Aibu to not wear hot pants and boob tube? he asked me to wear them!

[Nat123xxx]

I've literally been on two dates with him.
I don't even fancy him but I thought I would give him a chance just incase and because I thought I might as well.
After the first date he said ,we will go to the beach for our next date it would be great if you wore a boob tube and hot pants.
I jokingly said "1995 has called and thinks your idea of a good outfit is atrocious"
I met him yesterday and he actually seemed disappointed I wasn't wearing hot pants ..it was 2pm and about 16 degrees.
I'm not even sure what I'm asking but would this annoy you to the point you wouldn't see him again?

At the moment you are comparing your dates with your ex and they are not coming up to scratch. That is an indication that you aren't quite ready to move on yet. One day you will meet someone and your ex won't even cross your mind, all you will think about is them and how nice they are.
Until that day comes don't waste your time on having second dates with men you don't fancy or who say bloody stupid things.

He said I like my women sexy as hell

I love it when men think that their desire for a sexy-ay-ay woman somehow makes them unique. "I like my women in face packs, floor length Victorian nighties and curlers," said no man ever.

2 dates and you're "his woman"??! The guy is delusional.

Oh God just bin him. He's a total creep with no social or seductive skills, it's been two dates and you don't fancy him. Do you even need to ask us??

He said I like my women sexy as hell but he isn't sexy???

Yuk. I would definitely not see him again if he suggested what I wore to the date and if his suggestion was that I dress in minimal clothing for his pleasure. I have never worn a boob tube in my life and that isn't about to change.

I would also never date someone who told me how he 'likes his women'. He obviously just sees women as sex-objects, not as real people. That would be a deal breaker for me.

I think I would also explain to him in detail why I wasn't going to see him again in some vague hope that it might change his future behaviour.

I think you need to ask yourself why you are dating men you don't fancy at all. That's a weird place to start with, and no wonder they then turn out to be even creepier.

Please don't go out with someone who thinks they can tell you what to wear.

As an aside...I have been around the block a few times (ahem) and I have never, ever, ever heard a man who really did have a lot of options use the phrase, "I like my women...." They'd say things like, "I like red dresses", "High heels do it for me" or "I find stockings and suspenders really attractive."

Small difference, but quite significant.

See I really don't see the problem with this. He stated his creepy weird fetishistic preference, and you are repulsed. That's it, game over.

I can't see how it needs any form of soul searching (or thread posting) whatsoever. You don't like him, don't date him. I'm sure he won't lose any sleep over it!

Some men wonder why they are single.
You are a far too nice I would have roasted his arse for that crap.

Distraction needed from your ex but preferably not another bloke. My advice is to always spend time away after a break up. People make some awful choices in a rush to heal, it always takes time. I have had very long relationships but always took a few months off between, for me and it is all about you.

Maybe talk about your ex to try and get some of it out.

At the moment you are comparing your dates with your ex and they are not coming up to scratch. That is an indication that you aren't quite ready to move on yet. One day you will meet someone and your ex won't even cross your mind, all you will think about is them and how nice they are.
Until that day comes don't waste your time on having second dates with men you don't fancy or who say bloody stupid things.

This^. x 1000

Yuck, if a potential romantic interest said that to me I'd be well annoyed & certainly turned off.

He is creepy. Even reading about him is giving me the creeps. I'd sack him off immediately.
Those men who say they want their women as sexy as hell when they probably look like the arse end of a bus make me mad. Men who feel totally ok telling you what to wear and talking about women as though they are only there for him to perv over deserve a wide berth!

get a hobby to distract yourself.
check local librabry for interesting stuff. try out a sport that you always wanted to do. better way to meet people than those sleezy men on old.

It's been nearly 9 months since I split with ex and it was only a 6 month thing but I fell head over heels and he dumped me for another woman.
Today I caved and looked at his fb profile to him and her and it made me feel like shit.
I was just feeling so low I had to look.
I just want to meet someone who stops me crying over him.

He said I like my women sexy as hell but he isn't sexy???

-not envy. This does actually make me feel nauseous. You could reply "Yeah, well I like my men not to be 1950s dinosaurs - ain't life a bitch".

Or you could just say "Sorry, this isn't working for me."

And this is why I've given up on dating!

Is this "Sid the sexist"?

One online dating guy asked if I would wear stockings and suspenders and heels to the first date we had planned (we'd only chatted online til then) . I said no, and said date is off. Not my thing.

This other guy I've been texting (who I'm seeing Friday ) I do look at his pics (hopefully real life too) and think your quite nice.
So il see what happens ..plus he comes across better than the other one.

Personally, the best thing to get over a man is to just learn to be with yourself a while.

In response to his sexy as hell comment you should said "oh yes that's how I like my men too..." then done the wide eyed awkward look while whistling and shuffling off.

If he asks you out again say "yes but could you wear...Borat's mankini/metallic tuxedo/hot pants and moob tube.

I split with long term exP nearly a year ago now and not dated anyone since, and have no intention to ever again! Staying single.

I just want to meet someone who stops me crying over him.

Well that explains why you haven't just kicked this creep to the kerb without a second thought already. Please, I beg of you, do not let your current low self esteem draw you into entertaining these sacks of shit.

Nine months after a six month relationship, you should be healing. If you're really not, I suspect the real issue is elsewhere and perhaps some good counselling will help you to address it.

Until then, please force yourself some self respect and don't reward or entertain these dirtbags.

One online dating guy asked if I would wear stockings and suspenders and heels to the first date we had planned

What the fuck is wrong with some men? This is so disturbing that they think it's OK to treat a fellow human being that way. Although I am guessing they don't really see us as fellow human beings.

I think Tinder and the like doesn't help that much. It is solely based on looks and there is so much choice available that loads of guys just see it as a game and don't think that the person behind the profile is a real person with feelings.

Are there any dating apps where there are normal people?