AIBU, is this normal or Eeeewwww!?

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My hubs does this, my son (mid teens) does this, but as I was making a cuppa the other day and staring out the kitchen window, I also saw a roofer on the building site next door doing this too, and he was with two other male roofers ...

What do they all do? they shove their hands down their pants and rearrange their 'junk', yes, down the front! Not through the pockets!

To be fair, I've only seen hubs and son do this in the privacy of our home, but (for some unknown reason) I could not take my eyes off the roofer while he was doing it, more than once, on the roof, in front of two other roofer blokes .... that was, until the guy then tried to look like he was scratching his nose but really he was sniffing his fingers.

That's when I could watch no longer.

Am I the only one who finds this a disgusting habit? I mean, would it really be acceptable for me to be walking down the fridge aisle in Tesco one day and stop for a min to shove my hands down my pants to rearrange my flaps and re-position my panty liner, which has somehow caught half my bush in it?

Guys, do it in private, please?

It does look revolting I agree. Once I was about to step into a lift in a department store. As the door opened a bloke was playing pocket billiards - he scuttled out looking a bit shame-faced.

I got in and thankfully he disappeared into the store. For a moment I felt a bit horrified though - I wouldn't have wanted to step into the lift with him. Perhaps he felt uncomfortable and tried to have a quick re-arrange but the lift door opened a bit too soon, catching him in mid-shuffle.

Discusting when men do it in a public place.

I have caught DH doing it at home a couole if times, usually I ask if he intends to wash his hands before touchings things I have to touch as well (remote control etc).

Side note: I will remember the "hands down the pants" side of have a boy for future "boys are so much nicer to raise than girls" threads

It's absolutely disgusting.

Men seem to think this is fine to do in public. I see it on the tube in London all the time.

Another good reason to be really strict on her washing hands as soon as we come in and before eating rule. So grim to think of the handrails on the tube being covered in 1000s of cock cells.

My partner doesn't do this and if he did I'd yell at him. We saw someone do it on the bus once and my dd3 shouted out MUMMY THAT MAN IS PLAYING WITH HIS WILLY
and he got off the next stop looking horrified, probably worried he was gonna get a beating for being a peadophile.

Does it matter? As long as they're not exposing themselves or making you a sandwich what's the problem?

@Flyingflipflop yeah, it kinda matters.

I understand that loose balls have to be collected, and yeah, I have no idea what it's like to have dangly bits in my pants, but I don't really like the idea of bollock-sweat covered hands all over my kitchen and utensils.

Trust me, I know the majority of men don't wipe after peeing, and I also know how often my DS (or not often) washes. So it's not only bollock-sweat on there, it will also be piss-dribble, 'natural' juice and the odd pubic hair.

Yuk.

No thanks.

I was actually more referring to men 'adjusting' in public. I kind of covered the sweaty bollock hands in the making sandwiches comment.

Your son and his laissez faire attitude to hygiene is not a reflection of the majority of men.

I assume you weren't inviting the builder in to help prepare the eggs benedict?

@Flyingflipflop no, I'm not having the roofer in my kitchen.

I was just quite flabbergasted that he was doing it so brazenly on a roof while chatting with two other roofers! (They'd unloaded a crane full of tiles and were waiting for it to be refilled)

It was the sniffing part... Why?????
Nope, YADNBU!!!

Do women not adjust their bras (the scoop up and put back in the cup trick) in public? Not washing hands is disgusting though.

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So tomorrow invite him in for breakfast, proffer the anti bacterial hand wash stating 'Nobody wants to eat with sweaty bollock hands'!

My DH is adamant it is his right to walk around with his hand down his pants. He says "it's a comfort thing, it's what boys do" and tells me that DS will be doing it too when he's older.

I tell him you don't see me going round with my hands down my bra holding my boobs for "comfort" do you!!

@Flyingflipflop 😆😆 if they do it while roofing the next block, I'm going to go in the garden and make it quite clear I can see him!

So long as it's before we go back to work in September.

My DH does this - usually sitting in front of the telly in his pants after a shower - I think it's revolting. MIL tells me that FIL does it too - I was horrified.

@PumbletonWakeshaft let's face it, men would LOVE us to walk around with our hands on our boobies.

And yes, I've adjusted my DD (double d) puppies but always in the toilet cubicle.

I stopped doing it in the comfort of my own home when hubs (sorry, DH) kept offering to do it for me.

(I know, I married a pervert).

@Gingefringe if it's after his shower then at least it's clean!

Why don't you just say "Please don't do that"

Because any man worthy of the name would stop if asked.

Whenever there is a post like this there is inevitably subsequent posts listing things that are 'worse' than the original disgusting thing. We have dogs and our house isn't pristine, whatever, but I'm sorry, if you're touching your genitals or arse you should wash your hands, and that goes double if you're in someone else's house.

Our house is all penisy after many weeks of building works by fellas who may or may not have bothered closing the loo door before having a wee and not washing their hands. I promise I'm not listening at the door, it's a small house and I can hear everything even when doing other stuff in other rooms.

So whether you think this is 'normal' or intensely gross (I am in the latter camp) science says that you wash your hands after using the toilet. I didn't make that up.

I feel like my kettle will have to be replaced now as I don't have the option of putting it in a sinkful of boiling water. And no, I didn't eat the biscuits either after they were liberally handled.

(I got carried away with the toilet thing so I think I blocked out the part where chaps are just handling themselves in public. You're right, it's wrong and gross OP.)

my dh does it all the time, although tends not to in public at least, i think his is just habit rather than rearranging and he certainly doesn't sniff after, although ds (3) spends more time than i would like with his hands down his pants, he announces it is still there mummy, not sure where he thinks it may go but hey ho.

I have a guy at work who sort of pulls it down whenever he talks to people, think it's a nervous tic but frankly he makes me feel a bit sick and very sorry for his dick, cause that think is yanked at all day.

"but (for some unknown reason) I could not take my eyes off the roofer while he was doing it, more than once, on the roof, in front of two other roofer blokes .... that was, until the guy then tried to look like he was scratching his nose but really he was sniffing his fingers.

That's when I could watch no longer."

Not sure but I think this possibly makes you look worse than him. Couldn't take your eyes off him?! Imagine your DH was looking at a woman doing the same and imagine what the reaction would be to that excuse

I'm afraid DS is turning into a billiard player. He's 5. I tell him repeatedly. I explain. I sanction. He sleeps with a hand down there too. DH tells him, his sister tells him. All to no avail. If you have the answer, I'd love to hear it. He's been involved in a billiard match since the nappies went three years ago. Nobody's winning.

@user1471517900 I was subconsciously getting him (DH) back for going out with our host while on holiday in Crete, getting pissed as a fart and then photobombing all the young ladies in the bar. (DH is 60 this year)

He then strolled into the apartment at god knows what time and took over 90% of the bed.

You can look all you like, so long as you don't touch. My phone screensaver is a pic of Keanu Reeves, my DH's screensaver is Sandra Bullock, we've been married 21 years and still have a great sex life. So my post doesn't say what you think about me.

"Hubs" ffs

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I'm confused; was your post for this thread please?!!

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Yes. I was answering a post from someone else.