Naming terminated baby *abortion related*

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I have a friend who is pregnant but planning to have an abortion. She feels she doesn't have a choice as her partner isn't ready and doesn't want a child yet. Despite all offerings of support from multiple people, this is the decision she has made. All find, her body her choice and I'll support her. But she plans to give the foetus a name. Our other friend thinks this is just silly. Who is BU? I don't know where I stand with it.

Whichever way you look at it, abortion is not a nice thing. For any reason.

It's a thing. Some people feel very emotional about it. Others are not. Your feelings about a foetus are just that, your feelings. It's not nice in that I doubt anyone skips merrily off to one thinking 'what a lovely way to spend an afternoon'. But any view of a foetus, from bundle-of-cells to beloved baby, is valid and entirely up to the mother.

I had an abortion and spent a long time in counselling.

After many months of counselling the counsellor advised me when I was ready to name the 'baby' write a letter to it and bury the letter. Therefore putting my grief away. Perhaps this is what has been advised or she has read somewhere.

Hi everyone. One of the lovely women on MN sent me a message about how my friend seemed reluctant. I showed my friend and she and her partner have decided to go ahead with the pregnancy.

Her boyfriend brought her a lovely bunch of flowers and has said he will support her no matter what.

Just thought I'd update and give a happy ending to the thread

Would also just like to add her partner was not coercive in her decision to originally have an abortion. She had told him this was her decision and he supported it. He didn't know she was so upset as she kept it to herself on the assumption it would Upset him to continue with the pregnancy.

In the nicest possible way- none of yiur fucking business

Lovely update!

A happy update ! I wish all three of them well.

That's lovely, thanks for updating op