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To hate my neighbours?

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PumpkinSpiceEverything · 29/08/2017 14:25

Thankfully we're moving into a house we're buying in a month or so, but we've been renting our current house for the past year. I cannot - repeat CANNOT - wait to get away from our current neighbours. I'm going to sound like a horrible person but I don't care.

The attached neighbour to the left of us is an old man who smokes cigarillos day and night and any time we're in the garden it's all you can smell. He's always covered in some kind of skin lesions and tucks his shirt into his pants and insists on having a conversation when we try to get in our car, obviously on our way somewhere. But he's not pleasant to have conversations with - it will always go something like "Hello, how are you" (Me) we're fine thanks, yourself? "Horrible" (and then he proceeds to talk about whatever is making him miserable, usually something gross and medical) And he's DIRTY (looks like he hardly bathes) and constantly tries to touch our DD's hands or face when he FOLLOWS us to our car to try to start one of these hideously unpleasant conversations. He also has this habit of crashing about late at night and making a huge amount of noise --which DH and I hope is him falling down the stairs finally.

Behind us is a neighbour with a 19 year old son who has a heavy metal rock band that will insist on practicing for 4+ hours at a time. We tried to ask them to stop several times, especially when out in our own garden with guests over and it's a deafening racket. They were mouthy and rude so we filed multiple noise complaints after recording how loud it was from inside our house with doors and windows closed (You'd be driven mad too if your less-than-1-Year-old couldn't nap for 3+ days in a row) and now, luckily, they've chosen to take their "band practice" elsewhere.

Across the street are two young guys who share a 2 bed house, they're probably early 20s, and they've recently taken up an interest in motorbikes. As well as leaving them running idle in the driveway for 10+ minutes while they go BACK inside to get dressed, they've taken to inviting lots of their new motorbike enthusiast mates round, usually late at night on weekends, obviously when our DD is asleep and sometimes when we're already in bed too. So that's fun.

Then on the corner opposite us are some terrible pet owners who leave their tiny, untrained, evil (tries to chase and barks at anyone who comes near their front garden, to the point where I have to cross the road just to walk down that way) dog outside at night. Because it's a corner plot, their garden is outward facing so this little barking machine just yips away - last night for over 2 hours TOTALLY NONSTOP until they finally let it in.

Across the street diagonally is a single Mum with two 10-12 year old sons who run around in the street playing football and making all sorts of noise (what happened to kids playing in their own garden?!) and I actually found them on our front walk one day with their bikes, shouting across the street to a mate. Wtf?! GO HOME. Their mum seems totally disinterested and only occasionally shouts and swears out the door at them before going back inside. They also don't move out of the way of cars in the street... DH has nearly knocked them down on several occasions and honestly I wouldn't blame him if he did.

So. Sick. Of. All. Of. These. People.

Sorry for the long rant. And if I seem like a monster. It has been hell living on this street, and I am so excited to move (we didn't know the area when we moved here for DH's job).

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stormroof · 29/08/2017 14:28

You know what they say...
If one person has a problem with you, it's probably them
If you have a problem with lots of people, it's probably you.

MrsOverTheRoad · 29/08/2017 14:28

Well I think you sound AWFUL yourself.

Judging a lonely old man because he's "covered in lesions" and shock horror tries to TALK to you??

And then the "single mum" comment.?? Really?

You sound utterly up your own arse.

YellowFlower201 · 29/08/2017 14:30

You sound delightful. Bet they're all pleased you're leaving.

LurkingHusband · 29/08/2017 14:31

What makes you so certain your new neighbours will be any better ?

VioletCharlotte · 29/08/2017 14:32

This sounds like my road OP. Neighbours one side smoke constantly by the back door so smoke comes into my house. They also have a baby who screams constantly. Other side have an overgrown garden and never cut the grass or put their wheelie bins away. Adult DC in house behind insist on smoking weed in the garden. House along the road - 3 older teens who spend their lives riding bikes and mopeds up and down the street.

Having said that, I have teen DS and a dog, so fairly sure we annoy people sometimes as well!

PumpkinSpiceEverything · 29/08/2017 14:33

Lurking - moving to a nicer area, no longer living in a terrace, so hopefully less noise and close by neighbours.

Listen I know I sound like a total bitch in all of this but we have an extremely light sleeper for a baby/toddler now and if I had £1 for every time she'd had a nap or nighttime sleep disturbed by our loud neighbours I could've bought our new house outright with cash.

