To just stay fat.....?

[procrastinationsupremo]

I'm very overweight. I'm lucky in that I carry my weight very evenly across my body, so probably don't look as heavy as I actually am. I'm short and a size 14 in most shops and my BMI actually shows me almost in the obese range. I've always struggled a bit with my weight and lost quite a lot in my early 20s, which I kept of till my middle 30s by being pretty careful about what I ate and weighing myself regularly/cutting back when needed. In the last few years (I'm 40 next year) I just seem to have lost the willpower and have gradually put on about 2.5 stone. It doesn't seem to impact on my daily life that much, I don't get out of breath going up stairs or anything and can quite happily walk for an hour or so each day. I have a toddler and perhaps don't run about as much as some Mums, but that might be my age! My husband still seems to find me attractive.

I know I'd feel better and more confident if I lost weight and I'm pretty horrified by myself at times. I'm also really into clothes and have a wardrobe of lovely things I can't wear anymore. However, on balance, I'm just not sure I can be arsed... I have a fairly stressful job and a busy, tiring life and when I think about the energy a diet requires, let alone all the sacrifices, I just can't face it. I feel like all the nice things we do centre around food (and wine) and now that I'm too old, married and responsible to waste money on expensive clothes, go to parties or have ill-advised liaisons there just aren't that many other vices left!! WIBU to just decide to stay fat?

I quite like me as I am, HorridHenry, but thanks.

Thats alright I hope you didn't feel I was lecturing you.

OP, you already know this but if you don't make changes, you will continue to gain weight. I was the irritating person who could eat without gaining much but once I hit 40, that was over. Your metabolic rate slows down and so the same amount of food will gradually find its way on your hips and once there, will take a longer time to burn off by whatever means. Then once menopause hits, that is another steep decline. I am short too and every pound shows for me.

You should stop the inexorable slide and start to make changes now. I cut out one meal a day (the easiest one for me being breakfast), did intermittent fasting and reduced my carb intake. I still enjoy my food greatly, like on a holiday, but then cut back when I get back until the dial goes down again.

My weight fluctuates within a narrow 1-2 kg range. I don't take it for granted any more.

I've lost twenty pounds of the thirty pounds of baby weight. It's taken eight fucking months of being bloody careful.

I'm tempted to say fuck it and keep the last ten pounds.

It's so hard.

I only need to eat 1400/1500 cals to maintain my weight, never mind loose weight!

I hear ya OP.

Lose! Lose!

Argh.

Interesting about diet drinks, especially the saccharine and gut bacteria.

I drank a fair bit of diet pepsi over the summer but now feel almost sick at the thought of it so I've cut it out.

I have to say the only way I can be a healthy weight for my height is to basically eat a very healthy diet and loads of exercise.

I'm/was prediabetic and had GD when pregnant so I really need to get my priorities right - really don't want to go down the diabetes road.

Um, SunshineandSmile I'm hoping that was a crossed post?? 😂