to wonder if anyone really cares?

[QueenNefertitty]

The wearing of sunglasses.
Takeaway coffee.
Parenting your children in an enthusiastic manner.

Have all recently been decried (by a significant number of posters) on MN as actions undertaken PURELY to 'impress' other people, or to look cool...

Do people REALLY think that sunglasses/coffee/enthusiastic parenting are done for attention... ? Or is it just a bit of summer holiday/silly season boredom kicking in, and people fancy a scrap?

Can't work out if people are on the wind up, or genuine.

I'm 'guilty' of all three - am I to be cast out of Mumsnet forthwith?!

Apols for the TAAT X3!

You still sound like a public health hazard though

I think it's a kind of narcissism to believe that people are drinking coffee, talking to their children or wearing sunglasses AT you.

This.

Judgemental idiots like that don't realise that they are actually pissing everyone off. They'll be sat there with a sour face, eye rolling, maybe even tutting or muttering under their breath because they think your being a twat. Hypocrites.

Crosses Mumbai off the list of places to visit.

@whooo

Actually the correct reason is that performance parenting may give my child ideas that I should engage with him.

So your judging about people judging is incorrect

You still sound like a public health hazard though

as someone who managed to punch herself in the face a couple of times, and trip with her baby in her arms (no sunglasses, no wine involved, baby just rolled gently, mother got very bruised), I can't really disagree...

Performance parenting...yes

The rest? Probably not. I wear sunglasses all year round as I have really sensitive eyes.

I know Ignore, I do wish other parents wouldn't keep raising the bar!

I feel a little bad that I didn't do elfontheshelf for mine.

"Crosses Mumbai off the list of places to visit."

Oh and this one
i2.asntown.net/h3/Asian/9/indianpeople-on-top-of-train/life-of-indian-people-on-train04.jpg
AIBU to think my my neighbour is a twat for letting her dc ride on top of the train during the holidays? She is so inconsiderate and selfish.

dingo.care2.com/pictures/c2c/share/11/116/640/1164035_370.jpg AIBU to think that my dsis should not let dn play with snakes? She does it every time I visit and I think it's performance parenting, it's like she is showing off that her dc are so special as opposed to mine who would scream and run a mile when faced with snakes.

Just think that many posters live extremely sheltered lives complaining about other parents talking to their dc in certain voices. Maybe broaden your horizons just a little bit, or is judging too much fun? I just know that whenever I judge others harshly I feel actually quite negative myself. I try to keep judging to a minimum other than judging the judgers.

Enthusiastic parenting and performance parenting (which was what that thread was about) are very different things and the whole point of performance parenting is that it is deliberately done in a way that can't be ignored by anyone else in the room. It's the fact that it's so loud and takes over the room that means it does have an impact on other people.

However, sunglasses, takeaway coffee, tattoos, piercings, wearing pyjamas to watch telly and all those other entirely personal choices that regularly have Mumsnetters clutching their pearls have absolutely zero impact on anyone else and I cannot for the life of me understand why anyone in a million years could give a shit about them.

@schoolshoes

@purple I don't want to click on links. Sheltered life's, that ok you can make that judgement call, but don't worry no need to feel negative about yourself.

I'd rather be in Mumbai than listen to the peacock rubbish tbh

Wow.... interesting to see so many people agree this 'performance parenting ' claptrap is so annoying

It's not even about the dc..... it's more of a 'look at meeeee! I'm such an amazing mum/dad'

Fair enough derxa I'd also rather be there for different reasons.

Ponders if notions of pp exist in India

@derxa
Performance parenting. So annoying.
In a stately home cafe the other day:
'Look at the peacock!'
'Oh look at the cheeky peacock!
'Oh the peacock's stolen a sandwich!'
And on and on in a piercing voice...

How do you know that was for your benefit?
The degree of self-importance on here is staggering..and sadly indicative of poor self-esteem in a mass of women today.

"How do you know that was for your benefit?
The degree of self-importance on here is staggering..and sadly indicative of poor self-esteem in a mass of women today.

I have to agree with this.

Because most normal parents try to keep their voices down, and the voice of the little ones down, when they are in public to avoid bothering everybody else. Encouraging loudly little bratty to "sing the alphabet" in a restaurant whilst looking smugly around is performance parenting. It's annoying because it's LOUD and your kids are neither cute not clever. No one else is impressed.

I don't think it's indicative of low self esteem to find noisy people irritating.

Does self importance equal low self esteem then?

Lol schoolshoes.....it doesn't!

This thread is so funny.

So far sheltered life, self importance, low self esteem but honestly gov I'm not judging

I can only reply what my DS would say, you are poo poo heads.

Sunglasses?! Really?

How do you know that was for your benefit? It wasn't. The cafe was arranged in two rooms but I could hear her from the other room. It was that loud.

and sadly indicative of poor self-esteem in a mass of women today
Bloody hell

My neighbours doors and windows open, DS pissing about with hose filling up pool.

I thought out performance parenting
'Oh tiddlywinks please leave the hose alone, remember what we discussed about the importance of water and how in some countries they walk thousands of miles in bare feet to carrying drinking water back on their heads

But then I thought it was much quicker to shout will you bloody leave the hose alone

Also I've spared my lovely neighbours from thinking what utter twat I am

I wear sunglasses at night, and indoors. I might look like a twat, but I'd rather that than end up spending a week in bed ill.