything on Facebook will make the OP feel any better.. Hmm

Sorry this had happened, I agree with a PP who suggested talking it through with your DM. things like this can fester and take root, and destroy family relationships. It's an awful feeling, I do hope you can move past this and feel better soon.

daisychain01 · 03/09/2017 09:31

Probably not, but given they are all openly discussing it on a WhatsApp group like the OP doesn't exist, it's probably the only language they understand. If you can't beat em, join em as they say.

BarbarianMum · 03/09/2017 09:38

Do the others have young children?

Whinesalot · 03/09/2017 11:23

Talk to your mum op. It doesn't matter if you cry. At least then she will know how strong your feelings are.

missmollyhadadolly · 03/09/2017 11:38

I think OP said brother has a 3mo baby.

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