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Crowdfunding for a new car? Seriously?!

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iammargesimpson · 28/08/2017 11:35

So an acquaintance of mine 's car died and a crowdfunding page has been set up to buy her a new one...I'm gobsmacked!! She doesn't work, has two primary school-age children, lone parent. Now I understand what it's like when you're faced with sudden and very large expenses (my car died suddenly about a year ago) but crowdfunding for a new car?! Has the world gone mad or am I alone in thinking this is just??? Words fail me they really do

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LEMtheoriginal · 28/08/2017 17:37

Don't you have to offer something in return with crowd funding? A friend of mine has an element of crowd funding for his start-up business. It is doing amazingly well and now has a board of directors. I'm not sure what his backers were offered but it certainly wasn't a charitable thing.

I actually hope your friend is able to sort something out for herself. I would not be in a position to help if I were you but it must be hard being a single parent without a car. I don't drive so rely on dp or public transport - the cost of everything escalates because society doesn't function like it used to. Now it's all about out of town shops -yes local shops exist but they charge a premium .

MadamePomfrey · 28/08/2017 17:49

I don't really like crowd funding for this purpose and I think it is a bit cheeky to ask, but I don't understand why people think it's disgusting and makes you despair for humanity?? Really with everything going on right now a women asking for money for a car is why you despair? She's being honest about what it's for, no one has to donate l, it's not a big issue! If she starts being forceful asking for donations playing the guilt trip etc then that's a bit different but if people want to help let them!

Topsy44 · 28/08/2017 19:23

When I saw the title I thought, that's a bit cheeky but when I read the circumstances I thought good on you for asking.

I am a lone parent with one child. It's very difficult bringing up a child on your own let alone two. I can't imagine how much tougher my already tough life would be if I didn't have a car.

PeterBlue · 28/08/2017 19:51

If you don't ask you don't get as my old gran used to say.

Lweji · 28/08/2017 20:11

She didn't ask and didn't know...

I hope nobody cancels any cheques on her.

ForalltheSaints · 28/08/2017 20:16

Couldn't the children's dad (or dads) be asked to help?

Threenme · 28/08/2017 20:47

Maybe forall they aren't around?

safariboot · 28/08/2017 21:10

"I wonder would some of the replies be different if she was working?!"

If the beggar was working in a 'sympathetic' job - home care, nursing, teaching, that kind of thing - then she'd probably get a more favourable response.

lazydog · 28/08/2017 21:12

I wouldn't do it, but don't see why anyone would have a problem in her case as it sounds like she wasn't even the one who started the funding request or aware of it being set up for her.

The one that got me riled up recently was an acquaintance of mine who set up her own page for her dog to have a major operation. Loads of people donated, naturally assuming that she couldn't afford the vet bill herself, which was fine. Her poor dog didn't make it through the op., which was tragic, but the dog's owner got herself a new, pedigree puppy only a few weeks later (followed in quick succession by a brand new RAV4 - hardly the vehicle of choice for someone with money worries.)

I do understand all the "if you don't like it, just don't donate" comments, but that particular scenario just seemed a bit dishonest to me...

Lweji · 28/08/2017 21:15

I suspect the answers would be more sympathetic if the OP had written in the title and the OP that this woman didn't know someone had set up this crowdfunding account to get her a car.

mtpaektu · 28/08/2017 21:21

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MissEDashwood · 28/08/2017 23:19

I'm surprised people are being so empathetic.

I think it's a cheeky thing to do on one hand, on the other as has been stated if you don't ask you don't get.

Let's hope either way she gets a suitable car.

I know I wouldn't donate, but that's just me. I'd rather donate towards life saving treatment or something similar.

Each to their own though.

75DollarsPerMonthCar · 05/04/2018 21:23

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MaxiMarry · 09/04/2020 13:35

As you said she is alone, without a job, also she has two primary school-age children, lone parent. She has a hard life situation. Frankly speaking, crowdfunding today is often used to help those in need as a charity and such companies have succeeded. Why not? She needs it in such a situation and most likely she'll take a second-hand one not a new one. I know that charity and especially medical needs are well paid and their income is about 1/3 of all crowdfunding companies. I would wonder if something such would appear on themoneymix.com . Where people invest in alternative assets. But crowdfunding platforms nowadays became a traditional base for everyone who wants to earn money at the expense of others on absolutely absurd things sometimes.

Dieu · 09/04/2020 13:42

So tacky, entitled and embarrassing. You want something, you work to earn the money, then you pay for it yourself. It's hardly rocket science!

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 09/04/2020 13:45

Wow, just wow.

I was raised if you want something you work hard for it, not ask others to provide it.

Life isn’t fair sometimes but that’s just life. She could always get a job to pay for a car if she needs one.

makingmammaries · 10/04/2020 17:22

Zombie thread

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