Neighbours moved out without saying goodbye

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Our neighbours appear to have packed their stuff into a removal van and moved out today... Is it weird that they didn't pop round to say bye or even put a note through our door? Their house has been on the market for over a year (on-off process, sales falling through, etc). So we didn't know if/when they were moving out and we didn't want to keep asking for info as we felt it wasn't our business. Equally though it would be nice to know if someone new is moving in, and also wish the old neighbours well in their future plans. We've lived next door for 1.5 years and haven't had much to do with them, just attempted a friendly "hello" now and again. They were courteous but not overly friendly. We were nice neighbours, I think! Is this rude on their part or AIBU and precious?!

Ha! My neighbour did this, after 10 years. In fact I knew nothing until I challenged a stranger in her driveway (she'd been burgled a short while before and I was trying to be vigilant) and was told she'd moved!

Have never made a point of saying goodbye to neighbours. Just because the live on the bit of land next to us does not make us friends simply neighbours.

I can't imagine hugging and crying if my neighbours move. They're grand but we're not friends.

I do think it's weird that you're making relative strangers moving quietly away all about you, OP!

I'm very close with my neighbours so I would say goodbye, especially as we have a whatsapp group! If I didn't speak to any of them at all, I would not say goodbye. I think if it means a lot to you, you could've built up a friendly rapport with them whilst they were there.

FlaviaAlba, my over the roads, who we were quite friendly with, went to kids christening etc etc, borrowed our spare cat basket when they moved, they must have moved to Australia or Outer Mongolia so were unable to return it......

Funny because I thought they were going about 5 miles away....

I wish my annoying neighbours would do that. That would be bliss.

I wish my neighbours would move, they are deeply unpleasant people.

Didn't see your post bitlost. I'm with you. Bad neighbours are an arse-ache.

@viques yes, mine only moved up the road too. If they weren't elderly I'd have been tempted to go ask for it back...

I think it's a bit odd OP.

Lots of posters on MN think you should not have any sort of friendship at all with neighbours. They must be ignored at all costs.

We had nice neighbours for 3 years, a young married couple. They knocked on the door and introduced themselves and our relationship was cordial. Took in parcels for them etc. A while ago we returned from holiday and saw the man neighbour taking black bin bags to the communal bin. He asked us if we had a nice holiday. We said having a clear out? And he laughed. They moved out the next day. Never said a word. People no longer have the capacity to disappoint me or surprise me.

To add, another neighbour has just moved out. He lived there with wife and kids for last few years. Barely knew him, just nodded when we saw them. However he knocked on the door to say goodbye, and thanked us for being nice neighbours. So, one set who we were friendlier with just left. The other set who we barely knew or saw went out of their way to say goodbye. People, they are a mystery.

My neighbour of 42 years upped and left without a goodbye.
She was ' over the back' but still.

We always chatted over the back garden and her cats often came in my house!

I think I should have had a card and flowers at the very least !

I was a nice neighbour to her parents who lived next door to me.

To be honest we have lived in our current place for three years now and have never really got past the 'hello' stage with one of our next door neighbours. It would be weird if they popped round and said goodbye if they moved out tomorrow.

I think I should have had a card and flowers at the very least !

Really Dowser?!

You think someone should have bought you flowers because they were moving out?!

YANBU MN has become a bit NM recently . Just politeness!

I don't think you're being precious. I'd pop by just to say a quick 'just to let you know I'm moving on, there'll be insert name' moving in' it doesn't need to be anything dramatic or sentimental - just friendly chit chat.
On another note, I can't believe how many people have nothing to do with their neighbours. The sense of community spirit is really dying out. I don't Have my neighbours round much but we ALWAYS speak, send cards at Christmas or share fruit/veg from the garden if we have too much. It's just being nice.

BunnyNeeded and alexkate2468 I agree, I think it's sad too! I am not giving up my friendly ways just yet

Why did it put a sad face when I said grin?! [Grin]

So they only lived there for a year and a half but put their house on the market after 6 months. Clearly didn't like the area
Wouldn't worry about it and hope the new neighbours are nice

In a triumph for the overly sociable among us, some new (owner occupier) neighbours have moved in next door - they are actually friends of a friend of ours. So all's well that ends well!

In a triumph for the overly sociable among us, some new (owner occupier) neighbours have moved in next door - they are actually friends of a friend of ours. So all's well that ends well!