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OstentatiousWanking · 29/08/2017 14:36

Please don't move next to me.
Also you might be more comfy if you take that broom out of your arse. YW.

Justmuddlingalong · 29/08/2017 14:36

Well hopefully when you move into a bought house, your neighbours will all be up to your expectations. Good luck with that Wink

Maelstrop · 29/08/2017 14:36

You hope the noise is the old guy falling down the stairs?! Fuck me sideways, you sound nice! We invite our old guy next door to bbqs, we're well aware that he's lonely, maybe not our kind of person, but we don't hope he's falling down the stairs!

I empathise that you dislike noise and it's pointless saying buy a detached million quid house, but some of the noise sounds perfectly normal and you can open your mouth and tell the kids to stay off your drive etc. Jeez.

ZefStar · 29/08/2017 14:36

You hope the old man falls down the stairs? I think you need to take a lon hard look at yourself instead of ranting about all of your neighbours

stormroof · 29/08/2017 14:36

Well as long as OP's baby can nap- the world can stop.

PumpkinSpiceEverything · 29/08/2017 14:39

For the record I grew up in a much more spacious country and I am not used to living in such close proximity with other people. You could buy a six bed farmhouse on 10 acres where I grew up, for less than a 3 bed detached where we live now. I have never had to deal with neighbours... or their noise. It drives me batshit insane.

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XJerseyGirlX · 29/08/2017 14:43

OP I do hope you have scoped out your new neighbours .. as my mother always used to say... Better the devil you know!

Yellowheart · 29/08/2017 14:44

You sound pretty nasty. Maybe go live somewhere without any neighbours?

clairethewitch70 · 29/08/2017 14:44

The falling down the stairs comment is a bit low OP. Skin lesions? Poor guy, he can't help having medical issues.

In about 6 weeks time OP, you will probably be writing a similar post about your new neighbours not creeping around whilst your pub sleeps.

EatShitDailyMail99 · 29/08/2017 14:44

They all sound rough as fuck OP.

Have you called the RSPCA about the poor dog being left outside? Sad

MrsOverTheRoad · 29/08/2017 14:45

You could buy a six bed farmhouse on 10 acres where I grew up, for less than a 3 bed detached where we live now

If you don't like the UK and the amount of people there, why don't you buy yourself a few acres where you're from then?

LurkingHusband · 29/08/2017 14:45

Lurking - moving to a nicer area

tbh, you sound a tad snobbish and judgemental. Maybe you'll find your people ?

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 29/08/2017 14:54

He also has this habit of crashing about late at night and making a huge amount of noise --which DH and I hope is him falling down the stairs finally

Shock That is such a fucking nasty thing to say about anyone let alone an old man.

They also don't move out of the way of cars in the street... DH has nearly knocked them down on several occasions and honestly I wouldn't blame him if he did

Hmm As if wishing an old man would fall down the stairs isn't bad enough you now want your DH to run two children over in the street?! Fucking hell.

It's not them OP, its YOU! I bet they can't wait until that bloody miserable family with the poor little daughter move out.

I fail to believe this is real, if it is, you have got real problems and I feel very sorry for you DC.

Mustang27 · 29/08/2017 14:54

Snap on growing up in the country with no neighbours but honestly the world does not revolve around you. You lost any sympathy from me when you wished your elderly neighbour was falling down his stairs and not caring if your partner run your neighbours children over.

Band practice for 4+ hours seems the only really unreasonable thing here oh and youHmm

EdmundCleverClogs · 29/08/2017 14:57

You sound an utterly reprehensible person, and your husband not much better. I'm keeping everything crossed that you're moving to this farmhouse in the middle of nowhere, or even better, further afield such as Mars or Jupiter.

NotAnotheChinHair · 29/08/2017 14:57

What you've said about the old man and the single-mum family is nasty.
The rest sounds nightmarish.
I'll give you the benefit of the doubt since you are sleep deprived.
Good luck in your new house.

MrTrebus · 29/08/2017 15:06

Wow OP do you live on the street where that benefit programme was made? Benefit street I think it was called! They all sound a bit rough and I can see why you want to move away, I will never live in a terraced house for this reason, too many close neighbours. I bet all these people saying the problem is you actually live in detached mansions so are judging you without understanding. I'm just about to move from a flat in a big block so I understand OP!

user1499786242 · 29/08/2017 15:09

Maybe you should move back to where you grew up?

tinytemper66 · 29/08/2017 15:10

I bet there will be a street party when you leave. You sound like hard work!

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