Siblings caring for siblings?

[Sptownmama]

I've been very ill for 3 years. Last year was a milestone birthday and I did nothing to mark it as was too poorly. I haven't been anywhere further than the hospital or the dc's school in a long time. I recently recieved new treatment and it has changed my life. Feel so so much better. I want to treat myself to a little break away in the sun to celebrate getting my life back. I have asked my 21 and 19 year old sons to care for their brothers aged 15 and 13 while I am away. My parents are now saying they will call the police on me for child abandonment if I go. Where do I stand on this? Wibu to go and leave siblings caring for them? My parents also refuse to keep an eye on them even though they live 10 mins away. (This is all about control, they are very controlling and hate me doing anything enjoyable or for myself) feel so down right now 😰

Your parents are being ridiculous. If your 19 and 21 year olds are trustworthy and get on ok with their siblings it's absolutely fine and an excellent idea. They're adults FFS. Have a lovely break

Your parents are idiots. Of course you can leave 2 teens in the care of 2 adults. The police will tell them to bugger off and stop wasting their time.

Your parents are wrong. As long as your older children are willing and able to provide adequate care then it's fine

They're adults, and if you deem them able to care for their younger siblings and they're happy to, why the hell not? Ffs there are parents younger than them!
Go and enjoy your well earned break, I'm glad things are looking up for you now.

As long as your 21 and 19 yr old sons are capable and willing there is absolutely nothing wrong with the looking after your younger sons. Your parents are being ridiculous for suggesting that it would be child abandonment.

We consider someone old enough to have their own child and care for a newborn at 16 in this country so 2 adult men should be able to care for their teenage brothers for a few days.

You parents are utter morons. Leaving a child with ANY 19 or 21 year old is totally acceptable and them being siblings makes it even better!

What shitty parents.

Your DC are adults .

Go, OP, and have a fantastic time .

Go and enjoy the break. Your oldest are now adults and if you trust then, then that's all that matters. Your parents are being very unreasonable. Have they helped a lot whilst you've been so poorly? Perhaps it is about control?

Mine are 16 and 13 and when the youngest is 18 I plan to visit my cousin in Tunisia , alone . One son won't want to come anyway ..Too hot and to many bugs he stated.

Your parents are ridiculous. Go and have a lovely time.

Of course you can leave the younger two in the care of two adults. Tell your parents to bugger off and have a lovely time.

Your two eldest sons are both adults. The police would be more interested in speaking to your parents about wasting police time than in considering child abandonment.

I would leave your older boys with instructions about ignoring their grandparents though. I imagine your parents will be trying to cause trouble in your absence.

And be sure to send your parents a postcard :o

I looked after 6 siblings aged 3-17 for 2 weeks when I was 19. It was mildly hair raising at times and I showed a fair amount of questionable judgement but we all had a lot of fun. Tell your parents to piss off and go on holiday

No to answer the question they have done nothing to help me whilst I've been ill.

I feel my anxiety going through the roof right now. Dad is saying he will get police to stop me at airport so I can't leave. Christ they wouldn't do that would they? (Police I mean) that would be mortifying

Your parents are being ridiculous. Your elder sons are old enough to be married with kids of their own.

Well quite! By 21 I was pregnant with my second and lying in my own home..

Tell your dad to piss off and stop talking about your plans with them. In fact they sound bat shit crazy is there a big back story to this?

No real big back story other than the are very very difficult people to get along with. I keep my distance as much as possible but thought I'd better tell them my plans as they are away for 5 weeks soon and wanted to see when they were coming back (just so there was family around for a little extra support when I'm gone) but they have just gone nuts about it.

Let them go nuts. The police will laugh at them. Enjoy your time away x

They are so so wrong, honestly, they are. As I said earlier, assuming your elder children are sensible and assuming your younger children have a relatively reasonable relationship with them it's absolutely 100% fine to leave them. None of them are babies (and it wouldn't matter if they were) and your eldest children are ADULTS!!!!

Of course they won't stop you! Go go go!

You're allowed your own children at 19 & 21. Why should caring for siblings be any different?

Tell them NOTHING else. They sound awful. And the police will not give a shit about a mother going abroad leaving her children in the care of two adults. Your parents are ridiculous.
I truly hope you have a fantastic time, sounds like you deserve it. And congratulations on having brought up two lovely boys who you can evidently trust to be willing and able to look after their brothers.