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To be considering putting my dog down

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Bestdoggoever · 22/08/2017 16:25

Please be gentle. I just want to do what is right for him. I rehome my dog from another family a couple of years ago. When I got him he was very nervous and neglected, and would flinch a lot. He is now a confident happy dog, but due to circumstances completely beyond my control, I am moving into accommodation that will not allow him. I am very worried about rehoming him again, because of all he has been through, and because I couldn't be there to protect him if anyone tried to hurt him again. I am considering having him put down. However I am worried that I am being unduly influenced by my own past, in which my mom broke several of my bones and left me malnutritioned. I suppose I know there are fates worse than death, and I want to protect him. He is only four and my boyfriend thinks I am very wrong to be considering putting him down. But so just want what's best for him. Thank you

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rememberpurpleronnie · 22/08/2017 16:43

Sorry rehome not regime

SparklyMagpie · 22/08/2017 16:44

Funny that OnionKnight mine are too

StickThatInYourPipe · 22/08/2017 16:44

I don't know any reputable vet that would put a healthy young dog to sleep over rehoming it

Let alone reccomending it! FFS op you cannot do this!

Oswin · 22/08/2017 16:45

Where abouts are you op? We could recommend some trusted rescue centres.

I get you op. It's hard to trust anyone to look after him when you know what humans are capable of.
It seems in your head the options for him are abuse or death.
It doesn't need to be this way though honestly.

Neutrogena · 22/08/2017 16:45

Br brave and put the dear thing down OP.
But make sure you speak to the RSPCA first (if you have time)

RaspberryRuffless · 22/08/2017 16:45

You don't want to rehome him because you think you're the pest person for him? Yet you're moving to a house where you can't take him and your answer is to put him down?? Confused

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Bestdoggoever · 22/08/2017 16:46

Yeah that's exactly how I feel

And I won't be able to protect him

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IfyouseeRitaMoreno · 22/08/2017 16:46

Please don't have him put down. Why don't you post on your local Facebook to see if there is anyone. That way you could meet them beforehand to make sure they are ok.

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Bestdoggoever · 22/08/2017 16:47

Sorry that last reply was to oswin

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StickThatInYourPipe · 22/08/2017 16:47

OP where are you?

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Bestdoggoever · 22/08/2017 16:47

South east

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PacificDogwod · 22/08/2017 16:47

Of course dogs with intractable behavioural problems, but otherwise 'healthy' are put down.
And as PP who is vet said, PTS is unfortunately sometimes humaner than leaving people to dispose of their pets themselves Sad.

Dogs' Trust is a good suggesting.
They work with dogs, use behaviourists to improve problems and make dogs more adoptable.

You would of course lose him.

otterlynutty · 22/08/2017 16:47

Maybe, the vet has said they'll PTS but they're really going to take it & try and rehome themselves.

Really hope there are some vets that would do this Blush

spiderlight · 22/08/2017 16:47

Please at least speak to some reputable rescues in your area first. A good rescue will offer homechecking to find a suitable home for him and lifetime backup if he has behaviour/settling in problems or the new home cannot keep him.

bakesaleLoser · 22/08/2017 16:47

Look at it this way. Would you adopt a child, and then plan to move home, but then find out the accommodation you were moving to doesn't allow kids? (Because it's true, some houses and apartment blocks don't allow kids) Would you then just give back the child?
I think what you're planning to do is quite selfish and YABU, you took on this animal so now it's your responsibility! Find a new home and take him with you, or give him up for adoption. Cannot believe you would even consider putting him down? If he can be conditioned to living with you then I'm sure he can with another owner! Cannot believe I am even reading this post! Shock

JoshLymanJr · 22/08/2017 16:47

I would contact your local branch of RSPCA, or a local dogs trust, for advice on rehoming, rather than consider euthanising as a first option. Find out what local services can help with first. You've asked the question so are clearly feeling torn about it.

Just had a very big arguments with DP about vet's bills for our pet so am trying to save as many as I can today!

RebeccaWithTheGoodHair · 22/08/2017 16:48

RaspberryRuffless the OP knows her dog and what s/he can cope with, none of us do. Some dogs just aren't able to deal with being rehomed, they just aren't and the kindest thing to do is let them go.

However in this case the OP was asking for advice and she has taken it on board. She certainly doesn't need to be judged for asking the question.

Greyhorses · 22/08/2017 16:48

I had a dog so fearful of life and people I would have put him down before moving him. It's not always wrong.

In this circumstance though I would consider rehoming through a reputable rescue that uses foster homes instead of kennels.

sourpatchkid · 22/08/2017 16:48

Ffs - equally @Sarikiz you disgust me. Did you not read the part where OP has severe child abuse trauma? And for those who have lived traumatic lives there can be a terror that everyone is an abuser. Have some compassion!!!

Fucking hell

oP not everyone is abusive to others - you past is negatively skewing your perspective. Try to re-home him. It's far more likely he will find love than abuse. Flowers

Missb00 · 22/08/2017 16:48

Please please please don't get him put down. Where are you living? There is always someone who can help him

Missb00 · 22/08/2017 16:49

OP just seen you are south east. Please contact Kymm at south east dog rescue she will be able to help you!

agedknees · 22/08/2017 16:50

Dogs trust will take him. Our dog is a rescue dog. We are his third home, he is 5 and we have had him for 2 years.

In his first home he was starved, abused, kicked. The children in the home where allowed to pull his ears, stick things in his eyes, pull his tail.

He was in his second home only 1 week, but didn't get on with his new owners other dog.

Then we got him. At first he was hard work, wouldnt even let me brush him because he was scared of the brush.

Now, well he's a different dog. Loves being groomed,
, loves long walks, cuddles, jumps up and kisses us then jumps down.

Please rethink. Give him a chance. He's only a young dog.

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Bestdoggoever · 22/08/2017 16:50

Sour patch kid that last paragraph is what I needed to hear. Thank you

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LoislovesStewie · 22/08/2017 16:50

Please contact Dogs Trust or a local dog charity, just because he is nervous does not mean he can't be rehomed. There are animal behaviour specialists who can,through therapy help, your dog get over that . We took on an elderly labrador years ago who had really been badly treated and he was lovely. Eventually he had to be put to sleep at a ripe old as he had cancer. It was a very sad day but we knew we had given him a lot of love . Let your dog have that chance.

RebeccaWithTheGoodHair · 22/08/2017 16:50

YY to talking to a reputable rescue service but whatever you don't post on Facebook as PP advised.

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