AIBU - childcare

[CityBoy1984]

AIBU to think "having two very young children is a massive amount of hassle; surely a reasonable solution is to hire a full time helper person for each child?"

Wife is an SAHM and believes I am being ridiculous.

It is all very circular. So are bollox.

You didn't get married in Maui did you?

OP it sounds great in theory, but the reality is, even with 2 nannies the boys will just "up the ante".

We had 4 DC and when they were little DH insisted we had a full-time "helper" so I didn't get run ragged. I just felt awkward in my own house with my own kids tbh. If I tried to pack two of them off with the nanny, they invariably wouldn't want to go - then I felt embarrassed and more stressed. In short, it was just another thing to deal with.

What did help was having a cleaner 3 times a week. Not only is the house in order, but it forces us all out the house.

When they were really little we had a cook in several times a week which seemed to work quite well too.

Your boys will have a field-day with 2 nannies and your wife will be demented.

@SalamiSandwich

No. Registry office in my wife's home town.

Should we have gone to Maui?

Live in format way better. My live in is from the Philippines and her spring rolls and pork adobo are worth the hefty bonuses.

Obviously what you need is a dragon, not a whitewalker one at this stage but a basic dragon.... perhaps a Wolf too.... a big pit, high stakes around it and let them fight it out, then you'll only have to worry about one of them.....

Two nannies, but a day one and a night one rather than one per sprog. I would so do that

coxs I know people who do that. It is something I keep in mind with career options as I definitely don't want to have to do that!

@gettingbacktoresearch

Fair.

@CoxsOrangePippin

Thanks. The back-to-back thing actually does make a lot of sense.

Is that excessive though?

@jeaux90

That does sound good. Does she do nights as well, or just 9-5?

It works for Beyonce, she has numerous for the 3 kids. And pays each one 100k apparently

Thinking of changing from being a childminder to a nanny. I look after a revolving cast of seven children as a CM. This sounds more like it

Go for it and if they dont work out then stop doing it. Im called wifey by dh and irs kinda cute unless hes pissed me off the he gets called .............. to rude to say.

Write a job description rip it up throw it in a fire then when 7 show up on flying umbrellas just tell wifey it was meant to be.

Fate init

You are being very ridiculous. They're small children, not a convention of dictators or warlords

That's not far off how I describe my small people

No no no.

You don't get nannies. You send the DC to all day nursery. That way your wife can tell herself they are benefiting from the social experience, rather than it being all about benefiting her.

Also it means you don't need so much kid stuff messing up your flat.

OP. Sounds like my idea of heaven. 2 kids and 2 nannies. I'll happily be your wifey if your current model tires of it all. Assuming my "hubby" is amenable, of course.

Yes city she lives in and I travel so she does nights or if I have business dinners etc She has been with me since my kid was a few month old and she is now 8 years.

I give her weekends from Saturday morning off. I pay extra if I'm away for the week for example. Or if she is asked to do a Saturday for whatever reason.

To be clear I pay her a fixed salary which includes phone bills, broadband etc and she has her own bathroom etc she gets 25 days off a year and I pay for her flights back to Philippines when she goes.

They're small children, not a convention of dictators or warlords.

That distinction can be quite fine, sometimes...

William you may be the future king of England , but learn to parent your children !

Can't you send them both to Norland College for the trainees to practise on? Then swiftly move them to boarding school later on. Boarding school is the way to go definitely.