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Am I being ungrateful?

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Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 08:51

Back in May, my MIL mentioned that her sister had a villa in Spain and they might go. We haven't much money this year so asked if she'd mind if we used it as well (another week obviously) and how much she'd charge. She said yes and would just charge us a bit for electricity and the cleaner etc. Fantastic! Got our flights booked. She sent us a couple of pics, looked okay, MIL said was nice and, given she usually has pretty high standards, we thought it sounded fine! Two days before we travelled though, DH's auntie contacted us to say she was charging €200 for villa. A bit more than electric costs we thought but still cheap for a week on the Costa Blanca in August. We also found out from MIL who had just stayed here that there was no air con and we started to worry a bit! Anyway, arrived on Tuesday night to find that, not only was there no air con but ceiling fans barely work, it was in an awful cramped, built up area, the bathroom stank, all the dirty washing was piled up from MIL's stay, couple of dead cockroaches, furniture on its last legs, beds awful, hubbie has bed bug bites (it's also terrible for midges around here). It's even smaller than we thought and the fridge won't stay cold as the seal has gone ages ago and it's not been defrosted in forever, tv doesn't work (not that we'd use it much anyway). It's obviously not serviced (I think she may have an agreement with an ex pay up the road cos he did let us in when we arrived but not seen him since. We have to give him the €200. ) The only saving grace is that it has its own pool which seems fine! We're making the best of it but DH suffering in the heat especially and isn't well with it, the kids are stoical but I can't help feeling annoyed that it was made out to be nice and in fact it's not at all and we've brought the children here! We would never have come had we known. She couldn't rent it out to fee paying holidaymakers. Thank god we have a car so can get to beach (which is 20 mins away!)

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Squirmy65ghyg · 27/08/2017 08:57

Sounds crap.

lightcola · 27/08/2017 08:58

I would hate that too and be pretty miffed. But you're there now, make them most of it and spend most of your time out. Then make sure you never go back again.

NormaSmuff · 27/08/2017 09:00

can you defrost fridge while you are there?

Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 09:02

Yeah. It is. Am spending every night sleeping with a freezer pack and my feet elevated on cushions cos my ankles are swollen with the constant heat by the end of the day. We really needed this holiday especially DH he works so hard in a stressful job.

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Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 09:02

Could do Norma but don't know what to do with all our stuff

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NormaSmuff · 27/08/2017 09:03

can you contact your aunt and arrange the fans to be mended, at her cost?

SmartyPants0 · 27/08/2017 09:07

Could you take pictures of the place including the washing up and bugs and ask if you're in the right place!
Has no other family member stayed at the flat or has she recently brought it

Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 09:34

She's had it years and years. It needs quite a major investment. The fans would need replacement I should think. They look really old too! They seem to have replaced things ad hoc like, bizarrely one of those huge showers with music and lights which takes up all the bathroom! I'm reluctant to do something like taking photos or asking for things to be mended but then it's not really a freebie is it? We are paying even though it's not that much. I don't think her own family must come here but she and the other aunties came back in June I think and MIL AND FIL came two weeks ago. Not sure how long since they'd last visited though. Maybe they were shocked at the state of it but too late to say anything to us? There was a family rift recently when this aunt accused MIL of helping herself to their dad's estate but seems sorted now so don't want to rock the boat. I've not actually met her, they all live in Ireland. DH is also worried cos my DSCs mum gives him a hard time if things aren't right for the children. MIL knows this only too well.

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NormaSmuff · 27/08/2017 09:36

i think you might just have to put up with it, can you buy a fan yourself?

NormaSmuff · 27/08/2017 09:37

get a fan delivered via Amazon?

Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 10:14

We might have to get some fans but would have to get three at least to have them in the rooms we all sleep in. Reluctant to give them 200 for this dump and then leave them 90 quid's worth of fans! There's a large locked cupboard we weren't given key to. Can't help thinking if there's stuff in there that they don't want us to use. Like fans, knives, a beach umbrella that works and cool bags and stuff. They must have that stuff.

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TealStar · 27/08/2017 10:21

I can't bear those kind of holidays. We once spent a week at the end of August in a villa in Spain which had no air con so we were all scratchy and miserable by the end! All we could do was wallow in the pool all day (sounds great but ultimately boring) as it was too unbearable to go anywhere. The beach was packed and the sea was basically like seaweed soup.
Now we go to cooler climates or visit the med in the spring!

Not much help, sorry OP. But you have my sympathies. It wouldn't be at all unreasonable of you to pack up and go home early Grin.

NormaSmuff · 27/08/2017 10:24

Another time try going later or earlier in the year so the heat is more bearable?

Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 10:29

Thanks, tbh I was prepared for it not to be v relaxing. It was always going to be self catering for a family of five. Not easy keeping everybody supplied with food and cold drinks and keeping the villa vaguely clean and tidy but it just tips it over in to miserable when the place you're staying in uncomfortable. Sigh. I wouldn't come back any time of year but suspect they only come in spring or autumn themselves.

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Alittlepotofrosie · 27/08/2017 10:31

How ungrateful are you? A week in a villa in southern Spain would probably cost you over £1000 at this time of year.

What did you expect for £200!?

AuntyElle · 27/08/2017 10:37

Sounds very disappointing, OP.
And frustrating that your MIL didn't give you more of a heads up. Coping with all that with kids is far trickier. Flowers

Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 10:54

I think if she'd been straight with us and said 'look we've let the place go a bit, there's no aircon and this, this and this, don't work very well, it's a built up area but I'll let you have it for €200' we'd have said thanks but no. I perhaps naively expected that she was letting her nephew have her lovely villa for free/expenses only. I was incredibly grateful and told her so. I thought it would be rentable as my MIL said they used to rent it but stopped cos people didn't treat it very well. It's not a £1000 a week villa. It would be illegal to rent it on the open market for any money and anyone paying for it, other than a relative, would be complaining/reporting them.

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Schvitzing · 27/08/2017 11:13

Sounds horrid. The piles of dirty washing up is on MIL though.

NormaSmuff · 27/08/2017 11:13

It was cheap, for a holiday in the sun for 5

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 27/08/2017 11:19

If you end up buying fans, keep the receipts and deduct that amount from the 200 euros, hand a photo of the receipts over with the balance in money.
Sometimes it's really not worth trying to get a cheap deal from family/friends because they just create more problems than if it was done properly.

metalmum15 · 27/08/2017 11:21

Be very careful you don't bring the bed bugs back with you in clothes, suitcases etc. They're extremely difficult to get rid of if you get an infestation 😐

JacquesHammer · 27/08/2017 11:23

What did you expect for £200!?

Probably items in basic working order and not to have to sort out mess left from people's previous holidays.

Don't bother giving the money OP, call it wages

Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 11:25

I'm guessing that MIL thought it was going to be cleaned and the bed sheets were meant to be washed by a cleaner. It's not like her to have done that otherwise.

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Fianceechickie · 27/08/2017 11:27

Oh God metalmum are they? We can't see them? I just think it's bed bugs cos DH bites are smaller than our midge bites and in patterns loads of them on his ankles and feet. I googled it and it looks like the pics on google. There were mattress covers but they were all in the dirty washing left after previous stay.

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gamerchick · 27/08/2017 11:28

Bedbugs? There are bedbugs? The beasties that like to travel home with you in your luggage and infest your house?

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