MIL and smoking

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MIL and FIL smoke. Their fingers are stained from it and I can smell stale smoke on their breath.

It is just so normal for them.

DD is 16 months and walking. As a result they are interacting more with her and want her to spend time at their home.

AIBU to say no because of the smoke?

Ah sorry so you don't want them to see DD alone? sorry I misunderstood.

That is hard. I understand your reasons but can't think if any way to soften that message.

You have to do what feels right to you and dh.

There's no way I'd leave my child in their house.

Children should never be taken into smokers' houses. It is disgusting. There is never any excuse. You are in the right here OP.