aibu to hate chit chat? (buses..work etc)

[FizzyJelJel]

I don't know why but lately ill actually get annoyed if I see someone coming near me on the bus if I think they're going to try speak to me. like general nonsense.. similar in work seeing my boss everyday in passing and when she comes in doing the "hello how are you" and a constant repeat conversation .

am I being unreasonable to say / think not everybody wants to just randomly chat? mainly on buses. just leave me the fk alone I must be miserable. or just straight to the point..

Well if you're miserable, so am I, so at least we'll have company.

I'm alone in my open plan office today, and for some reason people thinking I'll be 'lonely'. The term they are looking for is 'blissfully free of small talk'.

Big headphones are a wonderful aid to avoidance of chattering.

I've been on and off buses a lot this last week due to pet sitting, and I borrowed my daughter's big bluetooth headphones. It's been bliss not having to even remotely pay attention to anyone on the bus. I just lift them off as I get on/off to state my destination and say thanks to the driver.

I've even been known to wear them when I'm in school (volunteer) and I have a job to do. The children know that if I have earphones on I'm not in help mode I'm usually in display mode. I just have to remember to stick to soundtracks and show tunes rather than sweary ones!:o

I don't like it either, especially with people I don't know that well, like school mums or colleagues I don't work that closely with. I engage with other people because I'll feel rude if I don't, but most of the time I don't enjoy it and if anything it makes me quite uncomfortable / anxious. So no Fizzy, yanbu.

Yes, I wear headphones all the time when travelling on public transport.

I find it so hard, and harder still as I get older. Plus I have a v v cute baby so she's like a magnet for attention.

Maybe it's karmic retribution because I'm a gobshite who loves talking about herself 😂

I never feel the need to make idle conversation. If I get to the playing field with my dog in the morning & it's empty I'm like There was an ad on C5 last night for a programme where people got locked individually into a tiny room & had to stay there with no phone, no internet, no contact etc. & they were all in meltdown. I was thinking "sheer bliss"!

I was about to say yabu because I just met a lovely lady on the bus who was as chatty as me, but then I sat down to eat lunch with dc McDonald's and someone I vaguely knew once who works here came over and wouldn't stop talking. At me. Don't get me wrong, I was happy to say hi, but fuck off and let me eat, my foods getting cold and my kids want my attention!

YANBU. I'm happy chatting with people I know, but do I fuck want to talk to some random on the bus/in the queue/on the street.

I can't abide 'chit-chat' with strangers for no reason. My Mum and one of my best friends are nightmares because they'll strike up conversations everywhere - at the till, on the bus etc. My particular annoyance are those they talk to for five minutes and within that time the stranger has poured out their medical history, all their tragedies and their sex life.

It's just unforgivably rude to talk to strangers like that.

I'm 'miserable' too op. I hate making awkward small talk. If somebody is in need of directions or help that's fine , but I don't like being accosted for a chat about the weather when I'm out minding my own business.

YANBU! I'm useless at small talk so hate it when people I don't know want to chat to me.

I'm finding myself taking my dog out earlier and earlier for his morning walk so that I have the common to myself and therefore don't get other walkers wanting to chat.

People chat with you on the bus?

I do get irritated at work sometimes when someone starts with the "how are you", "any holidays planned" etc & I know they're not actually remotely interested, it's just the preview to asking for something.

I feel the same. I never set foot outside the door without my headphones in (unless I have DP or a friend with me!). I am really noise sensitive, and suffer from anxiety, so I find public transport quite stressful if I don't have my headphones. They give the signal that you want to be left alone, and help you to avoid chatter, but also block out sniffing, people bellowing into their phones, other people's music and people playing Peppa Pig out loud from their tablet to keep their little darlings quiet

My MIL is like that, she just chats to everyone, and we constantly find her chatting to random people she's seen out and about. She travels by coach and loves talking to the passenger she's sitting next to. I pity the person she's chatting to as it's the last thing I want to do when travelling.

I always have a book or magazine to read, that's a great way to avoid that.

I don't want to make this a north/south thing but it is SO MUCH MORE LIKELY to happen in the north. I get friends from home going 'oh isn't it dead miserable down there, no one chats to you on the bus, don't you just hate it'.

NO. I LOVE IT. I moved down here because of all you bastard weirdos that keep trying to talk to me in public places when I don't even know you. It's bloody rude to interrupt someone with your inane pleasantries.

Im just rubbish at small talk. Hate it.

Move to London, it never happens

I am an annoying chit- chatter! Sorry everyone

And I'm northern just to prove people's points

YANBU.

It's tedious. Never get that on the tube. It's brilliant

I am an annoying chit- chatter! Sorry everyone

Please tell me why you interrupt someone's day to talk to them when you've never even met them before.

And please tell me you stop doing it as soon as you realise they're not interested.

Northerner here - also hate random chat. My job involves a lot of talking so have no patience for talking to strangers outside of work - too tiring!

I find that headphones don't always work for me - some people still start a conversation when I'm using them!

I hate it, I make DH do the school gates bit because I'm so antisocial and he actually likes chat