To think DD may be gifted?

[Foxtrot92]

DD has always been developmentally fast but tonight she has shocked me.

DD is 12 months old and has sat on the floor and emptied a tin of 25 sharpies. She then proceeds to put all the sharpies back in the tin but deliberately putting them colour lid up. She's turning the pens in her hand the right way up and when she puts one upside down, she pulls it out and puts it the right way up.

I'm

My 5 year old has just held one of those battery powered tealights against a certain part of himself and shouted "Look at my willy light!!"

He certainly has a gift but I am not sure what for!

I'll report back next bath time wondering
Possible that ducky might be retiring to the bin though so fishy might have to step up to the plate tomorrow!

Was it Phyllis about her ds that people took photos of and had a metal car and she was looking for mares milk for him?

Your baby sounds gorgeous, OP. And to sit there, patiently arranging a tub of Sharpies so that they are all arranged in the same way, shows high levels of concentration and perseverance that will definitely stand in her in excellent stead in her developing years.

My son was desperately slow at everything; not just the sorting bricks and Sharpies but walking and talking. I got lots of sympathetic glances from other mothers. Not only was he slow off the mark but he looked like Winston Churchill for the first year. He's at Oxford now and it turns out you can't tell much in the first few years about how they're going to end up. My daughter was like yours early on and has ticked along as an average student. Just enjoy who she is safe in the knowledge it tells you nowt (or very little) about her later.

Sil could walk at 6m
I could speak in senetences at one and read properly at two
Ds managed to unlock a really complex lock system reproduceably at 8 months, and was capable of actual deception as well.

Sil is smart
I'm smart enough
Ds still can't talk at 22m. He knows almost the whole alphabet but can't speak.

I don't think any of us are gifted. Being gifted is rare

They all do different things at different times and prioritise different areas. I was exceptionally fast verbally/reading wise but also exceptionally clumsy and slow with gross motor skills (still am, sigh..)

Enjoy this wonderful time when they seem to do a new thing every day and you can see the wonder and joy at simple things - maybe she is gifted, maybe she's not, but she's learning and still has that sense of wonder and that in itself is the gift.

What did she conclude MummyJess?

I haven't a clue if it's gifted or not but I think it's cute. It's sweet how little kids like to sort things.

I'd settle for saying she is gifted at putting sharpies away tidily. You can't argue with that.

BTW My MIL pointed out quite adamantly that my DS1 ( PFG - precious first grandchild) was clearly gifted when he was TWO weeks old. 😂

Mightywease that's hilarious! He's probably going to end up running the country 😂

Don't worry I'm not hung up about it, either way we adore her and loving this stage (even though it's tiring )

I do think the concentration and time it took for DD to do what she did is definitely not what most children can do though.

Ooh yes and absolutely look up schemas! I'd never heard of them and reading about it was like a light going on. It really gave me loads of ideas for stuff to play at with him.

He likes sitting in boxes :)

You're going to regret letting her play with sharpies in a few months!

Love that you've taken the teasing in good humour, Foxtrot. You are socially gifted

What is schema?

reallybadidea . Your post made me lol.

Oh stop. You're hilarious!

This is very sweet. You are not the first to think your child is some sort of genius for doing normal things and you won't be the last.

"I do think the concentration and time it took for DD to do what she did is definitely not what most children can do though."

12 month olds can apply themselves to anything they become absorbed in. Other people's babies do the same shit - believe me.

Enjoy your baby though. Bless you.

Fox just keep on encouraging the cleverness
Dd kept putting coins in her mouth (she has a bloody gift for finding them!!) anyway taught her to put them in a money box and now she goes off and does it on her own without me prompting
I guess my point is if you show them things that may seem beyond their age they will pick it up and copy, nothing wrong with a passion for learning and can only be a good thing if you continue to praise and encourage as time goes on.

Oh god not one of these.

A schema is a set of linked activities that children use to explore the world. So a child might have an envelopment scheme and like wrapping themselves up in clothes/covering things/putting stuff in boxes etc. Or they might have a trajectory scheme and explore how things move..

Here's quite a nice summary - gives you things to use for play, etc

www.sennenpreschool.org.uk/uploads/5/4/5/9/5459458/early_years_schema2_copy.pdf

I wasn't patronising her...well maybe a little...but nicely, because I do think it's genuinely sweet and funny. I don't think she's bragging...I think she's totally in awe of her baby...which is lovely.

purpledonkey

You're so kind.

OP - you are coming across as a PFB mum. But I won't be harsh with you because if people were REALLY honest, most Mnetters were too.

You cannot determine a child's 'giftedness' on a few examples that some children do at 12 months.

You will always find that some children at 12 months can do those things too, others not, but they may be able to do things your child cannot do.

You have a curious child. That is all. By all means 'feed' her imagination, her wonder, her curiosities etc. But PLEASE don't take her down the 'Child Genius' route! Let her be a child and discover the world at her own pace and 'want'.

My DD was quite slow with a lot of milestones, not so much to be a real concern but enough to make me wonder whether she might find school a bit of a struggle.

Then at 5 she came home from school and announced that she was to get a Star certificate at the next school assembly. When I congratulated her and asked her what great thing she'd done to earn this she shrugged and said "It's my turn to get one". At that point I realised that anyone with such well-developed cynicism was going to do well in life, regardless of any exam certificates.

At 13 she's actually doing quite well at school (but won't be getting a row of 9s) - and continues to have common sense and street smarts far ahead of her mother!!

I genuinely have no idea what my children were doing at 12 months - it's such a long time ago.

Now they're teens however DD1 can do the kind of equations that make my brain hurt, DD2 can referee a conversation between her two siblings in a way that makes everyone happy, and DS3 can make his entire class laugh so much they all snort milk. ALL OF THEM.

I actually don't know which of those three talents I think is most useful.