Is my brother being unreasonable by not collecting his daughter

[Sophia23x]

I don't think he is. Basically my brother works 7 days a week and has a one year old daughter about 250 miles away who he sees for a week every month (he has her down here) as he is working, I went down to collect my niece from her mum about a week ago for the usual week up here. Her mum was very polite when I collected her, no issues.

So my brother gets in to an argument with his daughters mother over text, she started accusing my brother of having the daughter around women and not caring for her properly which was of course not true. I was there the whole time as I was caring for my niece whilst he was working. She then demanded the return of her daughter and my brother told her if she wanted her home 5 days early she would have to collect her herself.

Then my brother gets a phone call from work saying someone had accused him of kidnap by leaving a voicemail on the work phone. She told him this was her and she had also called the police but decided not to proceed further with the call to the police (probably because she didn't want to get done for wasting police time) my brothers work took this seriously and called him in for a meeting about the allegation. He was understandably very upset (I've checked the texts and he has done no wrong, he tries to ignore her but she doesn't let it be, she is insane I'm sure) he then tells me to drop his daughter back to his mum because he's fed up of the drama and allegations.

I dropped her back at her house (bloody 5 hour drive) she tried inviting me in to "talk" I said no and that I just wanted to get home and I was not in the mood after what she accused my brother of when it did not happen, she then apologised and kept insisting I talk to her. I said no and she said whatever and went back in.

She didn't contact anyone for a few days then today my brother has demands for him to pick up their daughter because she needs "space" and "time to sort her head out" calling him all sorts of names telling him he never takes responsibility for his daughter etc

He has told her if she needs some space she will need to bring their daughter up herself because he is not collecting her due to the past allegation of kidnap

Is this unreasonable? She seems to think it is and is now causing all sorts of trouble. She thinks the world revolves around her.

Apologies if I didn't make that clear enough. The fact remains, we're not getting the full story.

Disagreeing with you, you mean? So back to my point then. Easier to make digs and throw accusations when someone disagrees with you.

We never get the full story. Even when its the mother posting. You can only comment on whats here. Filling in gaps and making stuff up isnt helping. Its just making stuff up and irrelevant.

If you only give advice or comment when you hear both sides and get the full story, you cant comment on anything in here.

You can only go on what the op posts.

You're not even making sense now. I haven't made anything up. I'm not filling gaps. In fact, I'm the one pointing out we don't have all the information.

You are saying we dont have the whole story. Its possible we do.

Its what the Op gave us.

This thread isnt about us. If you dont like people disagreeing with you just ignore them. Dont throw baseless, made up accusations.

I am going out now. I hope the Op gets more some support and advice. I hope the mother gets some support too. Though i think the Op was right not to go into the house.

Actually the OP has disappeared from the thread so we're not going to get any more details. That's why we're all just making up our own spin on things.

The only thing that is clear is that it's a very bad situation for a young child and SS are probably involved or soon will be.

Though i think the Op was right not to go into the house

Yes, me too. OP your DB does need to get this sorted through a court. If she is prepared to make allegations about sexual assault and kidnap, demand that he brings his daughter home NOW and then demands that he takes her away again NOW, this is not about the child, it is about punishing and manipulating him (and we do not know why she feels so bitter towards him of course - maybe he was an utter shit to her) and there is no point trying to reason or engage with that kind of attitude and behaviour outwith the proper legal channels.

What order do you think the court can make?