Ok. I have a sibling who is a single parent. Has always had MASSIVE AMOUNTS of help with DS. One of those people who think nothing of getting themselves into continuos situations knowing there will always be someone to dig them out of a hole and using DS as the emotional pawn!!
Some of the following as an example:
Umpteen homes in rental arrears, DS uprooted and schools changed on a whim or depending on eviction, but mostly due to relationship breakdowns.
The type of person who goes to pieces (half hearted suicide attempts) after every break up to the point where they cannot (don't care enough to!!) even look after their own child! Goes awol for weeks, no contact with child. But then has another relationship lined up within weeks and all is good again! And the cycle continues.
The kind of person whose social media accounts are full of selfies (with partner) and the most cringe worthy hash tags a person can post #couplegoals #love #gymlife #bestabs #baseballcaps
The kind of person who defaults on rent but has enough to smoke marijuana.
The kind of person whose kid walks around in unlaundered clothes, but they themselves are polished to the max.
The kind of person whose kid has been in 5 different schools by age 9 (NOT because of the child!)
The kind of person who shouts from the rooftops about how great a parent they are and how EVERYONE knows it and the people who point out otherwise are 'jealous and spiteful'
The latest is buggering off with the partner for a weekend away leaving now 11yr old DS in my care and an untrained puppy alone at home! The rationale was that "DS can make trips to and from my home to walk and feed dog". It's our bank holiday weekend too and we have DC of our own so weekend has been governed around timing care of the dog. I did bring the dog to stay with us to start with as I personally feel this is animal cruelty! But I am severely asthmatic as is one of my DC and the dog was malting, pissing and shitting all over the house. I don't have animals for this reason. I couldn't cope with it, nor should I have been expected to.
The other expectation was to leave dog outside or inside ALL day "depending on weather" so we had to judge the changeable weather and dart to and from to put it in or out!! No shelter provided for dog outside!
Furthermore, the DS is in my care and anything can happen on these trips home to walk dog which would end up being MY fault, so cue me or DH having to drive nephew home (with our DC in tow!) and help with dog walk/feed/cleaning of mess/etc.
Oh, and turns out there was no dog food left to feed said dog so we had to buy that as well!
I'm so unbelievably angry at the constant inconsideration. But the bind is, if I say anything, I will lose contact with nephew (as have done previously!) and he will be emotionally blackmailed and made to feel like shit. There is so much more to this story which I couldn't possibly write about, but I am full of anxiety and had to write/tell someone!!! I feel like a shit person as how can I possibly detest a person who is my own flesh and blood so much?!! I wish I could go NC but my nephew and my DC do not deserve not to see each other. Feel better for writing it down! Thanks in advance for reading!