To think GCSE good results are there own reward?

[MsHarry]

It hadn't occurred to me to pay my DD for good grades this Thursday. She half jokingly mention that a friend is getting paid £100 for every A!!! DD is quite academic and could get mostly As, Bs and possibly some A judging by her work and mocks/predictions. We went out for a meal at the end of her exams, bought her a card and wrote a few words saying how proud we were of her efforts. She has a part time job and has been earning lots over the holidays so not short of cash. Had a chat with DH earlier and he laughed at the idea of giving her a cash reward. He suggested a celebratory meal and that feels about right to me too. AIBU?

I have to say I got nothing as my parents were not in a position to give me any money or even an modest gift. Coming from a family of 7 children with a father who was in ill health from mid fifties it was not an option. I later went on to university and am a teacher. It never occurred to me to receive a reward, and neither were my children given a reward, except I told them how much I loved them and how proud I am of them. All 3 have university degrees. I think there is too much emphasis on financial reward these days personally.

I bought dd a ticket for the whole weekend at Reading festival (in the past she's saved up for a day ticket) as the carrot for working hard (no stick). I know she'll feel crap if she doesn't get the results she wants/needs/is predicted & I'm too much of a softie to make her feel worse by adding in another level of failure (not getting the cash).

I was promised a kitten if I passed my 11+ - I failed, my mum gave me the kitten anyway Incidentally when I got a first then graduated from medical school there were no offers of cash (or small animals)

My family didn't give a shit. I didn't even get a card. In fact, I think my mum was off on a binge somewhere so I didn't see her for days anyway.
I really resent it. I was really upset.
Make something of your child's success, even if it's just a card and choice of their favourite meal.

As a secondary school teacher it didn't occur to me to pay for my DCs grades. I saved my money to pay for their University education. They graduated with no debt.

Very wise words JT and DD has aspirations to for Oxbridge or a Russell group uni! .What happened to polytechnics?
Bert You've reminded me, I did buy her a one day festival ticket as a GCSE well done as well as the meal, it was £60. I'm not such a tight arse after all.

JT so the £20 or so per A grade you were going to give managed to fund their university life 😳
Quite some savings account you had there turning a few hundred quid into approx £48 000.

Can't blame her for trying, I'm actually rather impressed l, wish I'd have thought of that at the time! 😂